
2025-06-30 11:13:48
If anyone has some sorta "#gender #ideology", it's those pushing for social norms such as #conformity to "only two genders, and this is your
If anyone has some sorta "#gender #ideology", it's those pushing for social norms such as #conformity to "only two genders, and this is your
Source: David Ellison plans to "bring back a performance-based culture" to CBS, "Not quotas. Not ideology. Just objective journalism" (Financial Times)
https://www.ft.com/content/b0771100-9180-4a73-adb4-38595aa8c15c
Revolutionary syndicalism is a radical political and economic ideology that developed in the late 19th century and continued to influence the 20th century. Its central aim was to place political and economic power directly in the hands of the working class through the organized strength of trade unions, rather than through traditional parliamentary or state-centered politics.
Emerging from the intersection of Marxist critiques of capitalism and anarchist suspicions of centralized autho…
The relationship between episcopal genealogy and ideology in the Roman Catholic Church
Marta Baratto, Ivan Casanovas, Ivan Decostanzi, Henrique M. Borges, Samuel Mart\'inez Alcal\'a, Ilaria Stanzani, Alberto Antonioni, Iacopo Iacopini, Michele Re Fiorentin, Eugenio Valdano
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.22108
How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love
The 'Skrmetti' ruling proved once & for all the Supreme Court believes ideology comes before the law - LGBTQ Nation
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/06/the-skrmetti-ruling-proved-once-for-all-the-supreme-court-believes-ideology-comes-before-the-law/
How Axios rebranded conservative ideology as objectivity (Judd Legum/Popular Information)
https://popular.info/p/axios-and-the-scam-of-unbiased-journalism
http://www.memeorandum.com/250728/p26#a250728p26
Political Ideology Shifts in Large Language Models
Pietro Bernardelle, Stefano Civelli, Leon Fr\"ohling, Riccardo Lunardi, Kevin Roitero, Gianluca Demartini
https://arxiv.org/abs/2508.16013
Please don't call it "politicized science". What #RFKjr and his ilk are doing is not science. Science does not discard data that disagrees with the researchers desired outcomes.
They are purposefully ignoring and hiding any information that contradicts their beliefs. That is not science, that is censorship and lies in favor of an ideology.
Please don't call it "politicized science". What #RFKjr and his ilk are doing is not science. Science does not discard data that disagrees with the researchers desired outcomes.
They are purposefully ignoring and hiding any information that contradicts their beliefs. That is not science, that is censorship and lies in favor of an ideology.
Zionism is, and always has been, a genocidal, settler colonial project.
It is the justification for and the ideology behind the literal genocide that is being committed by Israel right now, at this very moment, against the Palestinian people. A genocide that is being live streamed in posts here and elsewhere by its victims.
To equate all Jews with Zionism, as Zionists do – in other words, to state that all Jews are genocidal settler-colonialists – is antisemitic.
(Equally, …
Trump claimed that Joe Biden had “established toxic diversity, equity and inclusion ideology as a guiding principle of American AI development”.
“But the American people do not want woke Marxist lunacy in the AI models,” Trump said
Trump told assembled industry leaders that he wants them to “change the name” of artificial intelligence
and that they should not be forced to pay the authors of articles or books they use to train their large language models
New Raiders DB Terrell Edmunds On Joining The Squad, Pete Carroll Ideology, And Learning The Playbook https://raiderramble.com/2025/08/12/new-raiders-db-terrell-edmunds-on-joining-the-squad-pete-carroll-ideolo…
Oklahoma to test teachers from New York, California to guard against 'radical leftist ideology' (Associated Press)
https://apnews.com/article/oklahoma-teacher-test-ideology-california-new-york-1d08d0ef4e6e3dc71d8537601d8455e9
http://www.memeorandum.com/250818/p152#a250818p152
Ugh, what a dumbass. https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:f7utvjkqbgwfjonqtpfcf5fu/post/3luiljxdpdc2d
And yet, this is slightly better than "we're going to deport Mamdani".. I think?
Letter from the House Democrats to the new interim #NASA administrator observing "a fringe, extremist ideology emanating from the White House Office of Management and Budget" and expressing "nothing but contempt for its goal of dismantling our nation’s space agency": https://democrats-science.house.gov/imo/media/doc/SST RM Lofgren and Foushee - Letter to Interim Administrator Duffy - FY 25 Impoundments - 7.16.25.pdf
#FuckCars as usual. Like Rage Against the Machine songs, social critiques should become less relevant not more relevant over time. This one from 1973 is far more relevant now than ever.
Cars are fundamentally reactionary, both in their purpose and in their utility to the dominant class.
https://www.resilience.org/stories/2018-08-13/the-social-ideology-of-the-motorcar/
What a great write-up of the bananas ideology currently running ( and ruining ) the world
The Psychology Behind Tech Billionaires
https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-commentary/billionaires-psychology-tech-pol…
Advice to the Players - Frank Bidart
There is something missing in our definition, vision, of a human being:
the need to make.
We are creatures who need to make.
Because existence is willy-nilly thrust into our hands, our fate is to
make something— if nothing else, the shape cut by the arc of our lives.
My parents saw corrosively the arc of their lives.
Making is the mirror in which we see ourselves...
Christofascism is a terrorist ideology.
https://mstdn.social/@jackhutton/114688196355309911
Capital and Ideology: #ThomasPiketty interview 2021 #UNSW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5Zb9Iu2wI0
British Columbians Could Enjoy Better City Elections
If the province would let them.
From Sightline Institute
In municipal elections across British Columbia, voters are stuck using bloc voting or ward voting, methods that can overrepresent one party or ideology at the expense of all others.
If not for a few lines of provincial law, local governments could adopt single transferable vote, a gold-standard form of proportional representation.
Meta CEO Mark Zuckerberg‘s recent public support for Donald Trump did not come as a shock to those who know or have closely worked with him.
Dozens of people who have either worked with or known Zuckerberg told the Financial Times that the CEO’s more public shift toward Trump is just Zuckerberg displaying the more “authentic” version of himself to the world,
even though he was once known to support liberal ideology and voiced opposition to Trump’s policies during the first admini…
Using Protected Identity to Suppress History https://jacobin.com/2025/08/israel-anti-zionism-antisemitism-education-palestine/
'the observation by Marc Dunkelman that digital technology has not obliterated our social connections but rather warped them. Americans today are in constant contact with the inner ring of family and the outer ring of "tribe"—that is, people we follow online, often because we share something in common, such as a sports allegiance or a political ideology. But the middle ring of community has atrophied. We know our online avatars better than we know our neighbors; we interact wit…
Judge sarcastically blocks Trump from cutting VAWA funds
https://lawandcrime.com/high-profile/need-not-spend-much-time-on-this-judge-sarcastically-blocks-trump-admin-from-using-gender-ideology-executive-order-to-cut-domestic-violence-prevention-funds/
Everything you already knew about MAGA voters... now with more scientific research to back it up.
✅ Trump supporters report higher levels of psychopathy, manipulativeness, callousness, and narcissism
https://www.psypost.org/trump-supporters-r…
“Under this definition of antisemitism, which absurdly conflates criticism of a nation-state, Israel, and a political ideology, Zionism, with the ancient evil of Jew-hatred, it is impossible with any honesty to teach about topics such as the history of the creation of Israel, and the ongoing Palestinian Nakba”
So, the maga-nazis go after universities because students question (as I do) the genocidal policies and acts of the government of Israel (as distinguished from the people of Israel) against Gaza.
Yet they fail to repudiate, or even question, those who clearly hate Jews and open espouse repressive measures.
And shame on Google/Alphabet/Youtube for feeding this troll who openly has profited from violations of Youtube's proclaimed (but apparently merely proclaimed but not enforc…
See, this is another problem with the chatbot bullshit. Here, an OpenAI featured chatbot is pushing extreme surgeries to 'subhuman' men saying they won't be able to find chicks no matter how much confidence they fake.
Dudes, let me tell you, this is TOTAL bullshit. I mean, if I can find a wife, ANYONE can. 😂 The incel bullshit is so sad. It's all lies, they're believing all these lies.
FASCIST-O-METER: Classifier for Neo-fascist Discourse Online
Rudy Alexandro Garrido Veliz, Martin Semmann, Chris Biemann, Seid Muhie Yimam
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.10789
The key is not allow boys to be raised by older boys, even ones who are legally adults. By the time they’re thinking about dating, they are likely to be ruined.
The problem is too much gendering in childhood. So many people are raised to think in binary gender terms compelled to conform to gender norms and believe in binary-gender ideology.
I will never run out of gratitude for being the only boy in my family for much of my childhood.
I present to you two flags: one with a smaller, centered image of Rudolf Rocker, and another where he appears a bit larger.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rudolf_Rocker
Towards Designing Social Interventions for Online Climate Change Denialism Discussions
Ruican zhong, Shruti Phadke, Beth Goldberg, Tanushree Mitra
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.06561
Elon Musk's Real Drug Problem Is Much Worse Than You Think (Jeet Heer/The Nation)
https://www.thenation.com/article/society/elon-musk-drug-use-ideology/
http://www.memeorandum.com/250602/p73#a250602p73
> fifties era Rocketship Republicanism … come back to earth to find the Overton window has moved the landing pad and it's gotta set down somewhere
— @… can turn a phrase, y'all
https://
Replaced article(s) found for econ.GN. https://arxiv.org/list/econ.GN/new
[1/1]:
- Public Support for Environmental Regulation: When Ideology Trumps Knowledge
Markus Dertwinkel-Kalt, Max R. P. Grossmann
From David Suzuki
It’s hard not to conclude that much of the world has been taken over by idiots. Sure, there have always been uninformed politicians & those who let their ideology stumble ahead of their wits. & some who seem more sociopathic than stupid, waging brutal wars & massacres with no regard for the lives, families and communities they destroy under whatever nationalistic banner they concoct to justify their actions.
Lately things seem extraordinarily stupid.…
Errol Musk, the father of U.S. billionaire Elon Musk,
has arrived in Moscow to attend the Forum of the Future 2050,
a pro-Kremlin event scheduled for June 9-10, the Russian newspaper Kommersant reported on June 8.
https://kyivindepend…
"a federal judge in Rhode Island has prohibited officials from setting new restrictions on grants issued by the Violence Against Women Act based on Trump's executive order purging the federal government of "gender ideology.""
Trump crackdown hits legal wall with new ruling - Raw Story
https://www.rawstory.com/trump-judge-2673870689/
Just your daily reminder that I stand firmly against #MarxismLeninism, and all the Tankies desperately trying to make authoritarianism cool again!
#Anarchism #Syndicalism
Stephen Miller: 'the regime must use communist tactics — enforcing correct words and correct thinking and correct values — in order to fight, wait for it, “communist ideology.”'
Party Ideologies and Political Polarization-Driven Conflicts: A Study of the Global South
Shreyansh Padarha
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.02004 https://
02:31—Good Night #Fediverse! 😴💤
I just made myself a new banner for myself, using (mostly) open source software. The only exception was that I used a random website to add an outline to my Rudolf Rocker image, I was too lazy to get out of bed and use GIMP on my PC for that step. For everything else, I used this tool from GitHub: