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Calamus 22 Passing stranger!
An absolutely smoldering poem of unfulfilled desire from a casual encounter. It is delicious for its clear and direct explication of a very complicated emotion. The hottest line:
You give me the pleasure of your eyes, face, flesh, as we pass
The poem manages to capture three things in just ten lines.
Whitman is generously pan-gender but the text still feels queer-coded to me. Specifically in how the desire is kept secret: "I am not to speak to you... I am to wait". Combined with the street-cruising scenario (a theme in previous poems) and I can definitely relate to my gay experience.

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I'm part of the Life's Booming podcast series this year, hosted by James Valentine. Martin Tobin and myself talk changing attitudes to funerals and death. Wherever you get yer podcasts, but here's Spotify. #GDEPAU #AskAnnetta

Matters of life and death - Dr Annetta Mallon & Martin Tobin
Life's Booming · Episode

Calamus 21 Music always round me
A celebration of life, the metaphor of music all around us if only you can hear it. The last line is what gives me pause, it suggests an interesting nuance of meaning.
I do not think the performers know themselves—But now I think I begin to know them.
I'm a little pressed to find a gay reading of this poem, it doesn't have the usual paeans to manly love. There is a pleasant exuberance and sensuality to it, "shuddering luciously" and all. But it's the beginning lines that really catch me:
Music always round me ... yet long untaught I did not hear,
But now the chorus I hear, and am elated,
It's like there's a secret world of pleasure that Whitman only recently has learned to enjoy himself. A feeling similar to the epiphany of coming out to oneself.

Among my very first memories of #StarWars was the marketing campaign of Episode III and the TV reruns of Episode IV 25 years ago.. it was a pleasure finally seeing this in a cinema with my friends.

Is it questionable if you get more pleasure from updating your homelab than from a vacation trip?
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A reminder for all, via Peyton Jett
When someone loves to watch other people suffer, it can point to a few different psychological possibilities—none of them especially healthy or empathetic. Here are some potential meanings behind that behavior:
1. Sadism
Definition: Getting pleasure from inflicting or witnessing pain, humiliation, or suffering in others.
This can be sexual (in consensual contexts) or non-sexual, where someone enjoys cruelty or dominance in general.…

Cycling question: trying out saddles, in the UK
UK cycling people, is there somewhere you'd go to sit on different saddles to test if they're comfortable? Is that a thing?
I've worked out that my (default came-with-the-bike) saddle isn't the right shape for me: it's giving me an achy tailbone, as well as I think being a bit too narrow for optimal sit-bone comfort.
For context, I'm an "occasional cyclist for pleasure and/or practical reasons", shall we say. No ambition to be super fast.
Looking around online, I think I want something more like the Rido R2 or one of the Selle ones, shaped to have air under the tailbone area. Or maybe even a noseless one like the Spongy Wonder, though I don't like the look of how the metal frame sticks out at the front of those.
What's the chances a shop would have more than one of those and a willingness to get them out for a test sit? Or, better still, is there a loan scheme anywhere, so you can actually "test drive" them for a bit? Or do people usually just buy and be willing to sell again?
I'm in Nottingham, and I know there are bike shops I could get to, but I'm not seeing "come in and try all these saddles, we'll help you to find the right one" kinds of messaging.
Could also potentially travel elsewhere at some point if it turns out there's some kind of "best place in the country for that question".
Advice welcome!
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