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When he left the Soviet Union for a new life in America, the novelist never imagined he would live under another authoritarian regime.
Then Trump got back into power
... Is it time to move again?
https://www.
When he left the Soviet Union for a new life in America, the novelist never imagined he would live under another authoritarian regime.
Then Trump got back into power
... Is it time to move again?
https://www.
https://www.wionews.com/world/israeli-hackers-breach-iranian-tv-urging-iranians-to-rise-up-in-protest-1750304429134
“The visuals displayed were of women tearing off their hijab and cutting their hair in defiance,…
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #SeekAndDestroy
At the Gates:
🎵 All Life Ends
#AttheGates
https://peaceville.bandcamp.com/track/all-life-ends-live-2
https://open.spotify.com/track/0oAVAcmoze4eyWCTLkYYdg
🔊 #NowPlaying on #BBCRadio3:
#BBCProms
- 2025
Live at the BBC Proms: BBC Symphony Orchestra and Chorus, LPO Chorus plus starry soloists conducted by Sir Mark Elder in Delius's exhilarating A Mass of Life.
Relisten now 👇
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002h0qh
It's really important to make friends across generations. Space them out across a good few decades. Then if you're lucky to live a long life, you will have good company.
Look, I give a fuck, because freedom isn't some abstract idea or lip service paid to "choice" while real decisions are made over your head.
Freedom is collective, it's when everyone gets to shape the community together, no more of this top-down bullshit where rules drop from above and you’re told to accept it or leave. Anarcho-syndicalism is not theory to me, it’s my fucking life story now, because I want to actually live this principle where people, not bosses, run t…
Time For 9 o'clock #HashTagGames hosted by @…
Some like city life. Some don't. Let's play!
#CityPerksSongsOrPoems
Wrote a blog post on installing Linux native on a MacBook. So I could remember what I did 🙂
#Apple
#SoulIISoulCaronWheelerForEvah Soul II Soul - Keep On Movin' (1Xtra Live Lounge)
Set list, for those who care / obsess about such things:
Encore
Encore 2
Don't miss today's Metacurity for the most critical infosec developments you should know, including
--Russia implicated in hack of federal court system documents,
--US has secretly placed tracking devices in advanced chips,
--UK will expand live police facial recognition,
--Microsoft fixes over 100 flaws on Patch Tuesday,
--Hackers issued fake nuclear warnings on Moscow buses,
--National Public Data comes back to life,
--Hackers leaked data on …
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We knew what he was going to do before Starmer himself did.
https://mstdn.social/@markhburton/115180353409585265
Being US ambassador 'privilege of my life', Mandelson says, after being sacked over Epstein emails - BBC News
Interesting: From Becky Ferreira for @… :
https://www.404media.co/new-deep-sea-creatures-challenge-current-m…
How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love
I thought at this point in my life I would live somewhere with better bike infrastructure.
Sonnet 068 - LXVIII
Thus is his cheek the map of days outworn,
When beauty lived and died as flowers do now,
Before these bastard signs of fair were born,
Or durst inhabit on a living brow;
Before the golden tresses of the dead,
The right of sepulchres, were shorn away,
To live a second life on second head;
Ere beauty's dead fleece made another gay:
In him those holy antique hours are seen,
Without all ornament, itself and true,…
"#Permaculture: how do we live in place, sustainably, in time?"
Yes, actually, that IS my project: what I'm doing with my life, right now. Building community with the people around me, to build resilience in the face of #ClimateEmergency
Planet: Critical: Resilien…
Born astride a grave
With only one life to live
We must make it count.
#dailyhaikuprompt - grave
#haiku
#poem
New Deep Sea Creatures ‘Challenge Current Models of Life,’ Scientists Say https://www.404media.co/new-deep-sea-creatures-challenge-current-models-of-life-scientists-say/
Finished “Lloyd McNeil’s Last Ride” by Will Leitch.
Lloyd McNeil is a cop who has just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and weeks to live. Realizing his paltry assets and limited life insurance won’t help his son much, he learns that being killed on duty absolutely will. A plan is hatched. But charging into dangerous situations keeps making him a hero instead.
Enjoyable. Leitch always writes great characters.
4/5 stars ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️
@… @… Yeah, those expectations suuuuuck. I’m sorry. It’s not on you (or anyone else, in particular) to go and be some kind of magician. It’s on you to live life! Play board games, argue with people on the intern…
Israel could kill Bambi on live TV and some of you fuckers would still be cheering from the sidelines. No, actually, scratch that, what am I thinking? Some of you racist pieces of shit would probably feel worse for a cartoon deer than a real-life Brown person.
Being stuck with a broken wrist so unable to really do much of the things, I have spend a lot of this month watching TV.
I'm not all that up on Star Wars, so when I watched Season One of Andor I didn't know it was about a man called Andor, I had that name confused with Endor, and so I was distracted by the lack of Ewoks.
No such distraction for season two though, now I know it's about a rebel mercenary and his adventures leading up to him being in Rogue One delivering details about how to blow up a death star.
They all live in the Empire, which is relentless and authoritarian and evil just like the real life empire taking over western civilization now. They persecute and harass poor Andor and his buddies so much that they cause the rebellion against their authority that they intend to suppress.
Great show.
Wonder if all the people arrested wrongfully for doing no real crime in the US and UK and around the west will end up fighting the empire here too?
Still wish there was a series about ewoks though.
#watching #tv #andor
Today is Joy Day!
How do you allow joy to show up in your life? How do you bring joy to others?
What does joy mean to you?
Got questions? I'm here to help
#EOLD #DeathDoula #AskAnnetta
👋 Hello! I’m Łukasz. Thirty-something, living in Warsaw, Poland. On fedi since 2021 or so. Right now, I'm merging my two accounts into one and giving this profile a fresh new start.
I live a few parallel lives.
Most of the time I’m a web developer. I work with TypeScript, React and all that jazz. But I still enjoy static site generators and good ol’ HTML/CSS.
In another life, I’m a documentary photographer and photojournalist. I’m interested in activism, art and culture, politics, and pretty much anything interesting happening on city streets. A big part of my photography journey involves documenting protests and demonstrations in Poland, especially those related to human rights and social issues. I’m also drawn to street art, particularly when it carries strong messages.
I occasionally blog and translate. Many years ago I wrote two books about WordPress. However, these days I’m more likely to go outside and touch grass than spend even more time in front of a screen.
Outside of that, expect me to post about mental health and politics. I promise to use CWs when appropriate.
I post in both English and Polish, depending on the topic.
Aaaand that’s it. Nice to meet you! ☺️
#introduction
But that’s kinda how I got here. https://mastodon.online/@danirabbit/114886743752674598
If the goal truly is to
“make America healthy,”
why are HHS life-saving programs for babies and young children being eliminated?
Here are just two examples,
of small and inexpensive live-saving programs being cut or gutted.
⭐️At a time when sudden unexpected infant deaths are on the rise,
the National Institutes of Health (NIH) has quietly pulled funding for the "Safe to Sleep" campaign,
a program that cut deaths from Sudden Infant Death S…
I’m not your go-to for deep economic theory. I'm just your regular Fediverse baby anarchist, who has a huge crush on Rudolf Rocker's syndicalist takes!
But what I do know is that I don’t need bosses or rulers telling me how to live my life. We’re all capable of working together, making decisions as equals, and building something better without anyone lording over us.
I believe in solidarity and collective action. We deserve workplaces and communities where everyone has a …
Okay, I took up the challenge to myself and installed Lubuntu. And this is absolutely a lxqt that I could live in. Did a minimal install, added flatpak (yes, yes, one 'apt install flatpak' away) and off you go. Ootb actually no snapd installed. Nice styling (arc-darqueske), 6.14 kernel , good experience. This can breath a lot of life into those October 2025 machines. Nice one 👍🏻
#lubuntu
in the 18th century, some wealthy landowners hired ornamental hermits to reside on their estates. they'd sometimes be asked to make themselves available to guests, answering questions, providing guidance, or intrigue alone. but in some cases, the hermit would not communicate with visitors at all, functioning instead like a perpetual stage play or live diorama. life lived as background dressing to another, in exchange for just enough to keep it going.
In August of 1977, Tim Horton was inducted into the Hockey Hall of Fame, just 3 years after losing his life in an automobile accident. Known as "the strongest man in hockey " during his career, he helped the Toronto Maple Leafs win 4 Stanley Cups. He would have been only notable with hockey nerds except for the fact that before he died, he was the namesake and primary investor for a Hamilton Ontario restaurant selling donuts and coffee. Today, most Canadians live within 100 metres of a Timmies and don't have a clue who the founder was, or that he died crashing his exotic sports car while drunk. (Insert tasteless joke about TimBits all over the QEW...)
#CanadaIsAwesome #NHL #Fame
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tim_Horton
Just got back home from the show tonight, brought up the Zohran primary win with my friend and his dad just blurted out the Trump socialist communist (because those can be a thing at the same time) claim line like a sleeper agent, mentioned some "anti-white tax" that doesn't exist and honestly the situation just had the same effect of someone randomly bringing up that they have 30 days to live. Maaaan, this might be the end of my social life lmao
This is rather nice. #sound
https://www.mixcloud.com/FamilyTreeRadioShow…
"We stand by the accuracy of what we published,"
Reuters' statement read.
"We have carefully reviewed the published footage, and we have found no reason to believe Reuters longstanding commitment to accurate, unbiased journalism has been compromised."
The four-minute clip, released Sept. 3, captured Putin telling Xi that biotechnology could one day extend human life indefinitely.
"With continuous advances in biotechnology, human organs wi…
Sonnet 081 - LXXXI
Or I shall live your epitaph to make,
Or you survive when I in earth am rotten,
From hence your memory death cannot take,
Although in me each part will be forgotten.
Your name from hence immortal life shall have,
Though I, once gone, to all the world must die:
The earth can yield me but a common grave,
When you entombed in men's eyes shall lie.
Your monument shall be my gentle verse,
Which eyes not yet created…
There's a simple way for instance operators to comply: trust your users. Demand that they positively assert that they do not live in North Korea, Iran, Mississippi, etc. as a condition of joining. This creates a legitimate good faith belief that users are not legally barred from the system.
ALSO: No one should ever take advice from me as grounded in legality. I have no legal education beyond what life has forced upon me without my consent, and I am ill-suited to teach.
Scientists discover a whole new type of ecosystem 30,000 feet deep
For decades, scientists have studied organisms that thrive around hydrothermal vents, fissures spewing superheated fluids.
But the creatures that live around cold seeps
— places where gases such as methane and hydrogen sulfide ooze from the seafloor at near-freezing temperatures,
often where tectonic plates meet
— have been understudied.
So, to investigate, an expedition to the northwest P…
CoFacS -- Simulating a Complete Factory to Study the Security of Interconnected Production
Stefan Lenz, David Schachtschneider, Simon Jonas, Liam Tirpitz, Sandra Geisler, Martin Henze
https://arxiv.org/abs/2508.14526
Healing is not a prerequisite for participating in life but a process we undertake as we live, work, love, and play. full article @ https://www.brichapman.com/p/you-dont-have-to-be-healed-to-begin
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #Continent
Show Dem Camp:
🎵 Live Life
#ShowDemCamp
https://open.spotify.com/track/4pKxSb1G8lArMWLqFCSPUz
Do I give a flying glittery fuck about your opinions? Hell no! This queer, bi, fabulous life is mine to slay, not yours! Love loud, live proud, and keep your shade to yourself! 🌈💖✨
A detainee at the Florida immigration detention center known as Alligator Alcatraz
has been on hunger strike for at least nine days,
the latest in a string of detainees to allege being mistreated at the prison in the Everglades.
“Since my life no longer belongs to me, it’s up to them to decide whether I live or die,”
detainee Pedro Lorenzo Concepción, 44, told El País from inside the facility.
On July 22, he went on hunger strike and has collapsed multiple times …
Sonnet 068 - LXVIII
Thus is his cheek the map of days outworn,
When beauty lived and died as flowers do now,
Before these bastard signs of fair were born,
Or durst inhabit on a living brow;
Before the golden tresses of the dead,
The right of sepulchres, were shorn away,
To live a second life on second head;
Ere beauty's dead fleece made another gay:
In him those holy antique hours are seen,
Without all ornament, itself and true,…
Turns out life doesn’t just imitate art
— sometimes it borrows the script, reboots it with National Guard checkpoints and streams it live from Los Angeles.
Case in point:
A Day Without a Mexican,
the cheeky 2004 sci-fi satire from Mexican filmmakers Sergio Arau and Yareli Arizmendi,
in which California wakes up to find every person of Latino descent has vanished into a mysterious haze,
leaving Angelenos panicking over who’s going to mow the lawns and run …
Sonnet 068 - LXVIII
Thus is his cheek the map of days outworn,
When beauty lived and died as flowers do now,
Before these bastard signs of fair were born,
Or durst inhabit on a living brow;
Before the golden tresses of the dead,
The right of sepulchres, were shorn away,
To live a second life on second head;
Ere beauty's dead fleece made another gay:
In him those holy antique hours are seen,
Without all ornament, itself and true,…
As Canada Day approaches, this story of a Mom finding her Canadian identity through helping Syrian refugees settle here after 2015 is poignant.
"In 2025, being a Canadian woman to me means looking out for our neighbours, leaning into differences in culture, religious practices and learning how to help others in need. Because we are not different at all. We are all just looking for safety and peace. It's our Canadian values of equality, respect and freedom in action.
It is the singular privilege of my life to walk alongside these families from Cape Breton and those who are newcomers to Canada. It's changed how I live, and I intend to do this work as long as I am able. I learn from them grace, service, faith and hope. They taught me how to be a Canadian.”
#Canada #CanPoli #CdnPoli #Refugees #Immigration #Syria #AlanKurdi
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/first-person-cape-breton-welcomes-syrian-refugees-1.7559341