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The Narrative Crisis of Modern Baseball
In the age of sabermetric optimization, can baseball still tell a human story?

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.

The Justice Department is wielding an expensive strategy to undermine cases brought against Donald Trump’s allies during previous administrations:
high-dollar payouts to the subjects of those investigations.

The settlements, arranged by the Justice Department, could help fuel the Trump administration narrative that the federal government had wrongly investigated or prosecuted these subjects
— even though no court has made such a determination.
And the payouts could …

DOJ’s big payouts to Trump allies could undermine past investigations
Since Trump’s return to the White House last year, the Justice Department has paid more than $8.5 million to resolve legal claims brought by allies and supporters.

Häppchen #Klimawissen: Wie bedroht die globale Erwärmung das arktische #Meereis?
Im Winter friert das #Polarmeer zu und im Sommer taut es teilweise wieder auf. Das war seit Jahrhunderten so.…

Klimawandel: Arktisches Meereis: Die Globale Erwärmung bedroht die Arktis
Der Klimawandel bedroht die Arktis: Der Rückgang des arktischen Meereises wird durch die globale Erwärmung verursacht. Er hat Auswirkungen auf die Tier- und Pflanzenwelt, die Wirtschaft und das Klima.

Un interesante estudio cuyos resultados cuestionan el paradigma de bajar impuestos para generar crecimiento económico.
https://revistaecociencias.cl/2026/04/23/reducir-impuestos-i…

How Cash App founder Bob Lee's 2023 killing fed into a narrative pushed by tech leaders like Elon Musk about SF's decline until an acquaintance was convicted (Shawn Wen/Bloomberg)
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/features/20

2026 NFL Draft overreactions: What's real, what's not after jam-packed Day 2

https://www.cbssports.com/nfl/news/2026-nfl-draft-overreactions-after-day-2/

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There are all sorts of complex practices and laws around churches, because "religious freedom" is really a minefield. It's not that the state cares about the law, but that the narrative of the US is deeply intertwined with the narrative of "religious freedom" and "escaping religious persecution." (I probably don't need to tell anyone that the people "escaping religious persecution" were some of the absolute worst humans on the planet who were not being persecuted but wanted to be free to persecute others... but I digress.)
It is not aligning with the law that matters, nor any other sort of legal justification for their authority. Authority comes from a complex memetic fabric of woven ideas. This fabric can be attacked, these threads can be pulled out, and eventually the fabric unravels and the authority collapses.
When central authority collapses, dual power institutions pick up the pieces. They replace the faltering authority. Today, as the US government is frantically burning itself down, corporations and churches are the two most developed institutions prepared to fill that void,

2026 NFL Draft overreactions: What's real, what's not after a wild first round

https://www.cbssports.com/nfl/news/nfl-draft-2026-overreactions-reality-round-1-analysis/…