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cora: CORA citations (1998)
Citations among papers indexed by CORA, from 1998, an early computer science research paper search engine. If a paper i cites a paper j also in this data set, then a directed edge connects i to j. (Papers not in the data set are excluded.) Self-loops may be present. The dates of these snapshots are uncertain.
This network has 23166 nodes and 91500 edges.
Tags: Informational, Citation, Unweighted

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.

Tonight at 6pm, TRU is hosting SMART for an educational presentation on the August 4th Wayne County ballot initiative. Attendance is free and open to the public.
🗺️ Westland City Hall or virtual (Zoom)
🚍 Routes 210 and 250 (exit at Warren / Nankin)
https://www.detroittransit…

March 2026 Transit Tuesday Talk: Connect Wayne County
ALL of Wayne County needs public transportation! Learn about SMART's service concepts under consideration, find out where the county is in the process of getting service expansion on the ballot. Hear from a panel of a few community leaders and riders sharing how this service expansion would benefit them. If you're dying to know how you can get involved, TRU will let you know what you can do to bring service to all of Wayne county! Afterwards, join us at Kelly's Downtown (220 S Washington Sq, La…

product_space: Atlas of Economic Complexity export network
Two networks of economic products, where a pair of products are connected if they are exported at similar rates by the same countries. The data are a projection from a bipartite network of nations and the products they export. Edges weights represent a similarity score (called "proximity"). Data based on UN Comtrade worldwide trade patterns. SITC network based on the Standard International Trade Classification and HS …

dbpedia_occupation: Person-Occupation Affiliations (DBpedia, 2016)
A bipartite network of the affiliations between notable people and occupations, as extracted from Wikipedia by the DBpedia project.
This network has 229307 nodes and 250945 edges.
Tags: Social, Affiliation, Unweighted
https://networks.s…

dbpedia_country: Person-Country Affiliations (DBpedia, 2016)
A bipartite network of the affiliations between notable people and countries of the world, as extracted from Wikipedia via the DBpedia project. Countries include former countries, empires, kingdoms, and some country-like entities.
This network has 592414 nodes and 637134 edges.
Tags: Social, Affiliation, Unweighted

terrorists_911: 9-11 terrorist network
Network of individuals and their known social associations, centered around the hijackers that carried out the September 11th, 2001 terrorist attacks. Associations extracted after-the-fact from public data. Metadata labels say which plane a person was on, if any, on 9/11.
This network has 62 nodes and 152 edges.
Tags: Social, Offline, Unweighted, Metadata

internet_top_pop: Internet topology (PoP level) (1969-2012)
Assorted snapshots of internet graph at the Point of Presence (PoP) level (which lies between the IP and AS levels), collected from around the world and at various times. The earliest snapshots are for ARPANET (1969-1972), with a few more from pre-2000. Most are from 2006 onward. Metadata include link type or speed, longitudes, and latitudes of nodes, URL, and date of record.
This network has 61 nodes and 89 edges.

faculty_hiring_us: Faculty hiring networks in the US (2022)
Networks of faculty hiring for all PhD-granting US universities over the decade 2011–2020. Each node is a PhD-granting institution, and a directed edge (i,j) indicates that a person received their PhD from node i and was tenure-track faculty at node j during time of collection (2011-2020). This dataset is divided into separate networks for all 107 fields, as well as aggregate networks for 8 domains, and an overall network for …

college_freshmen: Dutch college freshman (1995)
A small network of friendships among freshmen at Dutch College in 1994-1995. Friendship ties were surveyed at 7 different times over the year, and each edge is timestamped. The direction of an edge indicates that person i named person j, and the edge weight represents their level of friendship, ranging from -1 (risk of conflict) to 3 (best friend).
This network has 32 nodes and 3062 edges.
Tags: Social, Offline, Weighted, Tim…