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RE: https://mastodon.social/@flexghost/116303107724512442
The way to tell them apart is that Beaker displays emotions.

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #DriveTime
The Emotions:
🎵 Blessed
#TheEmotions
https://redsoulmusicv2.bandcamp.com/track/the-emotions-blessed-redsoul-classic-club-mix
https://open.spotify.com/track/7C1dy234jk0AiaKJs07Cze

Our favorite 2026 NFL Draft picks: Gennings Dunker (the mullet!), Francis Mauigoa and more https://www.nytimes.com/athletic/7229786/2026/04/26/nfl-draft-2026-favorite-picks/

Our favorite 2026 NFL Draft picks: Gennings Dunker (the mullet!), Francis Mauigoa and more https://www.nytimes.com/athletic/7229786/2026/04/26/nfl-draft-2026-favorite-picks/

Our favorite 2026 NFL Draft picks: Gennings Dunker (the mullet!), Francis Mauigoa and more https://www.nytimes.com/athletic/7229786/2026/04/26/nfl-draft-2026-favorite-picks/

🏚 Russians took MY HOME: emotions of a UKRAINIAN woman from occupied TOKMAK #shorts: https://benborges.xyz/2026/02/08/russians-took-my-home-emotions.html

Finished the 3rd season of "Shrinking" yesterday. I love those characters. Lacks the depth of British shows, but boy, Bill Lawrence and Bred Goldstein got a hand for emotions.

💀 New research reveals how dread shapes decision-making
#emotions

New research reveals how dread shapes decision-making
A new study reveals that people are far more emotionally affected by anticipating negative future outcomes than by imagining positive ones, helping to explain why many individuals avoid uncertainty and prefer decisions to be resolved sooner rather than later.

"Love, fear, anger and hope: how emotions influence climate action"
#Climate #ClimateChange

Love, fear, anger and hope: how emotions influence climate action
In one of England’s most deprived cities with one of the most ambitious climate targets, research shows the huge influence that emotion has on sustainability goals.

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #EasternEchoes
Death of Heather:
🎵 Endless Emotions
#DeathofHeather
https://deathofheather.bandcamp.com/track/endless-emotions
https://open.spotify.com/track/5q0hWAGPxg7pwctEzntHAU

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.

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"Trump Says Andrew's Arrest Sets Dangerous Precedent of Pedophiles Facing Consequences”
Beneath, a photo of Donald Trump speaking, looking somewhat upset, maybe? (I don't know. Do sociopaths' externalised emotions mean anything anyway?) https://social.vival…

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Cry Later: The Culture That Taught You Not to Grieve
The commands arrive early. They arrive in childhood, in the voices of parents and teachers and coaches and older relatives, and they are delivered with the same authority as instructions about traffic and hot stoves. Cry later. Hold it in. Do not show your emotions. Do not embarrass us. Be strong. Be brave. Be a man. There will be time for that later.

Cry Later: The Culture That Taught You Not to Grieve | David Boles, Blogs
The commands arrive early. They arrive in childhood, in the voices of parents and teachers and coaches and older relatives, and they are delivered with the same authority as instructions about traf…

Caleb Downs Shares Emotional Moment With Brother After Cowboys Draft Pick https://www.si.com/nfl/cowboys/onsi/caleb-downs-shares-emotional-moment-brother-dallas-cowboys-draft-pick

Why is everyone so into people staring out into space in a little capsule?
It's because we're human beings. We thrive on positive emotions. We crave real human connection.
Especially in a time when our “leaders” push the most dehumanizing technology ever invented and commit endless atrocities to distract from their crimes.

It has been a long time since I've hated, like deep, burning hatred, the end of a book like I have the one I just finished.
The author didn't cheat. The ending is in keeping with the tone and characters, and doesn't have any plot holes. I just *hate* it.
I guess, you could say the author has been successful in that she evoked deep emotions in me. I'm just so glad that my book club is reading it this month so I'll get to vent my spleen about it to people who kn…

Cowboys' Draft Report Card: high marks for Downs, mixed Lawrence takes https://cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story/sports/nfl/cowboys/2026/04/24/cowboys-2026-draft-report-card-first-round-downs-malac…

"Climate anxiety: Misconceptions and advice"
#Climate #ClimateChange
https://phys.org/…

Climate anxiety: Misconceptions and advice
Many people feel anxious about climate change and other trends in the world around us. However, there are constructive ways to cope with one's emotions. In step with the incorporation of the word "klimatångest" (climate anxiety) in the Swedish vocabulary, more and more researchers have become interested in the concept. One of them is Marlis Wullenkord, associate senior lecturer in environmental psychology at Lund University.

What a roller coaster of emotions. I think everyone should watch this entire documentary about the kindness of strangers across America. (2hr47min)
▶️ I Hitchhiked Across America (Full Documentary) - Discover Connection
https://youtube.com/watch?v=nDWhcHRhrhg&si=PxE_…

Embarking on the journey of classical music can transform your soul. Its timeless melodies uplift and inspire, evoking profound emotions. Whether you're a seasoned connoisseur or a curious novice, let these historic symphonies enrich your spirit. As Beethoven said, "Music is the mediator between the spiritual and the sensual life." 🎼✨

Because @…’s Flipboard site won’t scroll for me (?!?), here’s the paragraph with the punch:
❝It’s worth noting that over the decades, Pixar has explored topics such as, but [not*] limited to: becoming a widower, suddenly becoming a single or adoptive parent, environmental collapse, existential dread, motherhood, and job burnout. The first Incredibles has a subplot where Elastigirl thinks Mr. Incredible is having an affair, Toy Story 3 has the toys accept death by furnace, and Elemental is about interracial relationships. The last two movies Docter directed were Soul, which is about a Black man finding joy in his life again, and Inside Out—maybe the most therapy-ass movie (and series) in the studio’s entire 40-year tenure—is about messy preteen emotions that lead to its main character running away from home.❞
* The word “not” is missing in the original, surely an editorial mistake?
https://flipboard.com/@gizmodo/i09-ifm0rl1hz/-/a-M010weUPTnu1lZIfiOE3oQ:a:1876139665-/0

Patriots' Will Campbell ready to 'move on' after Super Bowl disaster: 'I know what I need to get better at' https://www.nfl.com/news/patriots-will-campbell-ready-to-move-on-super-bowl-disaster-drake-maye

RE: https://ohai.social/@tangledwing/115965151900320328
I love this article. Also, it's correct. People's common ideas of human memory, thoughts, emotions, consciousness, etc., etc., are wrong and/or misguided, and it confuses everyone that tries t…