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I haven’t added an example of how you implement migrations with Kitten’s¹ built-in JSDB database² yet but here’s one that I just used when renaming a field (property) in a table (JavaScript object) from “account” to “data” that illustrates the general granular approach you should take within persisted instances of JavaScript classes.
This is, of course, an advanced use case of the built-in JavaScript database that all Kitten apps have.
Kitten is simple for simple use cases. So ch…

Jakobi Meyers ready to play Week 1 for Raiders following trade request: 'I asked, they said no' https://www.nfl.com/news/jakobi-meyers-ready-to-play-week-1-for-raiders-following-trade-request-i-asked-they-said-no…

The US is set to raise the number of military vessels deployed near Venezuela to eight this week,
which Maduro described as
“the greatest threat that has been seen on our continent in the last 100 years.”
Following an authorization by Trump to use military force against Latin American drug cartels,
the Associated Press and CBS News report that “the US Navy now has two Aegis guided-missile destroyers — the USS Gravelyand the USS Jason Dunham — in the Caribbean,
a…

Maduro Says US Pointing '1,200 Missiles' at Venezuela After Trump Sends More Warships | Common Dreams
In a press conference on Monday, Venezuelan President Nicolás Maduro said the US has "1,200 missiles" pointed at the country after Trump sent more warships. One US defense official said Trump is gearing up for "Noriega part two," suggesting regime change.

Is cheese secretly fueling your nightmares? Science weighs in #AnimalRights

Is cheese secretly fueling your nightmares? Science weighs in
Over a thousand students revealed a striking link between lactose intolerance and nightmare-filled nights, hinting that midnight stomach turmoil from dairy can invade dreams. Researchers suggest simple diet tweaks—especially ditching late-night cheese—could turn scary sleep into sweet rest, though more experiments are needed to decode the gut-dream connection.

@… Just wanted to let you know that Captain Hikaru Sulu is currently making a guest appearance in our Lost Era Star Trek TTRPG. He came up as one of three persons, unusually interested in the ongoings of the court-martial for following orders (read: being framed) of the First Officer of our unit, the USS Sato. 😀

Since St George was born in Turkey, died in Palestine and never set foot on Britain I find all of his flags going up around the UK a bit strange but am fine with it really. A nice international symbol of unity with all the other countries with him as their patron saint (Aragon, Catalonia, Georgia, Lithuania, Palestine, Portugal, Germany, Greece, Moscow, Istanbul, Genoa and Venice).
My worry is that in a year there will be really tatty flags everywhere, filling the air with microplastic…

How popular media gets love wrong
Okay, so what exactly are the details of the "engineered" model of love from my previous post? I'll try to summarize my thoughts and the experiences they're built on.
1. "Love" can be be thought of like a mechanism that's built by two (or more) people. In this case, no single person can build the thing alone, to work it needs contributions from multiple people (I suppose self-love might be an exception to that). In any case, the builders can intentionally choose how they build (and maintain) the mechanism, they can build it differently to suit their particular needs/wants, and they will need to maintain and repair it over time to keep it running. It may need winding, or fuel, or charging plus oil changes and bolt-tightening, etc.
2. Any two (or more) people can choose to start building love between them at any time. No need to "find your soulmate" or "wait for the right person." Now the caveat is that the mechanism is difficult to build and requires lots of cooperation, so there might indeed be "wrong people" to try to build love with. People in general might experience more failures than successes. The key component is slowly-escalating shared commitment to the project, which is negotiated between the partners so that neither one feels like they've been left to do all the work themselves. Since it's a big scary project though, it's very easy to decide it's too hard and give up, and so the builders need to encourage each other and pace themselves. The project can only succeed if there's mutual commitment, and that will certainly require compromise (sometimes even sacrifice, though not always). If the mechanism works well, the benefits (companionship; encouragement; praise; loving sex; hugs; etc.) will be well worth the compromises you make to build it, but this isn't always the case.
3. The mechanism is prone to falling apart if not maintained. In my view, the "fire" and "appeal" models of love don't adequately convey the need for this maintenance and lead to a lot of under-maintained relationships many of which fall apart. You'll need to do things together that make you happy, do things that make your partner happy (in some cases even if they annoy you, but never in a transactional or box-checking way), spend time with shared attention, spend time alone and/or apart, reassure each other through words (or deeds) of mutual beliefs (especially your continued commitment to the relationship), do things that comfort and/or excite each other physically (anywhere from hugs to hand-holding to sex) and probably other things I'm not thinking of. Not *every* relationship needs *all* of these maintenance techniques, but I think most will need most. Note especially that patriarchy teaches men that they don't need to bother with any of this, which harms primarily their romantic partners but secondarily them as their relationships fail due to their own (cultivated-by-patriarchy) incompetence. If a relationship evolves to a point where one person is doing all the maintenance (& improvement) work, it's been bent into a shape that no longer really qualifies as "love" in my book, and that's super unhealthy.
4. The key things to negotiate when trying to build a new love are first, how to work together in the first place, and how to be comfortable around each others' habits (or how to change those habits). Second, what level of commitment you have right now, and what how/when you want to increase that commitment. Additionally, I think it's worth checking in about what you're each putting into and getting out of the relationship, to ensure that it continues to be positive for all participants. To build a successful relationship, you need to be able to incrementally increase the level of commitment to one that you're both comfortable staying at long-term, while ensuring that for both partners, the relationship is both a net benefit and has manageable costs (those two things are not the same). Obviously it's not easy to actually have conversations about these things (congratulations if you can just talk about this stuff) because there's a huge fear of hearing an answer that you don't want to hear. I think the range of discouraging answers which actually spell doom for a relationship is smaller than people think and there's usually a reasonable "shoulder" you can fall into where things aren't on a good trajectory but could be brought back into one, but even so these conversations are scary. Still, I think only having honest conversations about these things when you're angry at each other is not a good plan. You can also try to communicate some of these things via non-conversational means, if that feels safer, and at least being aware that these are the objectives you're pursuing is probably helpful.
I'll post two more replies here about my own experiences that led me to this mental model and trying to distill this into advice, although it will take me a moment to get to those.
#relationships #love

Stealers Wheels - Stuck In The Middle With You
Well I don't know why I came here tonight,
I got the feeling that something ain't right,
I'm so scared in case I fall off my chair,
And I'm wondering how I'll get down the stairs,
Clowns to the left of me,
Jokers to the right, here I am,
Stuck in the middle with you.

Four in five developers use AI tools in their workflow in 2025
—a portion that has been rapidly growing in recent years.
That said, "trust in the accuracy of AI has fallen from 40 percent in previous years to just 29 percent this year."
The disparity between those two metrics illustrates the evolving and complex impact of AI tools like GitHub Copilot or Cursor on the profession.
There's relatively little debate among developers that the tools are or oug…

Developer survey shows trust in AI coding tools is falling as usage rises
“AI solutions that are almost right, but not quite” lead to more debugging work.

The Trump administration may have just axed the IRS Direct File program.
During a summit earlier this week, IRS Commissioner Billy Long said the free tax filing service is “gone,”
adding that “big beautiful Billy wiped that out
https://news.bloombe…

IRS Chief Says Direct File Is ‘Gone,’ Other Audit Tech Is Coming
The Biden-era IRS free filing tool, Direct File, is “gone,” IRS Commissioner Billy Long said.