Tootfinder

#photography

#duolingo

Add me on Signal! catsalad.99 :3
https://signal.me/#eu/1zLXs12SNbkQc9bidJ-egwTFiVYYErrusEBCH3kZWmGdMbMBg1pM_5uoTnO3RtYE

How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love

Yeah, call me a fucking baby anarchist, I don’t give a shit, because that’s exactly what I am. But don’t you dare shit on me just because I chose to watch a clip from Noam Chomsky.
Rudolf Rocker is the one who really inspires me, not Chomsky, so don’t fucking trash me just for watching a clip from Chomsky.
You do you and I’ll do me. Cool? Cool.
#Anarchism

Who are the best flat ground Mario Kart World drivers out there right now? I know the speedrunning community will be all over the game, but I’m curious about what folks are doing with the new ways of tricking.

@… 💚

@…

I Want to Love Linux. It Doesn’t Love Me Back: Post 4 – Wayland Is Growing Up. And Now We Don’t Have a Choice
https://fireborn.mataroa.blog/blog/i-want-to-love-linux-it-doesnt-love-me-back-p…

Raining Symphony 🎷
雨奏鸣曲 🎷
📷 Pentax MX
🎞️Fomapan 400 Action
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

I think this is a really good post on the cost of AI from my friend.
I'm anti-AI but I do think I need to better understand how it works and how others use it or I can't really contribute to the conversation.
AI might be able to make you more "efficient" but if you don't care about the content you make no one else will either.

I've updated my “TIL: What to Do If a Beryl AX Can’t Connect to a Wi-Fi” because a while ago I realized that choosing DFS channels for 5 GHz make the booting take more than 5 minutes.
https://hynek.me/til/beryl-ax-captive-portal/

Que esa técnica funcione realmente implica que tu antebrazo se tiene que alargar o acortar cuando engordas o adelgazas respectivamente.
Re: https://x.com/fangirlcntitulo/status/1939082825086664914

Le Mot (@WordleFR) #1266 6/6
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https://wordle.louan.me

Saw this at the train station. First thought was "how odd: a socialist message on a billboard". Then I saw the bottom right corner.

"Murdered by pirates is good."

It strikes me as strange that TSA requires me to carry-on, rather than check-in, my LiOn batteries, which have aggregate energy on par with a hand grenade, while forcing me to check-in a six ounce tube of toothpaste.
(I can understand the LiOn policy but I have less understanding of the 3oz liquid/gel policy.)

I can officially say Skyrim has finally gotten its hold on me. It’s an open-world game and I have never taken the time to fully engulf myself into it.
You can literally go anywhere and do anything. I see what all the hype for it is all about.

Encountered: small (8-10yo*) human* of indeterminate race and gender, with bicycle.
I am walking the dog.
SH: [fondling rock retrieved from pocket] do you want some obsidian? It's free
Me: no thank you! It's cool stuff, isn't it.
SH: you have a weird looking dog.
Me: uh, yeah! He's a total sweetheart though.
SH: Did you know if you look at a dog's smile for a long time you'll be paralyzed?
Me: I did not know that!
*In retr…

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #Early
U2:
🎵 Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me, Kill Me
#U2
https://gordonpike.bandcamp.com/track/hold-me-thrill-me-kiss-me-kill-me-u2-cover
https://open.spotify.com/track/5TsHqbDKaSs4ECZX0045YS

GRID: hitting many cars
In general I don't like racing games where you can damage your car and it impacts on performance. I'm not great at driving a clean race, and like to be able to graze the walls in order to get around corners when needed. You can't really do that in GRID. You have quite a lot of leeway before the damage gets too much, but a lot of that is often lost in the first corner when one of the opponents drives straight into you.

Candace Owens: France Will "Fake Kill" Their First Lady To Avoid Discovery In The Macrons' Lawsuit Against Me - Joe.My.God.
https://www.joemygod.com/2025/07/candace-owens-france-will-fake-kill-their-first-lady-to-avoid-discovery-in-the-macrons-lawsuit-against-me/

Reposting this for a colleague of mine from Edinburgh, who I know pretty well - he hosted me for 3 days in 2023 and I was impressed with him and his group. (They even took me for a walk over Arthur's Seat to a pub dinner.) 22-year-old me took an opportunity like this to study in Edinburgh and I think it worked out well.
𝗠𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗣𝗵𝗗 𝗦𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗣𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗡𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘃𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗨𝗻𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗘𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗴𝗵.
Current openings include:
- 𝗣𝗼𝘀𝘁𝗱𝗼𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿…

❝Think! Think! What do people love? The warmth of sunshine on their skin? Fresh fruit? The smell of the top of a baby’s head? Doritos? Laughter? Joy? The feeling of being seen? No, no! These answers are all wrong. It needs to be something that you can access after the Event!❞ https://

re the The fuckity-fuck cycle -
Reminds me of the" 1950s in the United States are often characterized by a strong emphasis on conformity, particularly within the white, middle-class society. This era saw the rise of the suburbs, with mass-produced homes and consumer goods, reinforcing a sense of sameness."
via @…

A good friend of mine has the Muppet character "Beaker" as his avatar. For reasons.
He offers me advice. I offer him advice. We chat. These are #ChatsWithBeaker

Today was really a perfect “me” day, weatherwise; like 72, so, almost cold, & on the dark side of mostly cloudy with 60% of the clouds rain clouds. ❤️❤️
OTOH: on highway windows open blaring music; starts to rain
Me: I love this!
*starts to rain harder*
Me: …
*harder*
*me closing sunroof😡*

Series C, Episode 11 - Moloch
SERVALAN: All very clever, Section Leader. But now, perhaps, I should tell you something. Shortly before he died, Colonel Astrid sent me a report. What it said gave me serious doubts about your loyalty. Serious enough for me to leave precise instructions with my Supreme Command. If you persist with this treachery, this planet will be blasted into outer darkness where it belongs.
GROSE: Madam President, if your reconstituted Federation was worth a...…

A potential customer may have ghosted me but I just keep working on the project as I get spare time between other projects because it's a fun and challenging one and if they ever reply to me again then yay(?) but if not I'll just drop a new product for others if they want it.

somewhat related to @…’s post about the shortcomings of “guys” (it made me think of this at least) but sometimes I will ironically refer to my PeerTube/YouTube viewership as “nebulites” because someone who I had never seen before and was not even remotely subscribed to me reached out to tell me about this awesome video generating AI and gave me a demo script based sole…

somewhat related to @…’s post about the shortcomings of “guys” (it made me think of this at least) but sometimes I will ironically refer to my PeerTube/YouTube viewership as “nebulites” because someone who I had never seen before and was not even remotely subscribed to me reached out to tell me about this awesome video generating AI and gave me a demo script based sole…

The crazy story by @… (check their profile) reminds me of something that happened to me.
This happened about 20 years ago. I was walking outside my apartment bldg around 9 pm when I heard a woman shrieking/crying. I run over to ask what is wrong. She tells me she'd had fight with her guy, & he drove off angry with their kid in the car. Something something. …

Replaced article(s) found for stat.ME. https://arxiv.org/list/stat.ME/new
[1/1]:
- A mixture logistic model for panel data with a Markov structure
Yu-Hsiang Cheng, Tzee-Ming Huang

Kid1: I've got something I'd like to give you.
Me: What?
Kid1: ... but I can't.
Me: Huh?
Kid1: It's a sunburn.

Past me: How cool it would be to have one of these multimedia keyboards with all these extra keys.
Today's me: Why would anybody need all these extra keys? You can bind a bazillion shortcuts on the regular set.

Me : I would like to cancel my subscription
Disney : Why don't you pause it?
Me : No, I want to cancel
Disney : How about a special offer for three months?
Me : No, I want to cancel
Disney : Ok
Me : ...
Disney email : Sorry to see you go... continue your subscription?
#DisneyPlus

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Sampha:
🎵 Blood On Me
#NowPlaying #Sampha
https://celestikah.bandcamp.com/track/sampha-blood-on-me-celestikah-remix
https://open.spotify.com/track/2D9aPhceBfcp7sVIcmFMZS

@… I was just in conversation with a student in one of my classes (vocational school) who compared it to blaming video games for violent kids. It was a strained conversation... one reason I had to get something out of my system. @…

this is very cool! you can embed UV glow powder into your body and have it glow in the dark after light exposure
[cw: blood, pictures of wounds] https://bioduck.me/2025/06/03/glow-powder-cuttings/
(via @…

from my link log —
Firefox's optimized zip format: reading zip files really quickly.
https://taras.glek.net/posts/optimized-zip-format/
saved 2025-07-03

Natura Urbana V 🏡
城市自然 V 🏡
📷 Nikon FE
🎞️Ilford FP4 Plus, expired 1995
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

free webinar on patient-led research into Long Covid & ME/CFS, Wed 9 July 2025
"Patient-Led Research Fund Webinar 2025 ...
"Come see the results and latest progress from the 10 studies funded by the Patient-Led Research Fund — biomedical research projects selected by a panel of patient-researchers with both scientific expertise and lived experience of Long COVID and/or ME/CFS.
"Wednesday, July 9
10:00 am – 1:30 pm PT
1:00 pm – 4:30 pm ET"
(which I think is 6pm-9.30pm UK time)
#MECFS #LongCovid #research

Alright, time to fix the biggest issue with the Legion Go: the D-Pad. It was absolutely destroying me trying to play _Sea of Stars_ and with the power bestowed on me by my 3D printer, it _will_ be fixed.
#3dprinting #legionGo

Me: gee, i sure hope my death in the upcoming water wars is relatively painless
Fox News: ENTITLED millennial believes he DESERVES a better treatment than EVERYONE else!

"Weil Ihre Erfahrung echt ist."
Ich habe den Fehler begangen, einen Online-Kauf positiv zu bewerten.
Gerade kam eine E-Mail des beteiligten Shop-Betreibers (nicht der Verkäufer!) mit obiger Einleitung. Ihr wärt vermutlich auch auf Grund dieser Einleitung hoch motiviert, die eigene Zeit mit einer (erneuten) Bewertung zu vergeuden? Die E-Mail besteht natürlich aus reinem HTML.
Einmal im Marketing und schon scheint denen das Hirn weggebrannt zu sein.

Tonight in the other direction I found a cream-colored juveline cat was so cute but by the time I get the camera set up I was only able to get a photo of this black juvenile cat it was travelling with
#photo #photography

A few random thoughts on System Shock 2 and the game industry of today.
#Blog

If you pay me £1000, I’ll teach you crypto trading and you’ll make £10,000 in a week. DM me for more details.

Literally one of the best use cases for the Switch 2 mouse. https://www.nintendolife.com/news/2025/07/nintendo-expands-switch-onlines-snes-library-with-a-mouse-game

I've been playing for 40 years. Do I need to watch this?
Yes. https://techhub.social/@optilude/114761036513742542

Sigh...
#ai #claude

The road to #fascism is paved with people telling you to stop overreacting.
BBC News - Greenland: US tells Denmark to 'calm down' over alleged influence operation - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c…

Me: *drinking morning coffee*
Brain: So, did dinosaurs chirp like birds?
(Any paleontologists around to answer this?)

Does anyone know how to say "They're not leopards, so they *certainly* won't eat *my* face." in Thai? https://www.france24.com/en/live-news/20250729-absolute-madness-thailand-s-pet-lion-problem

Advance Wars 1 2 Reboot Camp: blasting through
AW1 2RC is a compilation of the first two Advance Wars games (not the first games in the series, mind - Famicom Wars and Game Boy Wars hold that honour) with new graphics, the war room separated out into a combined section, and a few niceties added to make the game run a bit smoother. It also has a 'casual' mode which I seem to have been enrolled on, even though I answered "no" when asked if this was my first time playing…

You'd think with how much I love and obsess over cats, I would know all their breeds, but they are all just kitties to me!
Big kitty, naked kitty, floofy kitty, orange kitty, etc. is good enough for me. :3

More of this, please. https://me.dm/@funcrunch/114751288573182357

Some people will argue that ChatGPT* was not at fault in a teen suicide, “there were obviously many other factors at play”. But consider this: if you know you can design for better understanding, and add positive friction that helps people recognize when they are being misled by synthetic text, why wouldn’t you?
*As @…

Natura Urbana V 🏡
城市自然 V 🏡
📷 Nikon FE
🎞️Ilford FP4 Plus, expired 1995
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

On a road trip with my parents and I am so excited their car has USB-C outlets.

Bikes with tiny wheels always look so weird to me. (I mean weird as a 6 foot tall adult. I rode 20" BMX bikes when I was a kid.)
Do these 20" bikes feel like riding a "normal" bike? Is it weird? Is it just me?
#biking #bikeTooter

How popular media gets love wrong
Okay, my attempt at (hopefully widely-applicable) advice about relationships based on my mental "engineering" model and how it differs from the popular "fire" and "appeal" models:
1. If you're looking for a partner, don't focus too much on external qualities, but instead ask: "Do they respect me?" "Are they interested in active consent in all aspects of our relationship?" "Are they willing to commit a little now, and open to respectfully negotiating deeper commitment?" "Are they trustworthy, and willing to trust me?" Finding your partner attractive can come *from* trusting/appreciating/respecting them, rather than vice versa.
2. If you're looking for a partner, don't wait for infatuation to start before you try building a relationship. Don't wait to "fall in love;" if you "fall" into love you could just as easily "fall" out, but if you build up love, it won't be so easy to destroy. If you're feeling lonely and want a relationship, pick someone who seems interesting and receptive in your social circles and ask if they'd like to do something with you (doesn't have to be a date at first). *Pursue active consent* at each stage (if they're not interested; ask someone else, this will be easier if you're not already infatuated). If they're judging you by the standards in point 1, this is doubly important.
3. When building a relationship, try to synchronize your levels of commitment & trust even as you're trying to deepen them, or at least try to be honest and accepting when they need to be out-of-step. Say things and do things that show your partner the things (like trust, commitment, affection, etc.) that are important in your relationship, and ask them to do the same (or ideally you don't have to ask if they're conscious of this too). Do these things not as a chore or a transaction when your partner does them, but because they're the work of building the relationship that you value for its own sake (and because you value your partner for themselves too).
4. When facing big external challenges to your commitment to a relationship, like a move, ensure that your partner has an appropriate level of commitment too, but then don't undervalue the relationship relative to other things in life. Everyone is different, but *to me*, my committed relationship has been far more rewarding than e.g., a more "successful" career would have been. Of course worth noting here that non-men are taught by our society to undervalue their careers & other aspects of their life and sacrifice everything for their partners, which is toxic. I'm not saying "don't value other things" but especially for men, *do* value romantic relationships and be prepared to make decisions that prioritize them over other things, assuming a partner who is comfortable with that commitment and willing to reciprocate.
Okay, this thread is complete for now, until I think of something else that I've missed. I hope this advice is helpful in some way (or at least not harmful). Feel free to chime in if you've got different ideas...
#relationships #love

Crosslisted article(s) found for stat.ME. https://arxiv.org/list/stat.ME/new
[1/1]:
- Physics-Informed Regression: Parameter Estimation in Parameter-Linear Nonlinear Dynamic Models
Nielsen, Jacobsen, Olson, S{\o}rensen, Engsig-Karup

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #Continent
Vis-a-Vis:
🎵 Obi Agye Me Dofo
#VisaVis
https://visavisband.bandcamp.com/album/obi-agye-me-dofo
https://open.spotify.com/track/7HydrZ0ETV67X4ZE4phoyA

Fields of Gold is the ultimate road trip song. Makes you cry so you quench your thirst.

@… I have to say, "Radicalized by decency" is just chef's kiss.

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Margo Price:
🎵 Love Me Like You Used To Do
#NowPlaying #MargoPrice
#newRelease 🆕 album
https://margoprice.bandcamp.com/track/love-me-like-you-used-to-do
https://open.spotify.com/track/28520OoA1qXG46koPHUcSG

from my link log —
AsciiDots: an esoteric programming language based on ascii art.
https://ajanse.me/asciidots/
saved 2025-08-19 https://

Having a mom who brings home this pin from work and understands me as someone who’s queer and gender-fluid had me smile.

Das Schlechte: Der Lüfter der Dockingstation geht im Zweisekundentakt an und aus.
Das Gute: Im Büro ist es so ruhig, dass ich diesen scheis* Lüfter höre.

Chestnut brown canary
Ruby throated sparrow
Sing the song, don't be long
Thrill me to the marrow
Voices of the angels
Ring around the moonlight
Asking me, said she so free
"How can you catch the sparrow?"
Lacy, lilting, leery
Losing love, lamenting
Change my life, make it right
Be my lady

The people who hate TikTok yet love YouTube Shorts. I'm convinced YouTube Shorts is the TikTok for old people. LOL

Read the image description, or zoom in to read the screen 😁 https://anticapitalist.party/@ahihi/115108834132620137

It’s taking me way longer to set up for my seminar than last time. Like 6 hours longer lol - such is my tinnitus induced sleep deprivation - despite it being a similar simple bunch of machines.
If anyone happens to be in Karlsruhe and wants to come and laugh at me / wants to offer moral support - feel free to join! 😁 This time it’s called ‘Let Sound Be Sound: Technology, Perception, and the Question of Music’. Somehow it’s my third visit to the Akademie. 🤪

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MiddayShow
Phoenix:
🎵 All Eyes on Me
#Phoenix
https://phoenixartistrys.bandcamp.com/track/all-eyes-on-me

Replaced article(s) found for stat.ME. https://arxiv.org/list/stat.ME/new
[1/1]:
- Super Ensemble Learning Using the Highly-Adaptive-Lasso
Zeyi Wang, Wenxin Zhang, Brian S Caffo, Martin Lindquist, Mark van der Laan

Over the past decade I’ve truly been struggling with the idea of human-centric design.

Putting people first is a major contributor to the climate crisis.

These days, instead, I make an effort to use the term ’universal wellbeing’.

https://axbom.com/design-for-universal-wellbeing/

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Florence & The Machine:
🎵 What The Water Gave Me
#NowPlaying #Florence #TheMachine
https://gnawledge.bandcamp.com/track/florence-and-the-machine-what-the-water-gave-me-gnotes-remix
https://open.spotify.com/track/10H6mvk1cPPTzs3IHsHSHi

Owning two Pixel phones running GrapheneOS made me both chuckle and tear up a little. It’s such an amazing operating system that I’m planning to start making monthly donations to support the project.
I had my Pixel 6a since early May 2023, but yesterday I upgraded to a Pixel 9a because the speakers and earpiece microphone on my 6a had started to fail badly, and the battery was showing its age.
I’m glad I made the upgrade, and now people can hear me clearly on the phone again.

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Something to always be aware of: Many wheelchair users can stand and move around for brief periods of time. Not all wheelchair users are paralysed. Reasons for wheelchair use are numerous and varied.

Some wheelchair users choose not to stand in public because chances are they will be chastised and harassed if they do. With more awareness and understanding this risk can hopefully diminish over time.

For example, if a wheelchair user is able to retrieve their own wheelchair from…

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MiddayShow
The Shins:
🎵 Girl Inform Me
#TheShins
https://theshins.bandcamp.com/track/girl-inform-me
https://open.spotify.com/track/1PO9sdsEu8bYm8FVGNCM5D

Replaced article(s) found for stat.ME. https://arxiv.org/list/stat.ME/new
[1/1]:
- Separate Exchangeability as Modeling Principle in Bayesian Nonparametrics
Giovanni Rebaudo, Qiaohui Lin, Peter Mueller

Have you had an "AI error in your favor" yet?
I just got done slogging through Amazon customer support chat, where while talking to the bot it promised an item was returnable within 90 days, even though it actually was only eligible for the normal 30 days policy. When I finally got through to a human, they were able to let me know why the return actually wasn't eligible, but when I quoted them what the bot had promised, they made an exception and let me do the return. I didn't even really try to push the bot to make any promises, though that should be easy.
#AI

Raining Sessions ☔️
雨 ☔️
📷 Pentax# MX
🎞️Fomapan 400 Action
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

Got a #Switch2 and I have to say I’m really enjoying it. Playing my way through #Skyrim for the first time—well I’ve played it before but never got too far. I aim to actually play it far this time.
Switch 2 feels so much more like what I feel the original Switch should’ve been. It’s an iteration …

@… This is a wise perspective. Thank you.

I fucking hate the word "embrace," being autistic. It feels so fake, like a glitchy AI word that doesn’t match how my brain works.
It makes me want to scream inside because it’s too soft, too forced, and just wrong for me. I can’t use it without feeling like I’m lying to myself.
#ActuallyAutistic

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
Sylvester:
🎵 You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)
#Sylvester
https://borgie.bandcamp.com/album/sylvester-you-make-me-feel-borgie-mighty-real-edit
https://open.spotify.com/track/0RnCUYXa7jhgTXtiMXF2PQ

@… These are really great. I've just been reading through them all. They'll be hugely useful in my ethics course. 🙏

Urban Diaspora VI 🏮
城市放逐 VI 🏮
📷 Nikon FE
🎞️Ilford FP4 Plus, expired 1994
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

When I bring up how children work in artisanal mines in DR Congo and Madagascar to harvest the minerals the rich world needs for its tech, there is one type of comment that comes up more than others:

"Yes, but the working conditions of the people making high street clothes is also awful. It's so hard to do the right thing these days."

I truly have a hard time understanding what this comment is really getting at it. It feels like it's trying to tone down the …

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
Pointed Sticks:
🎵 What Do You Want Me to Do?
#PointedSticks
https://pointedsticks.bandcamp.com/track/what-do-you-want-me-to-do-3
https://open.spotify.com/track/4YwZWMrSUHdA6geIA8d2mj

There are days when being #Autistic just feels exhausting, and the world is overwhelming in ways I can't always explain, those times really get me down.
But diving deep into my special interest always gives me relief, it calms my mind, helps me feel like myself again, and brings me real happiness when nothing else does.

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #VarietyMix
Thelma Houston:
🎵 Don't Leave Me This Way
#ThelmaHouston
https://heyaprodz.bandcamp.com/track/thelma-houston-dont-leave-me-this-way-heyaprodz-remix
https://open.spotify.com/track/4Af8yzidDPc520TFd4TmkE

City Corners 🏙️
城市角落 🏙️
📷 Minolta Hi-Matic AF
🎞️ILFORD FP4 Plus, expired 1995
buy me ☕️ ?/请我喝杯☕️？
#filmphotography

🔁 Please boost! 🔁
Yo #Austria, if anyone knows someone who owns or has a way for me to get Zoë Straub – The Acoustic Sessions, I would seriously appreciate it! It was listed on eBay, and I tried to bid, but some scumbag outbid me.

If the product encourages a teen to hide self-inflicted strangulation marks, don’t tell me “it’s just a tool” and “they’re using it wrong”.
Gift article on NYT
If you need emotional support. Find a helpline here: findahelpline.com

A hammer will not simulate sycophancy when unwell people express desires of self-harm. Claiming that ”AI” is just another neutral tool that can be used for good or bad is not only wrong and inhumane, it sanctions life-threatening risks.

@… Tack Samuel!