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@tarah@infosec.exchange
2024-06-14 20:40:23

So, today, a lot of folk are talking about how a very bad man named Sean Hastings has been violently threatening Adam Shostack for years and years.
 
I know Adam and think of him as a friend and we are connected professionally and personally, and of course I knew about Sean Hastings, but I was unaware that today was the day that Adam was going to finally talk about his nightmare, and he didn't ask me to say anything about my own experiences with Sean or coordinate with me on this.
 
I can't speak to Adam's experience but I do feel the need to tell people what Sean Hastings did to me.
 
The first thing Sean Hastings did to me was give me money in 2015. I didn't know him. You can actually see his name right in the front of the acknowledgements to my book on women in tech - because he contributed $500 to the 2015 Kickstarter I ran to fund it.
 
This is before I'd met Adam Shostack; Adam and I met in early 2016 when we sat on a Federal Trade Commission panel together in Seattle on startup cybersecurity. Adam's a major nerd and we bonded immediately over game design and his incorrect preference of Star Wars over Star Trek.
 
But soon, I would find out that there were strings attached to Sean's contribution. Apparently he thought that by contributing to a Kickstarter, he could turn guilt screws on me about who I could talk to, and demanded my time to help him publish books on girls in tech.
 
He began sending me harassing messages and emails after I'd probably RTed something from Adam, demanding that I pay attention to his claims about Adam Shostack. I did what any normal femme in tech does, which is go do the grey network check on Adam. In 2016, I spoke to several extremely prominent and trusted friends and members of the infosec community. The “Good Guy vs. Creeper” check on Adam came back from my folk with a resounding "Adam's the victim here". And I know some serious operators in the "keeping women in the infosec world safe" space.
 
Sean subsequently began publicly and privately bombarding my social accounts and email with demands and guilt and claiming that he was behind my success and funded me. This looked to me like a man who tries to control women and others with money, and I would wear out the red flag emoji if I tried to properly emphasize that. There's plenty more on Xitter if you want to go searching.
 
I didn't and don't want to think about this, any more than anyone else wants to think about awful things, but violent angry dangerous men like Sean do seem to operate on their own schedule, and I anticipate that Adam's public statement may trigger Sean Hastings making another outburst against me and the many other people I'm now seeing coming forward.
 
One last thing. I've experienced some of the same kinds of horrific stalker behavior that Adam and others in the community have, and while it's not relevant to this here, Adam was a profound support to me when my life was getting torn apart by two very dangerous, angry, violent people making false claims about me several years ago. He knows exactly what it feels like, because I think he's lived it for a couple of decades.
 
So, it occurs to me that I've actually continued to benefit from that $500 that Sean Hastings contributed to that Kickstarter. In my experience, it makes people apoplectic to learn that their money went to something that they hate. So, below, you'll find some screenshots, and the last image is my proof pic for a $500 donation just now to Operation: Safe Escape, which supports victims of cyber stalking and domestic tech abuse like those Sean Hastings has targeted. That makes me feel a lot better and I didn't even realize I was carrying any guilt over it until just now.
 
safeescape.org/ I strongly urge you to donate there as well if you were affected by this.

@incurablehippie@verified.mastodonmedia.xyz
2024-04-14 11:13:00

How moral injury is impacting the news industry and what you can do about it americanpressinstitute.org/how

@grifferz@social.bitfolk.com
2024-04-13 19:05:59

Lovely message from Basil's humans (used with permission as a testimonial). Harder work than a greyhound but a good experience. 😀
#ShibaInu

A screenshot of a message from a chat app reading:

Hey Andy hope you're doing well! Have been meaning to drop you a message but have been busy since being back. Thank you again for looking after Basil on our holiday! He's obviously been well taken care of and we really appreciated the peace of mind. Hope to ask for your help again in the future :)
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Photo of a Shiba Inu dog laying on a cream sofa resting his head on the knee of a human. He's staring at the human who is working on a laptop.
Photo of a Shiba Inu dog sat on a large boulder in a parkland setting. He glances off to the left with his eyues shut against the sun.

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@mcmullin@musicians.today
2024-05-13 17:24:52

My 88yo father is well along with Alzheimer’s now, and he pretty much can’t remember anything from one minute to the next. But he can sing songs and recite poems. Mostly he sticks to a handful of old favorites, but every once in a while he surprises us. A while back he started singing “Everywhere you go, sunshine follows you.” Neither my Mom nor I recognized it, so I looked it up. A delightful little song that I’m happy to have as my cheerful earworm of the day:

@anildash@me.dm
2024-05-13 14:19:58

Just a reminder: You should have your own site, with your own links, on a domain that you control. We'll give you that for free on @… (just bring your own domain) and you can set it up in a few minutes.

@cheryanne@aus.social
2024-04-14 07:00:49

So You Need an Operation - Patient Information Podcast Series
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@AimeeMaroux@mastodon.social
2024-04-13 13:13:40
@bogo@hapyyr.com
2024-06-14 08:55:39

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@tarah@infosec.exchange
2024-06-14 20:40:23

So, today, a lot of folk are talking about how a very bad man named Sean Hastings has been violently threatening Adam Shostack for years and years.
 
I know Adam and think of him as a friend and we are connected professionally and personally, and of course I knew about Sean Hastings, but I was unaware that today was the day that Adam was going to finally talk about his nightmare, and he didn't ask me to say anything about my own experiences with Sean or coordinate with me on this.
 
I can't speak to Adam's experience but I do feel the need to tell people what Sean Hastings did to me.
 
The first thing Sean Hastings did to me was give me money in 2015. I didn't know him. You can actually see his name right in the front of the acknowledgements to my book on women in tech - because he contributed $500 to the 2015 Kickstarter I ran to fund it.
 
This is before I'd met Adam Shostack; Adam and I met in early 2016 when we sat on a Federal Trade Commission panel together in Seattle on startup cybersecurity. Adam's a major nerd and we bonded immediately over game design and his incorrect preference of Star Wars over Star Trek.
 
But soon, I would find out that there were strings attached to Sean's contribution. Apparently he thought that by contributing to a Kickstarter, he could turn guilt screws on me about who I could talk to, and demanded my time to help him publish books on girls in tech.
 
He began sending me harassing messages and emails after I'd probably RTed something from Adam, demanding that I pay attention to his claims about Adam Shostack. I did what any normal femme in tech does, which is go do the grey network check on Adam. In 2016, I spoke to several extremely prominent and trusted friends and members of the infosec community. The “Good Guy vs. Creeper” check on Adam came back from my folk with a resounding "Adam's the victim here". And I know some serious operators in the "keeping women in the infosec world safe" space.
 
Sean subsequently began publicly and privately bombarding my social accounts and email with demands and guilt and claiming that he was behind my success and funded me. This looked to me like a man who tries to control women and others with money, and I would wear out the red flag emoji if I tried to properly emphasize that. There's plenty more on Xitter if you want to go searching.
 
I didn't and don't want to think about this, any more than anyone else wants to think about awful things, but violent angry dangerous men like Sean do seem to operate on their own schedule, and I anticipate that Adam's public statement may trigger Sean Hastings making another outburst against me and the many other people I'm now seeing coming forward.
 
One last thing. I've experienced some of the same kinds of horrific stalker behavior that Adam and others in the community have, and while it's not relevant to this here, Adam was a profound support to me when my life was getting torn apart by two very dangerous, angry, violent people making false claims about me several years ago. He knows exactly what it feels like, because I think he's lived it for a couple of decades.
 
So, it occurs to me that I've actually continued to benefit from that $500 that Sean Hastings contributed to that Kickstarter. In my experience, it makes people apoplectic to learn that their money went to something that they hate. So, below, you'll find some screenshots, and the last image is my proof pic for a $500 donation just now to Operation: Safe Escape, which supports victims of cyber stalking and domestic tech abuse like those Sean Hastings has targeted. That makes me feel a lot better and I didn't even realize I was carrying any guilt over it until just now.
 
safeescape.org/ I strongly urge you to donate there as well if you were affected by this.