
2025-07-27 19:53:42
My soundtrack today: https://radioparadise.com/home
(Actually, the Main Mix there is my soundtrack every day…)
When it comes to the degradation of our collective critical faculties, I am not sure if naming #socialmedia as the sole cause really explains it. I'd like to read a study exploring the detrimental effect of #realitytv in the decade before the 2010s on this...
The sheer horror of browsing from stories about the lead-up to the women's Euros match today then seeing this, I guess because it's also about a women-only thing https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c74z4gy5g31o
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Efficient and Reuseable Cloud Configuration Search Using Discovery Spaces
Michael Johnston, Burkhard Ringlein, Christoph Hagleitner, Alessandro Pomponio, Vassilis Vassiliadis, Christian Pinto, Srikumar Venugopal
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21467
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Operator with the Kato property on Banach spaces
Mar Jim\'enez Sevilla, Sebasti\'an Lajara L\'opez, Miguel \'Angel Ruiz Risue\~no
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How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love
Solving Mean-Field Games with Monotonicity Methods in Banach Spaces?
Rita Ferreira, Diogo Gomes, Melih Ucer
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21212 https://
Tractable Metric Spaces and the Continuity of Magnitude
Sara Kali\v{s}nik, Davorin Le\v{s}nik
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21128 https://
Under Pressure From Trump, UVA President Reportedly Resigns https://www.insidehighered.com/news/government/politics-elections/2025/06/27/university-virginia-president-resigns-after-trumps
On Bergman type projection in some new analytic function spaces in bounded strongly pseudoconvex domains
R. F. Shamoyan, E. B. Tomashevskaya
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.20913
On the symmetry behind duality
Marco Abbadini, Achim Jung
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18245 https://arxiv.org/pdf/2507.18245
Cemeteries nationwide are coming up with creative ways to "liven up" their wide-open green spaces.
From a beekeeping collective in Seattle to “Night of Grief” karaoke in Washington DC,
cemetery owners say events help them reconnect with the local community
and sometimes bring in some much-needed funds.
Visitors say they enjoy the cool vibe, family- and dog-friendly areas and innovative ideas.
Cemeteries have always been community spaces in the United …
Categorified structures over moduli spaces: Anomalies, non-invertible symmetries, and exceptional holonomy
A. Perez-Lona, E. Sharpe, X. Yu
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.19909
Pseudo-Anosov flows on hyperbolic L-spaces
John A. Baldwin, Steven Sivek, Jonathan Zung
https://arxiv.org/abs/2505.21113 https://arxi…
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Functional Periodic ARMA Processes
Sebastian K\"uhnert, Juhyun Park
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18962 https://arxiv.org/pdf/2507.18962
– Det er mye verre enn du tror
Eksperter NRK kontakter for å snakke om hva som skjer i USA nå, tŸr ikke stå frem i frykt for konsekvensene. https://www.nrk.no/norge/eksperter-vegrer-seg-for-a-snakke-om-usa-1.17420296
Maximizing measures for countable alphabet shifts via blur shift spaces
Eduardo Garibaldi, Jo\~ao T A Gomes, Marcelo Sobottka
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18736 https://
Coarse Separation of Coarse PD(n) spaces
Harsh Patil
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21492 https://arxiv.org/pdf/2506.21492
Thoughts on running local, privacy aware LLMs and other AI/ML via GPT4All, PrivateGPT, OLMo 2 or Ollama?
I have an M3 Macbook Air and limited capacity for faff right now
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The Effect of Scale Consistency between Real and Virtual Spaces on Immersion in Exhibition Hybrid Spaces
Qiong Wu, Yan Dong, Zipeng Zhang, Ruochen Hu
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.16542
A 1980s cost-of-living crisis gave Australia a thriving arts program – could we do it again? https://theconversation.com/a-1980s-cost-of-living-crisis-gave-australia-a-thriving-arts-program-could-we-do-it-again…
\v{C}ech cohomology of infinite projective spaces, flag manifolds, and related spaces
David Anderson, Matthias Franz
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.16487 https…
Posterior Contraction for Sparse Neural Networks in Besov Spaces with Intrinsic Dimensionality
Kyeongwon Lee, Lizhen Lin, Jaewoo Park, Seonghyun Jeong
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.19144
Hvor var KI-ekspertene fŸr det smalt? spŸr Kenth-Arne Hansson i Khrono. https://www.khrono.no/hvor-var-ki-ekspertene-for-det-smalt/970818
Mitt svar viser til at dersom flere hŸrte på det kunstnere sier og kunsten viser ville samfunnet være bedre rustet…
An object-centric core metamodel for IoT-enhanced event logs
Yannis Bertrand, Christian Imenkamp, Lukas Malburg, Matthias Ehrendorfer, Marco Franceschetti, Joscha Gr\"uger, Francesco Leotta, J\"urgen Mangler, Ronny Seiger, Agnes Koschmider, Stefanie Rinderle-Ma, Barbara Weber, Estefania Serral
https://arxiv.org/abs/250…
Navigation through Non-Compact Symmetric Spaces: a mathematical perspective on Cartan Neural Networks
Pietro Giuseppe Fr\'e, Federico Milanesio, Guido Sanguinetti, Matteo Santoro
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.16871
Monocular Vision-Based Swarm Robot Localization Using Equilateral Triangular Formations
Taewon Kang, Ji-Wook Kwon, Il Bae, Jin Hyo Kim
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.19100 https://
Europeana want you to 'Share your views about AI and digital cultural heritage' to inform the common European data space for cultural heritage https://pro.europeana.eu/post/share-your-views-about-ai-and-digital-cultural-heritage…
Introduction to the Cohomology of the Flag Variety
Sara C. Billey, Yibo Gao, Brendan Pawlowski
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21064 https://
Series representation in tensor products of Banach spaces
Jochen Wengenroth
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21344 https://arxiv.org/pdf/25…
Reflections on Rota-Baxter Lie algebras, the classical reflection equation and Poisson homogeneous spaces
Honglei Lang, Yunhe Sheng
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.20276
Derived analytic geometry: Derived K\"ahler space and Hodge theory
Eita Haibara
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.19629 https://arxiv.o…
The “Emerging” Reality from “Hidden” Spaces
https://www.mdpi.com/2218-1997/7/3/75
Explainable Mapper: Charting LLM Embedding Spaces Using Perturbation-Based Explanation and Verification Agents
Xinyuan Yan, Rita Sevastjanova, Sinie van der Ben, Mennatallah El-Assady, Bei Wang
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18607
d-Boolean algebras and their bitopological representation
Hang Yang, Dexue Zhang
https://arxiv.org/abs/2505.17806 https://arxiv.org/p…
I'm looking forward to discussing 'What can heritage do for society in the future?' at the '20 years of Sustainable Heritage at UCL' celebration on June 12
Some tickets still available https://www.ucl.ac.uk/bartlett/events/2025
Asymptotic stability of solutions to semilinear evolution equations in Banach spaces
Francesco Cellarosi, Anirban Dutta, Giusy Mazzone
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21437
Fractional order derivative characterizations of Besov-Morrey type spaces with applications
Chen Lu, Mingjin Li, Jianren Long
https://arxiv.org/abs/2505.20709
The #OpenAI paper by Baker et al, "Monitoring Reasoning Models for Misbehavior and the Risks of Promoting Obfuscation" comes to a troubling conclusion: #LLM s with #reasoning or
Representing Locally Hilbert Spaces and Functional Models for Locally Normal Operators
Aurelian Gheondea
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.19101 https://arxiv.org…
Computability of Separation Axioms in Countable Second Countable Spaces
Andrew DeLapo, David Gonzalez
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18564 https://arxiv.org/pd…
Hyperspherical Variational Autoencoders Using Efficient Spherical Cauchy Distribution
Lukas Sablica, Kurt Hornik
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21278 https://
An isovariant Blakers--Massey theorem
Inbar Klang, Sarah Yeakel
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21259 https://arxiv.org/pdf/2506.21259
A Survey on Methodological Approaches to Collaborative Embodiment in Virtual Reality
Hongyu Zhou, Yihao Dong, Masahiko Inami, Zhanna Sarsenbayeva, Anusha Withana
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18877
On the duality between Diameter Two Properties and Ideals in Banach Spaces
Sudeshna Basu
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18981 https://arxiv.org/pdf/2507.18981
As Spotify moves to video, the environmental footprint of music streaming hits the high notes https://theconversation.com/as-spotify-moves-to-video-the-environmental-footprint-of-music-streaming-hits-the-hig…
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"AUcH, weNn ES dIe pOlItiSche fÜhRunG zu UNterBinDEN vErSuChT" - die Gruppe jener #noAfD ler, die wegen unverdautem Militärfetisch bei dem Zirkus mitmachen, ist bislang zu wenig erforscht - hauptsächlich deshalb, weil man mit ständigen Lachanfällen nicht gut forschen kann.
Free speech target or terrorist gang? The inside story of Palestine Action – and the plan to ban it https://www.theguardian.com/politics/ng-interactive/2025/jun/28/palestine-action-proscription-free-speech?…
On gradient descent-ascent flows in metric spaces
Noboru Isobe, Sho Shimoyama
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.20258 https://arxiv.org/pdf/…
Active Learning for Manifold Gaussian Process Regression
Yuanxing Cheng, Lulu Kang, Yiwei Wang, Chun Liu
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.20928 https://
Norsk films stŸrste seier – og kanskje den siste – Ytring https://www.nrk.no/ytring/norsk-films-storste-seier-_-og-kanskje-den-siste-1.17432132
Matrix Invariants as Homotopy Invariants in Finite $T_0$-spaces
Pedro J. Chocano
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.16861 https://arxiv.org/p…
Is there a proper, project management name for what I call 'magic elves'? Lurking tasks in a project plan with no-one assigned to them, leaving it to be done by the 'magic elves'. If you don't spot them and if there's no-one with the skills and time to complete those tasks, projects can go awry.
Generalized Hilbert operators acting from Hardy spaces to weighted Bergman spaces
Liyi Wang, Shanli Ye
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.19338 https://
Noted while reading: 'a data structure or a block of code are things that make implicit and subjective arguments about how to see the world. This is possibly the single most important basic insight that Digital Humanities as a field needs to impart, because it affects so much of the world around us' - excellent post by @…
Selections of integrable multifunctions in arbitrary Banach spaces
Luisa Di Piazza, Anna Rita Sambucini
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.19460 https://arxiv.org/…
Americans, take note:
Zohran Mamdani’s Historic Win: 16 Takeaways https://jacobin.com/2025/06/zohran-mamdani-nyc-mayor-cuomo/
On $A$-orthogonality preservation and Blanco-Koldobsky-Turn\v{s}ek theorem in semi-Hilbert spaces
Jayanta Manna, Somdatta Barik, Kallol Paul, Debmalya Sain
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18871
A Real Life Version of Wallace & Gromit’s Breakfast Machine https://kottke.org/25/05/a-real-life-version-of-wallace-gromits-breakfast-machine
#Demokratiebildung wird besonders wirksam, wo strukturelle Voraussetzungen mit der Dynamik kleinerer Communities & persönlicher Haltungen in produktive Beziehung treten – das behaupten D. Vetter & D. Dietz im HSE-Blog und beleuchten, wo & wie so eine Beziehung entstehen kann.
ADHO (adho.org) updates at the opening of #DH2025 from Diane and Michael - the Italian Digital Humanities association officially joins ADHO, and announces awards including the Zampoli prize to Stylo software, the conference bursaries winners and Fortier prize nominees. Also note the Code of Conduct!
*On Snake Oil*
In every snake oil sale show - no matter how long it has been going on - comes the moment of truth.
The moment of truth is, ironically, not evidence that the advertised snake oil works.
No, the moment of truth happens when the salesman opens the bottle and chugs it down in one go. What happens if he doesn't do it, what happens if he only takes a sip and pours the rest down the drain?
Maybe the snake oil show is one of the more interesting cultural …
Lewd, crude and politically astute: South Park’s history of controversy https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2025/jul/26/south-park-history-controversy-trump?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other
'History is the study of decisions, not of events' - love this, from Dan Davies 'Unaccountability Machine'. And as an instinctive systems thinker I love even more that he goes on to say 'many decisions are best understood as the outcome of larger systems rather than individual acts of will.'
After 70 years, twisted gothic thriller The Night of the Hunter remains as disturbing and beguiling as ever https://theconversation.com/after-70-years-twisted-gothic-thriller-the-night-of-the-h…
Lipschitz vs Linear Numerical Index in certain Banach spaces
Antonio P\'erez-Hern\'andez
https://arxiv.org/abs/2507.18208 https://arxiv.org/pdf/250…
Clinton’s Endorsement of Cuomo Is Grotesque but Predictable https://jacobin.com/2025/06/cuomo-clinton-endorsement-mayoral-election/
Hvorfor verden trenger flere humanister | Erna Solbergs påstand om at universitetene bŸr utdanne færre humanister fungerer dårlig i mŸte med en verden som er i stadig endring. https://www.forskersonen.no/humaniora-kronikk-kultur/hvorf…
Wir haben ca. 3 Jahre Zeit, Lohnarbeit und Lebensunterhalt voneinander zu entkoppeln, d.h. eine großflächige Dekommodifizierung möglichst überstaatlich (z.B. auf EU-Ebene) zu organisieren.
Die Entwicklung autonomer KI-Agenten läuft auf nichts weniger hinaus als die quasi vollständige Automatisierung unserer Wirtschaftsbereiche. Die meisten sind sich dessen nicht bewusst - auch, weil in letzter Zeit die Skeptiker und Ludditen wieder sehr den Diskurs bestimmen.
Auch wenn sie viele …
'The Responsible AI Ecosystem: Seven Lessons from the BRAID Landscape Study'
Report just released: https://braiduk.org/the-responsible-ai-ecosystem-seven-lessons-from-the-braid-landscape-study
AI Weakens Critical Thinking. This is How To Rebuild It. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-algorithmic-mind/202505/ai-weakens-critical-thinking-and-how-to-rebuild-it
Bakenfor gullalder, glamourbilder og rŸd lŸper. | Rushprint https://rushprint.no/2025/05/bakenfor-gullalder-glamourbilder-og-rod-loper/
#DH2025 closes with heartfelt thanks to Diane Jakacki for all her work underpinning ADHO as Executive Board Chair for the past four years
The Democratic Party Is Literally Dying | The Nation https://www.thenation.com/article/politics/democratic-party-connolly-gerontocracy/
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Having a bit of a flashback to the 80s with one of my favourite bands from university days… Who knew any of their stuff was available online?
«Live from the Elmo Combo». I wonder who will get the reference?
Elmo, The CeeDees - Qobuz https://www.qobuz.com/no-en/album/elmo-the
Some thoughts on art and why it’s necessary for a healthy, functioning society.
Why We Ar/t/ – fredsnotes https://filmschoolteacher.info/fredsnotes/2025/07/25/why-we-ar-t/
Sanksjoner må til for å stanse Israels folkemord https://palestinakomiteen.no/aktuelt/10-aktuelt/217-sanksjoner-ma-til-for-a-stanse-israels-folkemord
Fuck Israel.
Fuck the IDF.
Fuck the US.
Fuck every other government too frightened to do anything.
We need get relief to Gaza by *any means necessary*. Now. There are no more excuses for delays.
https://www.