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My grandfather would be extremely disappointed were he still around
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/12/world/canada/neilson-jersey-milk-discontinued.html

A Beloved Canadian Chocolate Bar Disappears From the Market
Neilson Jersey Milk may be the latest victim of multinational food companies’ strategy of promoting their global brands over domestic ones.

@… Not necessarily used as a term of endearment, “bedstefar”, which would literally translate to “best father” is the common term to encompass both of these. Like grandfather in English.

This is husband's and my first fathers day without any of our father figures still living.
Husband's father died last September. My grandfather, who with my grandmother raised me, died years ago. As did my father.
So, my father in law became my "Dad" too and for many decades he was only one we could call on fathers day.
It will be sad and strange not making the video call to him today. He was a darling man, and although his last few years were somewhat blu…

Allentown grandfather's family was told he died in ICE custody. Then they learned he's alive -- in a hospital in Guatemala, they say (Morning Call)
https://www.mcall.com/2025/07/18/luis-leon-allentown-grandfather-ice-guatemala/
http://www.memeorandum.com/250719/p33#a250719p33

Just finished listening to all my 45 rpm singles.
I got most of them when my grandfather died.
I'm not a big fan of singles - too much walking back and forth to the player to change #records.
As far as I'm aware, my granddad didn't listen to any of these.
He was a #record

@… I grew up with my grandfather taking me for long walks around my mother’s home town (Świnoujście, Germany pre-war, Poland post-war, where he and his family were resettled from former Poland now Belarus).
He could point to every building the army had occupied, the city hospital, which locals were not permitted to use. The beach, which was raked with…

Refugees, intergenerational trauma, child death, abusive family
Also just finished "The Best We Could Do" by Thi Bui, which is the second memoir I've stumbled upon recently that deals with the Vietnamese exodus after the end of the war (House Without Walls by Ching Yeung Russel is the other one, which is written in verse, not illustrated). Bui traces more of the political landscape and history of Vietnam through the stories of both of her parents, and also unpacks a lot of intergenerational trauma, but has less focus on the boat trip out and refugee camp experience, presumably because hers were easier than Russel's.
My thoughts after reading this return repeatedly to all of the impacts that patriarchy and toxic masculinity had on her father, from setting up his father and grandfather to be abusive towards him and the women in their lives, to pushing him deep into depression when he feels unable to fulfill the role of a protective husband, ironically leaving his wife to pick up the slack and ultimately ruining their relationship, to how it teaches him to despise and shirk the caregiver role he's left with, ultimately passing on some measure of trauma to his children. For sure war, abusive family, and child death can happen in the absence of patriarchy and those are in some ways perhaps bigger factors here, but at the same time, Bui's mom copes with most of the same factors in healthier ways.
#AmReading

If Trump is your daddy, then Putin is your grandfather.

HOLY FUCK KAWAII OVERLOAD
#anime

A Kennedy Toils in Mississippi, Tracing His Grandfather's Path (Robert Draper/New York Times)
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/26/us/politics/joe-kennedy-mississippi.html
http://www.memeorandum.com/250726/p9#a250726p9

ICE secretly deported Pennsylvania grandfather, 82, after he lost his Green Card (Kelly Rissman/The Independent)
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/us-politics/ice-deported-grandpa-green-card-b2792290.html
http://www.memeorandum.com/250720/p19#a250720p19