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World leaders fear broader escalation after major US and Israeli attack on Iran (Le Monde)
https://www.lemonde.fr/en/international/article/2026/02/28/world-leaders-fear-broader-escalation-after-major-us-and-israeli-attack-on-iran_6750959_4.html
http://www.memeorandum.com/260228/p37#a260228p37

Like in Orbšn's Hungary, Trump's oligarchs take control of the media. There goes CNN.
CBS News and CNN staffers fear ‘disaster’ as Paramount wins Warner Bros battle
https://www.theguardian.com/media/2026/feb/27…

"Love, fear, anger and hope: how emotions influence climate action"
#Climate #ClimateChange

Love, fear, anger and hope: how emotions influence climate action
In one of England’s most deprived cities with one of the most ambitious climate targets, research shows the huge influence that emotion has on sustainability goals.

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Tessa Rose Jackson:
🎵 Fear Bangs The Drum
#NowPlaying #TessaRoseJackson
https://tessarosejackson.bandcamp.com/track/fear-bangs-the-drum-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iONUJDB9r4XZRwflcXpbR

Why the Jacksonville Jaguars Are the Playoff Team the AFC Should Fear https://insidethestar.com/why-the-jacksonville-jaguars-are-the-playoff-team-the-afc-should-fear

As salty as I am about it, there's also another way to think about this. For anyone who still has connections to folks on the right (which is perhaps unlikely for anyone on this server, I digress), the cult that has consumed them thrives on isolation and grievance.
The words "you were right" have the potential to cut through the programming and open up an opportunity for reconnection. The modern conspiratorial cult of the Right has been built partially around people who were told they were wrong or were crazy. In the vast majority of cases, they were wrong and even when they were right they completely misunderstood why, but we'll skip that for now. Liberals making fun of them (even the times when they definitely earned it) has pushed them further and further into their ideological hole.
The thing about those words, "you were right," in this context is that the way they offer reconnection also requires them to take one little step of betraying their ideology to accept them. So they must choose between maintaining allegiance to a pedophile or finally getting to feel superior after years of living in an illusion of persecution.
Under the ideology of the Right, admitting one is wrong is a weakness. It is admitting defeat. They have to "own the libs" by saying things, things that they know aren't true, in order to feel dominant. But these things are often so absurd that they end up being made fun of, feeling even more weak and pathetic, reinforcing their fear and alienation.
Offering what they're looking for can offer a way out, but only if they're willing to start to recognize the thing they've supported for what it is.
And they were right about some things. They were right that Bill Gates was a terrible person. I've had plenty of liberals defend him based on his philanthropy washing, but he's awful and always has been. The Epstein links make that blatant. They intuitively recognized him and didn't trust him, even if they were wildly off base about *how and why* he shouldn't be trusted... Even if their correct mistrust was leveraged into one of the most destructive conspiracy theories ever (vaccine denial and COVID vaccine avoidance).
They were right about Bill Clinton. He was always shady as fuck. Sure, the people who attacked him at the time turned out to be even more shady but that's not the point right now. He was connected to Epstein and that was always creepy as fuck.
And the Epstein thing was an open secret that liberals ignored for a long time. It was seen as some weird thing that right wing nutjobs believed about the Clintons. But it was true. Not all of it, and there has always been an antisemitic element to the right wing interpretation or Epstein stuff, but his whole pedophile conspiracy was always kind of real.
The whole "Illuminati"/deep state thing is a vast oversimplification, an attempt to make comprehensible an incredibly complex set of interlocking and emergent behaviors. But Epstein did very much want to remake the world, to create a new world order, and he absolutely played a part in it.
The Right wing nutjobs talked about global authoritarianism, Blackhawks flying over American cities, masked men with guns disarming and executing legal gun owners in the streets. That's all happening right now.
The "FEMA concentration camps" are not actually that far off. ICE and FEMA are sister agencies, both under DHS. I'd be more than happy to call that one "close enough" in order to hear some MAGA admit that ICE is, in fact, building concentration camps.
There was always a huge millennialist element to these things. They tended to be connected to "the antichrist." It was absurd, especially for me as someone who no longer identifies as a Christian. But I'll even acquiess that to a degree. The "the number of the Beast" is 666. That's just the sum of the Hebrew spelling of "Nero." Revelations focuses a lot on Nero coming back to life after his death. His death that involved a head wound, thus the line from Revelation 13:3:
> And I saw one of his heads as if it had been mortally wounded, and his deadly wound was healed. And all the world marveled and followed the beast.
The parallels between Trump and Nero are easy to draw, and Trump's ear wound feels pretty on-the-nose for this. I don't believe in "prophecy" in this way. I think that there are patterns, and useful patterns can become encoded in beleif systems. But I will, again, happily call this one "close enough" for anyone on that side willing to also acknowledge it. I'm happy to meet on that common ground, because anyone who accepts it must recognize that their duty is to fight against it.
A lot of these correct nuggets are embedded in a framework of religious extremism and antisemitism. The vast majority of the beliefs holding these together are wildly wrong and incredibly toxic. But by giving some room to feel validated, listened to, understood, can give some room to admit things that were wrong.
Cult de-programming starts with an opening. People have to talk through their own thoughts, hear their own inconsistencies. Guiding questions can help them untangle these things for themselves. And it all starts by having enough room to feel safe, to not feel cornered, to not feel stupid. Admitting mistakes means being vulnerable, and the MAGA cult is built on fear. It's built on exploiting vulnerability and locking it away.
De-programming takes a long time. It's not easy. It takes patience. But every person who comes out does so with a powerful perspective, a deep understanding, that can be turned back against it. The best people at getting people out of cults are former members. Some of the most dedicated antifa are former fascists who understood their mistakes and dedicate their lives to fixing them.

"It’s tough, acting. you have to walk two lines of a tightrope. there’s the all consuming fear of failure… and there’s also confidence – you have to be confident to try new things – And they fight each other all the time."
—Jessica Chastain
#acting #coaching

Gulf states have spent months trying to avoid a regional war, only to be dragged into one against their will
Gulf monarchs lived in fear of such scenes.
They scrambled to dissuade Donald Trump from attacking and to push the Islamic Republic to make a deal.
Their efforts failed
—and now the war they dreaded has come to the Middle East.
The conflict began with a wave of strikes by American and Israeli warplanes on the morning of February 28th.
Bombing cont…

My Biggest AI Fear by Hank Green
#ai

Don't fear the teardown. Be the teardown.
#39c3

"Green officials point out that voter fraud tends to be most prominent in postal ballots, and that on this occasion Labour won the postal vote."
But otherwise the article presents no data on sectoral poll shifts.
Labour anxiety and accusations after big shift in Muslim vote to Greens | Green party | The Guardian

Trump's 'Two Minutes Hate' Won't Pay the Bills (E.J. Dionne Jr/New York Times)
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/02/27/opinion/trump-state-of-the-union-fear.html
http://www.memeorandum.com/260227/p35#a260227p35

As we move into 2026, I want to be clear about where I stand. I support classic psychedelics like psilocybin, psilocin, Mescaline, LSD, and also cannabis, not because I think everyone should use them, but because I believe in the freedom of consciousness.
This isn’t a war on drugs; it’s a war on consciousness itself. The stigma surrounding psychedelics has been built and reinforced by decades of fear-based media and institutional control. Simply talking about these substances bout to s…

Ouyen may have hit the highest recorded temperature in Victoria’s history – and some fear it could get even hotter https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2026/jan/27/australian-town-ouyen-victoria-highest-recor…

One of my daughters spent 5 years in gymnastics and I cringe every time I hear a story like this, grateful that we dodged this bullet.
https://apnews.com/article/nassar-gardner-safesport-usa-gymnastics-olympics-abuse-b370cec…

AP sources: Internal dysfunction kept abuse watchdog from closing case against gymnastics coach
Young gymnasts were sounding warnings about a coach as far back as 2017. That's the same year the U.S. Center for SafeSport was created in the wake of the Larry Nassar sexual-abuse scandal. People familiar with the case involving Sean Gardner told The Associated Press he had agreed to a permanent ban from coaching early this year but the center never closed the deal. The people spoke on condition of anonymity for fear of retaliation by SafeSport and said Gardner's case got tangled in office pol…

windows has the blue screen of Death.
Linux has the black oblong of Fear.
#fear

The United States has gone to war against Iran.
America has only one ally—Israel—in this operation
(the Arab states of the Gulf, which fear the Iranian regime, are targets of Iran, but so far are not participating in the attack),
and both Washington and Jerusalem are making claims about “imminent” threats that require “preemptive” strikes.
But we should dispense with such statements:
Iran is not presenting immediate danger to the United States or Israel.
E…

Trump’s Enormous Gamble on Regime Change in Iran
A few paths to success, many to failure

'Medieval raids' — fear, uncertainty in Ukraine's Sumy Oblast border region: https://benborges.xyz/2025/12/24/medieval-raids-fear-uncertainty-in.html

USA threatens our sovereignty as it does Cuba's.
“Does it make sense, in the 21st century, for a British bank to reject a transfer of medical supplies destined for children in Havana, simply for fear of a fine from Washington?”
Fidel’s grandson tells MPs: US blockade is a humiliating assault on British independence | Morning Star

In my experience interacting with them, CEOs are all over the map as human beings — some incredible jerks, some surprisingly decent, a few truly marvelous people — but on the whole, and increasingly so as the company gets larger, they are some of the most fear-driven people I’ve ever met in my life.

Fear as senator discovers staggering true amount Trump spent on arming ICE - Raw Story
https://www.rawstory.com/heavily-armed-secret-police-force-ice-cbp-amass-144-million-weapons-stockpile/

I fear I may have to make some news since the feed is looking a bit thin today

Only weak men fear the light of transparency, like #Trump does:
Republican behind #Epstein files act responds to #Trump ‘lowlife’ taunt https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/dec/27/kentucky-republican-thomas-massie-trump-epstein-files?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

MaxMarten Chats
Each episode blends history, geopolitics, and hard commentary — from the frontlines of Ukraine to the backrooms of Western politics — revealing the patterns of fear, corruption, and courage that shape our world...
Great Australian Pods Podcast Directory: https://www.greataustralianpods.com/ma…

“Think about that: You now live in a country where volunteers deliver babies at home, in secret, off the books, because mothers fear that if they go to the hospital, they will be abducted by masked, armed agents of the state while giving birth.
This is not a hypothetical. It is your lived reality. It is America.”
https://www.

What I Saw at the Battle of Minneapolis
The national media has moved on. Minnesota is still under siege.

This is as good a time as any for a thought experiment.
You're in Nazi Germany. You know about the camps, you know what they do, you see the ash fall, you smell it. People who resist alone are killed, some are sent to the camps too. You're afraid to even talk to people about it for fear that they'll turn you in.
You think back to when the camps were being built. You had all the warning signs, but you didn't know how to interpret them. You could believe it would happen. You thought you'd have a chance to vote him out. You thought there might be another way. You thought maybe things would turn out differently if you just sat tight, kept your head down, kept yourself safe.
You see a family being dragged from their home. You know they will be killed. You want to fight, not just for them but for yourself. You opposed Hitler, and at any point you know you could be on the list... Even if you do nothing.
You wish you could rise up, shoot the SS, open the gates, fight it all. You know you aren't alone, but you don't know how to connect with the people who want the same thing.
Using the knowledge we have now, what should you have done in the preceding months and years to connect, to build a community that would open up all paths of resistance?
There were people who resisted. We know it wasn't enough.
Gun laws in Nazi Germany were very similar to US laws in that Nazis were largely free to own guns and everyone else was not. Unlike the US, where "others" have historically controlled using the fear that they might be randomly executed, Germany did codify it. Red flag laws were one more step in the US towards that codification, and there will be more.
When Nazis were taking away those guns, the social networks didn't exist to make resistance possible for most folks. But some Jews were able to resist.
It wasn't the guns that made the Warsaw Ghetto Uprising possible, though they definitely helped. The Warsaw Ghetto uprising was made possible by labor organizing in the precessing years.
If there were more uprisings like that, the Holocaust could have been stopped if not prevented. Social networks make resistance possible. Guns are only useful tools to resist authoritarianism *after* you build a community able to support that resistance, and they are only one of many tools made useful by that community.
Getting guns is easy, and not always necessary. Building community is hard. Guns won't keep you safe. Community will.
Single acts of resistance may slow the machine down, but to actually bring down a monster you need to be able to attack more than once. You need a society of resistance. If you are afraid now, build that. Talk to people while it's still safe to do so. Ask them where their red line is. Talk to neighbors. Figure out your network.
Take the steps you need now to keep your neighbors safe, to keep yourself safe.
#USPol

A Camera is considered a weapon.
Why?
Because its loaded with the ammunition Fascists fear most of all:
The Truth

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
O.G.C.:
🎵 No Fear
#OGC
https://meccaaudio.bandcamp.com/track/o-g-c-no-fear-1996

The Cleveland Plain Dealer says it has removed "writing" from some reporters' workloads; an "AI rewrite specialist" turns info gathered by reporters into drafts (Chris Quinn/Plain Dealer)
https://www.cleveland.com/news/2026/02/jo…

Journalism schools are teaching fear of the future: Letter from the Editor
Journalism schools lag in teaching AI, crucial for modern reporting, which aids in efficient news gathering and frees reporters for fieldwork.

Republicans fear their MAGA base. Like, they're not afraid of Trump - they're afraid of his *supporters*.
I don't see Democrats ever being anything other than collaborators until they fear their base as well.

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/07/600-week-buys-freedom-fear/613972/?gift=7dKtnNrILXcLLty1b9gh3v55Ifcy-zz6-SVLZ4NDiZw

$600 a Week Buys Freedom From Fear
An extra $600 a week buys freedom from fear.

In der türkischen Provinz #Konya bedrohen immer mehr #Sinkholes die #Landwirtschaft.
Sinkende #Grundwasserpiegel

‘I live in constant fear’: surge in giant sinkholes threatens Turkey’s farmers
Falling groundwater, extreme heat and water-intensive farming are accelerating land collapse, forcing a rethink in agricultural practices

Exclusive: Palo Alto chose not to tie China to hacking campaign for fear of retaliation from Beijing, sources say
https://www.reuters.com/world/china/palo-alto-chose-not-tie-china-hacking-campaign-fear-retaliatio…

LIVE | 3,000 km of fear: will “FLAMINGO” change the war?: https://benborges.xyz/2026/02/15/live-km-of-fear-will.html

"Reports indicate that the majority of people choosing to do this are people of color, including many Latino U.S. citizens."
US citizens are carrying passports amid ICE fears | The Week
https://theweek.com/politics/us-citizens-carrying-passports-fear-ice

This via @… deserves underlining:
The behavior you are seeing from ICE and from the Trump regime is the behavior of people who are scared.
Their bluster is fear. Their threats are fear. Their aggression is fear. Their defensiveness is fear. Their scrambling to keep their faces hidden and their actions secret is fear. Their desperate stream of liearrhea is fear. Their panic is fear.
They are acting tough, but they are not acting like people who are winning.
Keep them afraid.
https://toad.social/@wdlindsy/115866119994364893

👉🏼 If your attempts at New Year's change have stalled, never fear - all is not lost. You can always benefit from the #FreshStartEffect and give yourself another chance.
✏️ Find out more in the last post on the blog:

Demystifying #OpenTelemetry: Why You Shouldn’t Fear #Observability in Traditional Environments
https://ope…

I would like to make "zailots" happen but it's such a bad pun I fear German marketing humor broke me.

💬Readers added context they thought people might want to know…
“Europe is hurtling toward digital vassalage. Under Ursula von der Leyen, the European Commission president, EU laws to tackle tech giants have been either not applied or delayed, for fear of offending Donald Trump. Now leaked documents reveal that the European Commission plans to gut a central part of Europe’s digital rulebook. This will hurt Europe’s innovators and hand the future of Europe’s tech sovereignty to US firms.…

@… If not for fear of getting myself kicked off the plane at the last minute or something, I’d almost be tempted to click that link.

Maybe some of the people who had surrendered to despair last week, to their imagined inevitability of the Trump Gang's onslaughts, will start to recognize the power of outrage, organization, and resistance, will take to heart Rebecca Solnit's warnings against "premature surrender"—against turning legitimate fear into false certainty.

donations for the thousands of immigrant families, undocumented and otherwise, that were known to be hiding out in their homes across the metro area for fear of arrest.

2026 NFL Combine: Ansley, Ryan Smith have a plan for Dallas DBs https://www.dallascowboys.com/news/2026-nfl-combine-ansley-ryan-smith-have-a-plan-for-dallas-dbs

Merry crisis and a happy new fear!

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IST IST:
🎵 I Am The Fear
#NowPlaying #ISTIST
https://ististmusic.bandcamp.com/track/i-am-the-fear-3
https://open.spotify.com/track/5AIpqWikCdZc1c91nbjO7H

A day after part of a missile fired by the United States hit their village, landing just meters from its only medical facility,
the people of Jabo in northwestern Nigeria are in a state of shock and confusion.
Suleiman Kagara, a resident of this quiet and predominantly Muslim farming community in Tambuwal district of Sokoto state, told CNN he heard a loud blast and saw flames as a projectile flew overhead at around 10 p.m. on Thursday.
Soon after, it came crashing down, expl…

Fear and confusion in Nigerian village hit in US strike, as locals say no history of ISIS in area
A day after part of a missile fired by the United States hit their village, landing just meters from its only medical facility, the villagers of Jabo in northwest Nigeria are in a state of shock and confusion.

We haven't worked with DPX files for years, but the pipeline I built still supports them. I fear that once I remove all the `or ext == ".dpx"` parts in the code a client will pop up who doesn't use EXR files.
#VFXPipeline

Christmas means nothing for Trump, pure evil.
https://www.foxnews.com/politics/white-house-says-no-catholic-bishops-call-christmas-pause-immigration-enforcement

White House says no to Catholic bishops' call for Christmas pause in immigration enforcement
Florida Catholic bishops appealed to President Donald Trump for a Christmas pause on immigration raids, citing fear in communities during the holiday season.

Near... far... where'd I parked my car? Don't you know that my search will... go on.
I'm here... As night falls I fear.
That I'm lost and my remote won't honk.

Ihr kennt das Tieralphabet? In den USA war so ein Plakat mit Tieren von A bis Z schon vor Jahrzehnten gefühlt Pflicht in jedem Kinderzimmer. All' die Leute in den KI-Firmen sollten also damit aufgewachsen. Und trotzdem scheint das für #KI-Bildgeneratoren sehr schwierig zu sein.
Gönnt euch ein paar Schmunzler. Wie z.B. bei "B is fear" oder das Tierbild für Pinguin an.
Erzeug…

“If the question that broke McCarthyism in the 1950s was "Have you no sense of decency, sir, at long last?” then Trump’s answer today would surely be, “No, none at all.”

In that key exchange, McCarthy was accused of “reckless cruelty.” Yet, within Trump’s orbit, recklessness is a virtue. Cruelty is celebrated.

Trump’s supporters like to suggest that he is a modern-day Caesar. In truth, he more closely resembles Caligula, the cruel sadist whose motto was oderint dum metuant — “Let them hate me, as long as they fear me.”” - @…

DaVinci said, "As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.” Let your death be as good as your life.
Beyond the Taboo: Rethinking Society's Fear of Death https://wp.me/p8efU1-1t7

Beyond the Taboo: Rethinking Society's Fear of Death – Bob Mueller
Exploring the concept of a "happy death," societal taboos on dying, and advocating for the right to control our end-of-life decisions.

At 3:24 UTC tonight the LVM3-M6 should launch the first Block-2 #BlueBird satellite in India: webcasts at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNpY3wLE3nE and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwdATsLffyU from ~2:55 UTC. Astronomers fear the new satellite series because of their humongous antenna surface though AST in https://ast-science.com/connecting-the-world-while-protecting-the-skies/ claims they are mitigating the brightness - in any case numerous launches are planned: https://x.com/AST_SpaceMobile/status/2002752882454540649

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MiddayShow
Big Thief:
🎵 No Fear
#BigThief
https://raffdave.bandcamp.com/track/no-fear
https://open.spotify.com/track/0r3q5J2T2PSAkn1xkFpisa

Ik kom er net achter dat Beth Gibbons (Portishead) in 2019 meedeed aan een uitvoering van Henryk Górecki's Symphony No. 3 (Symphony of Sorrowful Songs). Echt heel mooi (vind ik).
"Gibbons is not a powerful singer in the athletic sense—she’s never going to threaten the structural integrity of a chandelier. But her grainy, sour wail, coated with streaks of dried spilled coffee and nicotine stains, strikes deep chords of clammy fear, of desperation, of vulnerability."
…

People like you
You live in a dream world
You despise the outside
And you fear the next one!
#InFlames

Lawyers at the
"Office of the Legal Adviser" at the State Department, worry they will face repercussions if they suggest the administration’s plans could break domestic or international law,
and suspect they may be evaluated based on their apparent loyalty to Donald Trump and his political vision,
not their expertise and judgment, officials said.
They noted that leadership in the office has steadily and atypically become dominated by Trump’s political appo…

Fear Of Retaliation Grips State Department Lawyers Meant To Advise On International Law
“Imagine being afraid to provide what you think is appropriate legal advice," one former attorney told HuffPost.

Cowboys facing $28 million George Pickens holdout fear https://www.sportingnews.com/us/nfl/dallas-cowboys/news/cowboys-facing-28-million-george-pickens-holdout-fear/a9a85af7a08b6c9a26091619

Fear Of Retaliation Grips State Department Lawyers Meant To Advise On International Law (Akbar Shahid Ahmed/HuffPost)
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/state-department-legal-office_n_694b590ee4b00ac998b34419
http://www.memeorandum.com/251227/p35#a251227p35

"It’s tough, acting. you have to walk two lines of a tightrope. there’s the all consuming fear of failure… and there’s also confidence – you have to be confident to try new things – And they fight each other all the time."
—Jessica Chastain
#acting #coaching

Six windows on Ukraine: Fear.: https://benborges.xyz/2025/12/10/six-windows-on-ukraine-fear.html

Polio Survivors Fear a Resurgence as Trump Adviser Suggests Scrapping Vaccine Requirement | Common Dreams
https://www.commondreams.org/news/polio-outbreak-fears-vaccine-requirement

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Tessa Rose Jackson:
🎵 Fear Bangs The Drum
#NowPlaying #TessaRoseJackson
https://tessarosejackson.bandcamp.com/track/fear-bangs-the-drum-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iONUJDB9r4XZRwflcXpbR

South Carolina doesn’t require hospitals to report when they admit patients with measles-related illnesses.
Available data shows that only 2% of the state’s measles cases have resulted in hospitalizations. Some infectious disease experts fear significant underreporting.
Some doctors say they lack information about the severity of measles complications as it spreads around them.

South Carolina Hospitals Aren’t Required to Disclose Measles-Related Admissions. That Leaves Doctors in the Dark.
Physicians across South Carolina, home to the largest measles outbreak in decades, are advising patients without the benefit of real-time data on hospitalizations due to measles-related pneumonia, brain swelling and other serious complications.

Before you head out for the weekend, don't miss today's Metacurity, which delivers developments that go beyond the usual infosec news echo chamber.
Today's items cover
--The imminent DHS shutdown will hamper US ability to respond to cyber threats,
--CISA will hold town halls on cyber incident reporting regs,
--Palo Alto removed China attribution in fear of retaliation,
--Tianfu Cup returns,
--Ring cancels partnership with Flock,
--TX AG lau…

The imminent DHS shutdown will hamper US ability to respond to cyber threats
CISA will hold town halls on cyber incident reporting regs, Palo Alto removed China attribution in fear of retaliation, Tianfu Cup returns, Ring cancels partnership with Flock, TX AG launches probe into Conduent breach, AI vibe coding platform Orchids has an unfixed flaw, much more

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.

"Antarctic penguins have radically shifted their breeding season – seemingly in response to climate change"
#Antarctic #Penguins #Climate

Nicaraguan journalists who fled their country for Costa Rica amid a press freedom crisis say the regime's threats, harassment, and blackmail have followed them (Committee to Protect Journalists)
https://cpj.org/2026/01/they-are-hunti

‘They are hunting journalists’: Nicaragua’s covert repression tactics strike fear beyond borders - Committee to Protect Journalists
An estimated 268 Nicaraguan journalists have fled the Central American country for exile, many settling in the neighboring Costa Rica, to escape what CPJ’s research has documented to be a government-backed system of political repression and judicial harassment against media outlets that often prevents journalists, fearing for their families, from reporting the truth. Yet for...

https://www.instagram.com/p/DSbtXuCCe9Y/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Japan Daily on Instagram: "Marty Friedman, an American musician based in Japan, visited a junior high school in Chiba at an event organized by local police to promote coexistence with foreigners. Speaking to first-year students, he said that 99.9% of foreigners who come to Japan are not dangerous and are often eager to communicate with Japanese people. He encouraged students to learn foreign languages and approach others without fear. Friedman also shared a personal story about forgetting his wallet in Japan, highlighting the country’s honesty. The event aimed to help young people understand cultural differences as foreign visitors and workers increase. Learning with empathy can reduce tension and improve everyday interactions. Source:TOKYO NP"
2,062 likes, 113 comments - japandaily_jp on December 18, 2025: "Marty Friedman, an American musician based in Japan, visited a junior high school in Chiba at an event organized by local police to promote coexistence with foreigners. Speaking to first-year students, he said that 99.9% of foreigners who come to Japan are not dangerous and are often eager to communicate with Japanese people. He encouraged students to learn foreign languages and approach others without fear. Friedman also shar…

Ethan Mollick makes a good point on BlueSky:
I understand the fear and anger. But also:
1) It is connected to the belief that AI is fake and going to vanish, which means that critics who should be helping shape AI use through policy and collective work are sitting it out
2) Lumping all AI criticism/talk into us vs. "tech bros" doesn't help
#AI

Ethan Mollick (@emollick.bsky.social)
I understand the fear and anger. But also: 1) It is connected to the belief that AI is fake and going to vanish, which means that critics who should be helping shape AI use through policy and collective work are sitting it out 2) Lumping all AI criticism/talk into us vs. "tech bros" doesn't help [contains quote post or other embedded content]

Immigration officers fear Trump just doomed their jobs: 'We lost all trust' - Raw Story
https://www.rawstory.com/immigration-crackdown-minneapolis/

The #Washington #Post has consistently produced high-quality, news cycle-leading reporting over the first year of Donald Trump’s chaotic and unpredictable second administration.
But that work has been produced under a cloud of uncertainty and rumors of widespread

Please watch their charming video! Watch, and look at the faces: kids of many races and many genders, all different levels of knowledge, every one of them showing this deep-seated sense of agency and ownership about science and about their own learning: “I belong here. This is for me.” It’s everything the fascists fear.
Full disclosure: my kid is one of the kids in the program (but not in the video, sorry!). I can thus vouch for this fundraiser with extra confidence.
https://vimeo.com/1152657185
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🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #SonicReducer
Kaleidoscope:
🎵 Cities of Fear
#Kaleidoscope
https://lavidaesunmus.bandcamp.com/album/cities-of-fear

"I am a Hispanic American and a United States citizen by birth who believes deeply in the foundational tenets of this nation.
But for the first time in my 42 years, I live in fear.
Fear that I’ll be stopped because I look the way I look
or because I was overheard speaking Spanish to my wife or son — both American citizens."

Opinion | American Citizens Are Living in Fear
Readers share their anxieties over the aggressive tactics of ICE agents. Also: Undermining the Fed’s stability; one reader’s Trump quiz.

Trump Allies and Officials Fear Blowback From Powell Probe (Wall Street Journal)
https://www.wsj.com/politics/policy/trump-allies-and-officials-fear-blowback-from-powell-probe-ad5fe594
http://www.memeorandum.com/260113/p13#a260113p13

"Hindered by fear": CBS producer paints picture of Bari Weiss' "vision" in resignation letter - Salon.com
https://www.salon.com/2026/02/12/hindered-by-fear-cbs-producer-paints-picture-of-bari-weiss-vision-in-resignation-letter/

"So it’s not enough to equate Trump’s legions to the Gestapo or the Klan. (I’ve done both.) He also is the 21st-century version of Attila or Genghis Khan, heading a horde that is defined by an exterminationist loathing of cities and all that they stand for and promote. Their diversity, their toleration, their culture, their solidarity across racial and other lines—all are threats to the horde’s and its ruler’s autocratic monoculture. On the streets, the horde’s loathing manifests as indifference (at least) to the loss of city dwellers’ lives.
As it is the 21st century, and as we have an 18th-century Constitution, Trump’s impulse for city sacking Š la Attila is constrained by laws and customs, but he’s plainly determined to find ways around as many of those constraints as he possibly can. Correspondingly, a good share of the fear he’s engendered all across America has an ancient pedigree: It’s the fear of the barbarians at the gates."
#USPolitics
https://prospect.org/2026/01/15/attila-genghis-khan-trump/

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Tessa Rose Jackson:
🎵 Fear Bangs The Drum
#NowPlaying #TessaRoseJackson
https://tessarosejackson.bandcamp.com/track/fear-bangs-the-drum-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iONUJDB9r4XZRwflcXpbR

"Canada may approve a new oil pipeline. First Nations fear another ‘worst-case scenario’"
#Canada #FossilFuels #Climate

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
Doves:
🎵 There Goes the Fear
#Doves
https://globalunderground.bandcamp.com/track/there-goes-the-fear-unklesounds-gu-fear-edit-part-two
https://open.spotify.com/track/08PDSyzRP2Oesu1JUFSmrC

ICE has posted a video of Santa Claus arresting immigrants.
Your government is hijacking a symbol of charity to spread fear and hate.
It’s up to all of us to defeat these twisted fascists.
https://bsky.app/profile/markjacob.bsky.social/post/3mamgebkzuk2r

Mark Jacob (@markjacob.bsky.social)
ICE has posted a video of Santa Claus arresting immigrants. Your government is hijacking a symbol of charity to spread fear and hate. it’s up to all of us to defeat these twisted fascists.

UKRAINIAN DRONE OPERATIONS – occupiers in FEAR! Ukraine develops air defense | Front Summary: https://benborges.xyz/2026/01/21/ukrainian-drone-operations-occupiers-in.html

Directed an #acting #coaching client to do a take in a way that lead to no discoveries. A blind alley or sorts, it seemed. Then another layer of rage, fear, frustration, anger, love and hate made a quick appearance. We're gonna be cooking with gas with this material.

Stephen Miller wants us to fear him | Arwa Mahdawi | The Guardian
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jan/13/stephen-miller-wants-us-to-fear-him

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #SonicReducer
The Squares:
🎵 No Fear
#TheSquares
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iiyDzj3837R8GjaDMxqPj

Republicans fear they would 'lose very badly' if Mike Lindell wins GOP primary - Alternet.org
https://www.alternet.org/minnesota-tim-walz-trump-somalians/

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Tessa Rose Jackson:
🎵 Fear Bangs The Drum
#NowPlaying #TessaRoseJackson
https://tessarosejackson.bandcamp.com/track/fear-bangs-the-drum-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iONUJDB9r4XZRwflcXpbR

Donald Trump delivered a fear-drenched rant live from the White House
This Is What Presidential Panic Looks Like
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/2025/12/what-presidential-panic-looks-like/685307/

This Is What Presidential Panic Looks Like
Donald Trump delivered a fear-drenched rant live from the White House.

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Tessa Rose Jackson:
🎵 Fear Bangs The Drum
#NowPlaying #TessaRoseJackson
https://tessarosejackson.bandcamp.com/track/fear-bangs-the-drum-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/2iONUJDB9r4XZRwflcXpbR

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
Curtis Harding:
🎵 Face Your Fear
#CurtisHarding
https://curtisharding.bandcamp.com/album/face-your-fear
https://open.spotify.com/track/1wK02f0hF4SzTSkVW9fHXo

‘I fear for my daughter’s future’: Families in Zimbabwe struggle to survive a year after Trump’s aid cuts | The Independent
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/africa/trump-climate-us-aid-zimbabwe-b2921018.html

“They took her, they took her, they took her.”
Those were some of the words Cora Muñoz, the Wilbur Cross high school assistant principal, could discern while on the phone with the guardian of one of her students.
As the caller sobbed and struggled to speak, Muñoz realized that immigration enforcement agents had detained a kid from Wilbur Cross, the high school she helps lead.
Again.
There was a reason why Muñoz was a go-to contact for the student and her guardian:

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MechanicalBreakdown
Rosetta Stone:
🎵 Don't Fear the Reaper
#RosettaStone
https://rosettastoneuk.bandcamp.com/track/dont-fear-the-reaper
https://open.spotify.com/track/6VZrQCkNN1slqbiCrO7Zru

“Even though AI might not be at the point where it will overtake all these entry-level jobs now,
by the time I graduate, it likely will,” Mathew Ramirez said.
Ramirez is not alone in reshaping his career out of anxiety over AI.
As students like him are reconsidering their majors over concerns that AI may disrupt their employment prospects,
more established workers
– some with decades of experience
– are rethinking their trajectories because they’re encoun…

the ten pillars of fascism
1.The mythic past: Fascists draw on a mythical past to justify a glorious future.
2.Propaganda: Propaganda in fascist politics often operates through inflammatory speech, stirring hostility and manipulating emotions, and displacing reasoned public debate with fear and division.
3.Anti-intellectual: Fascist politics attacks education, expertise, and language, weakening the tools necessary for informed public debate and leaving power and group ident…

How Fascism Works - Wikipedia

“You cannot lead a congregation while directing an agency whose actions have cost lives and inflicted fear in our communities,”
#Levy #Armstrong said.
“When officials protect armed agents,
repeatedly refuse meaningful investigation into killings like Renee Good’s,
and signal they may pursue peacef…

It Seems White House Used AI to Edit Photo of ICE Protester’s Arrest
Two Black women were arrested for a protest at a church in Minneapolis. Trump’s team is now making a mockery of them.

Christian nationalist pastor says that wives must submit to their husbands
with "a sense of fear, and trembling, and awe ...
not only in things she agrees with, but in everything":
"She belongs to him. He owns her."
https://bsky.app/profile/rightwingwatc…

Right Wing Watch (@rightwingwatch.bsky.social)
Christian nationalist pastor says that wives must submit to their husbands with "a sense of fear, and trembling, and awe ... not only in things she agrees with, but in everything": "She belongs to him. He owns her."

This 5 year old boy is the
"Worst of the Worst"
this criminal regime wants you to fear
https://bsky.app/profile/rileytchiweenie2.bsky.social/post/3mczrolmq3k27

RileyTChiweeieT14381 (@rileytchiweenie2.bsky.social)
This 4 yr old was forced into an #ICE vehicle in Columbia Heights at 46th & Polk. This is the "worst of the worst" they claim they're taking "off the streets." #TrumpsFacistUSA #WakeUpAmerica #FakeChristians @deptofwar.bsky.social @jd-vance-1.bsky.social @whitehouse-47.bsky.social