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Meta Pauses Work With Mercor After Data Breach Puts AI Industry Secrets at Risk
https://www.wired.com/story/meta-pauses-work-with-mercor-after-data-breach-puts-ai-industry-secrets-at-risk/

Meta Pauses Work With Mercor After Data Breach Puts AI Industry Secrets at Risk
Major AI labs are investigating a security incident that impacted Mercor, a leading data vendor. The incident could have exposed key data about how they train AI models.

Sources: Meta has paused its work with Mercor while it investigates a security breach at the data vendor; OpenAI says it is investigating the security incident (Wired)
https://www.wired.com/story/meta-pauses-work-with-mercor-after-…

Meta Pauses Work With Mercor After Data Breach Puts AI Industry Secrets at Risk
Major AI labs are investigating a security incident that impacted Mercor, a leading data vendor. The incident could have exposed key data about how they train AI models.

Meta sospende il lavoro con Mercor dopo che una violazione dei dati ha messo a rischio i segreti del settore dell'intelligenza artificiale
Importanti laboratori di intelligenza artificiale stanno indagando su un incidente di sicurezza che ha avuto ripercussioni su Mercor, uno dei principali fornitori di dati. L’incidente avrebbe potuto esporre dati chiave su come addestrano i modelli di intelligenza artificiale.

Yay! Yet another MS update breaking things! When I split the screen by moving a program to the side I get an option of which other application is going to show on the other half. I still get the option, but I can't select it by clicking on it - I could do that friday. But after todays glorious update it doesn't work any longer. I f**king hate MS Win 11. Every single update breaks at least one previously functioning function. But it's my work machine so I do not have any choise bu…

This guy is not one of my coworkers, but if he were I'd give him a promotion
https://buttplug.engineer/@qdot/116013563036905129

A North Carolina man who says federal immigration agents shattered his truck window,
forcibly removed him from his vehicle,
and left him “bleeding and in pain”
has filed a $1.25 million damages claim against the federal government.
Willy Wender Aceituno, a U.S. citizen,
says he was stopped twice on November 15, 2025, while walking into a restaurant parking lot to pick up breakfast before work,
according to a court filing reviewed by Newsweek.
Aceitun…

US Citizen Sues ICE After Agents Allegedly Left Him Bleeding From Head
A man who says federal immigration agents left him “bleeding and in pain” has filed a $1.25 million damages claim.

Just had another one of those "OMG ChatGPT can do that?" moments.
We're quickly moving past knowledge work, and past knowledge itself. The only frontier after this will be human attention.
The rub is... As one who competes in the attention economy, let me tell you: Every day, there is less of it to compete for, and more competitors. And now AI can blow that out to infinity.
Anyone who 'makes content' is now up against infinite competitors. And they …

After a ton of compiling, the v2 release is official. Containers all work, the client works, and now I'm gonna relax and watch some YouTube videos. Releases are available on the website though I still need to update the docs with the new "installation" process (much simplified).
Releases: https://

Mark Davis on Raiders owning No. 1 pick: 'Had that position before, and it didn't work out' https://www.nfl.com/news/mark-davis-on-raiders-owning-no-1-pick-had-that-position-before-and-it-didn-t-work-out

There's still time to register for the #DefendResearch webinar with Dr. George Cooper to hear about his research: "Conditions of Censorship Complicity in Scholarly Publishing: A China case study" https://

OpenAI releases a dedicated Codex app for Windows with native sandboxing and support for PowerShell developer environments, after launching on macOS a month ago (Igor Bonifacic/Engadget)
https://www.engadget.com/ai/openai-brings-its-codex-coding-app-t…

Die Gospelband Thankful4 gibt ein Gratis-#Konzert als After-Work-Konzert, diesen Donnerstag , 5.3., in #Filderstadt um 17 Uhr. Rita-Maiburg-Str. 40.
http://www.

AI company Nota is shutting down its network of 11 local news sites for "underserved communities" because they contained dozens of instances of plagiarism (Angela Fu/Poynter)
https://www.poynter.org/ethics-trust/2026/nota-news-local-outlets-ai-plagi…

An AI company set out to fix news deserts. Instead, it copied local journalists’ work - Poynter
Nota shut down its news sites after Axios and Poynter found dozens of plagiarized quotes, phrases and photos

10 things my wife learned from her first 100 miles e-biking to work
https://electrek.co/2023/12/11/everything-my-wife-learned-from-her-first-100-miles-e-biking-to-work/

Everything my wife learned from her first 100 miles e-biking to work
After my wife's first 100+ miles of riding her e-bike to work, she's learned a lot about the advantages and disadvantages of bike commutes.

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MiddayShow
Caroline Polachek:
🎵 Welcome to My Island
#CarolinePolachek
https://stereonuke.bandcamp.com/track/caroline-polachek-welcome-to-my-island-stereonukes-after-work-edit
https://open.spotify.com/track/4bp2wYweUPvsBrQfntdYcr

And consumers now have one fewer choice. It was by far one of the cheapest fares available compared to Southwest.
If you voted for Trump, this is your fault.
☑️ Spirit Airlines shuts down, canceling thousands of flights overnight | The Verge
https://www.theverge.com/business/922788/s

Spirit Airlines shuts down after Trump’s war on Iran doubled jet fuel prices
Spirit Airlines has ceased operations, as spiraling fuel costs derailed its bankruptcy restructuring, leaving fliers stranded and 17,000 employees out of work.

5 Takeaways from Cowboys rookie minicamp: No to Fangio, Schotty moving different https://cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story/sports/nfl/cowboys/2026/05/03/cowboys-d-not-being-an-eagles-vic-fangio-copy-…

OpenAI said it had struck a deal with the Pentagon to supply AI to classified US military networks,
hours after Donald Trump ordered the government to stop using the services of one of the company’s main competitors.
Sam Altman, OpenAI’s CEO, announced the move on Friday night.
It came after an agreement between Anthropic, a rival AI company that runs the Claude system, and the Trump administration broke down after Anthropic sought assurances its technology would not be use…

Raiders' Biggest Remaining Needs After Draft—What’s Still Missing https://www.si.com/nfl/raiders/onsi/las-vegas-biggest-remaining-needs-after-draft-what-still-missing

Got the VM server upgraded to a ConnectX-6. For reasons I still do not understand, things didn't work the first time, but in a weird way - I could hit the management interface on the server but none of the VMs were able to reach anything through vlan interfaces on the CX6 (but would work fine if I bridged them to a non-vlan 1000baseT interface on the mainboard).
After several server reboots, jiggling and reseating of the card, etc. whatever software derpiness happened seems to have…

After 4 months of side-hustle, dozens of "chats", and 100sof AI-assisted iterative prompt refinement passes, I've successfully created an AI agent which ingests technical product docs and becomes a product-oracle, giving detailed answers and correcting/clarifying unclear or incorrect assumptions in the questions. It's accurate. It's thorough. It's the first truly useful thing I have gotten out of LLM AI technology. It's a work of art.
And 1 time of 7, it *…

Post-quantum defaults and GnuPG
@… email is a very insightful overview of where the standards, implementations, and openness of the community.
After years of using OpenPGP, the PQC discussions are a good opportunity to rethink what we should prepare for next and especially which community we should work with.
…

After fifteen months of hacking since our last post on the Hurd, we now present the 64-bit Hurd on Guix. Read all about it in this new post:
https://guix.gnu.org/en/blog/2026/the-64-bit-hurd
[Much of] This work was sponsored by NLnet -- thank you!

I… uh… forgot to run `npm install` after I switched branches. That’s why my demo didn’t work 🫣😅
Look, stuff is a little hectic right now…

🕹️ The Very First Video Game Was Just a Box in the Corner of a Bar
#games

The Very First Video Game Was Just a Box in the Corner of a Bar
A revolution was televised in 1972. It cost beer drinkers 25¢ a play. After work, thirsty folks rambled into Andy Capp’s Tavern in Sunnyvale, CA to knock back frothy, cool mugs and test their skill…

Work resumes on the Hudson River rail tunnel project, but NJ Transit delays continue
A thousand workers are expected to be back on the job after a federal judge ordered the Trump administration to unfreeze billions of dollars to fund construction.
https://share.google/xcagr3k9euo6b6RIS

Along those lines, I'm gonna take my own advice and work on some writing. Just finished sewing my pants, gonna switch to writing after kids are in bed tomorrow.
I've been in a writing group and I got some great feedback on a couple of things I wrote. I'll probably re-publish with updates soon. Also gonna try to finish another project I've had in my head for a bit, we'll see how it goes.
Good luck to everyone, see you all when I'm done.

We continue after the lunch break with a statement by @… on “Ideologies of Knowledge Work: Cold War Computing in the GDR.”
#ComputationalHumanities

We continue after the lunch break with a statement by @… on “Ideologies of Knowledge Work: Cold War Computing in the GDR.”
#ComputationalHumanities

Lots of progress and a lots of pain. However, all of the Sisyphus modules have been implemented and I'm currently running a test across the `2.0.0b2` version. The most painful thing I fought was literally tailing a log file. Got lazy and brought in `hpcloud/tail` because it did what I needed it to, but what it _didn't_ do was work well for my application. After a day or two of battling it, I removed it and went with `bufio.NewReader`and a nice `context.CloseWith` setup and now it…

Re-learning how rc scripts work in Slackware, after having lived in Ubuntu and Arch land and living with systemd for over a decade.
It's such a breath of fresh air. I can see ways to improve them, but they would be *my* improvements.

From TransLink
Westham Island Bridge reopens following successful repair work
Access restored to Westham Island after temporary closure caused by marine vessel strike
Some critical repair work will continue in the coming weeks to stabilize piles with rock protection, remove the temporary pier, and add more steel reinforcements. The navigation channel remains closed to marine traffic while this is an active construction site.
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China’s Yangtze River shows signs of remarkable recovery after fishing ban https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2026/feb/12/china-yangtze-river-recovery-after-fishing-ban

The Office of Financial Research,
which is funded by fees from large financial institutions,
is responsible for monitoring and collecting data to identify risks across the financial system,
including from less regulated corners of the market.
Its duties inform the work of the Financial Stability Oversight Council,
an interagency panel of regulators created by the Dodd-Frank Act after the 2008 financial crisis
and chaired by the Treasury secretary.
A…

It's oddly satisfying that, after all this time, @…'s core idea from his 2024 XOXO talk is still taking root within me. 🌻
https://thegoodwork.blog/posts/tell-th

Tell them that somebody cared - The Good Work
I received an informational flyer from my local municipality in my mailbox today. It's about an upcoming road closure due to the replacement of water mains and the installation of...

Simplified slstatus to what I actually use. Keybinds for applications back from sxhkd into config.def.h. Keys good again, VoidLinux updated. Thanks to the collective hangover after Tet I could do all this at work. Productive (finally) 😜
#archlabs #dwm

A user at a client contacted me over what transpired to be them trying to install a python library on a machine (that didn’t have python installed) to run an AI tool at the direction of ChatGPT.
After *I* get it installed:
User: “Ok, how does it work?”
Me: 🤷🏻‍♀️ (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ “never seen it before”

https://ground.news/article/mexico-to-require-federal-projects-to-use-local-steel-in-response-to-us-tariffs_b9d55b

Mexico to require federal projects to use local steel in response to US tariffs
Mexico's President Claudia Sheinbaum on Wednesday announced a rule that all federal work projects use steel from Mexican companies, after attempts to reach a deal to lift U.S. steel tariffs failed.

Pentagon's Digital and AI Chief Cameron Stanley confirms the DoD is expanding its Google Gemini use, saying "overreliance on one vendor is never a good thing" (Seema Mody/CNBC)
https://www.cnbc.com/2026/04/28/pentagon-a…

Pentagon AI chief confirms DOD's expanded use of Google, says reliance on one model 'never a good thing'
The Pentagon's AI chief discussed the DOD's expanded use of Google Gemini after the blacklisting of Anthropic.

While staying vigilant, we’re embracing the chance to catch our breath and to start healing. The city right now has a bit of the feeling of the days after a natural disaster: there is so much damage to repair. Thousands of people are still sheltering at home, understandably reluctant to go to work and/or school. Thousands are facing imminent eviction when March rent comes due.
There’s organizing around rent relief, talk of a rent strike. Food delivery is still in full swing. Mutual aid is not letting up.
9/

After a weekend with a hike, three plays and a soccer watch party it’s back to work. Marie started us with waffles, egg and bacon, tea and coffee. After work, Arkham Horror card game tonight! #TogetherBreakfast https://photos.app.goo.gl/TfwrLAYZkN7W1fZ68

"China’s Yangtze River shows signs of remarkable recovery after fishing ban"
#China #Environment #Rivers

ICE Wants to Go After Dissenters as well as Immigrants | Brennan Center for Justice
https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/research-reports/ice-wants-go-after-dissenters-well-immigrants

ICE Wants to Go After Dissenters as well as Immigrants
The Trump administration is being open about its plans to violate Americans’ First and Fourth Amendment rights.

UK's Hinkley Point C new nuclear plant delayed to 2030 as costs climb to €56 billion*, i.e. €17,500 per kW.
EDF said the first reactor at the site in Somerset will begin operations in 2030, a year later than in the last update – almost 13 years after construction work began – after a series of delays to the project.

The BBC says it knew about a UK police investigation into Radio 2's Scott Mills in 2017, but sacked him after "new information" about his conduct came to light (Noor Nanji/BBC)
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cwywvrye76lo

BBC knew about Scott Mills sexual offences investigation in 2017
The corporation also says it is "doing more work to understand the detail of what was known by the BBC".

There are (sort of) two kinds of coders: those who see it as just a well-paying, stable job, and those who do it on nights and weekends because they love it, and it’s part of their identity. Today’s LLM tools now enable an individual to essentially be an entire software _factory_, and this is going to impact those 2 kinds of coders very differently — especially in how they respond to *both* of their bosses trying to put them out of work.

What do coders do after AI?
A blog about making culture. Since 1999.

I don’t particularly get excited about Fridays as I often work at the weekend. I have four days off after today, so my mood is a bit lighter this morning. Still, I have a ten hour shift ahead of me yet, before I get to have some time to enjoy stuff.

Getting back into training. Yay!
This past week I did a resilience session after not exercising consistently in a long time, and my normal work day ended up being one of the best I've had. My body felt relaxed and my mind sharp and focussed. I really feel we're made for intensity, or at least I enjoy it. Find what works for you, personally small group training with knowledgeable coaches that instruct has been life changing. I can be a workhorse if I'm told what to do. A dre…

Fourteen employees with the US Federal Emergency Management Agency
returned to work this week,
after spending eight months on administrative leave
for signing a public letter criticising the Trump administration.
The so-called “Katrina declaration”, sent last August to members of Congress and a federal council formed to help determine Fema’s future,
was written as a rebuke from the workers about the dangerous erosion in US capacity to prepare for and respond to …

Pentagon Adopts New Limits for Journalists After Court Loss (Erik Wemple/New York Times)
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/23/business/media/pentagon-closes-journalists-work-area.html?unlocked_article_code=1.VVA.fT6d.Lea23i_SZBM-&smid=nytcore-ios-share
http://www.memeorandum.com/260323/p137#a260323p137

What’s in it for people who work for the big tech companies who enable one morally bankrupt thing after another for decades on end just to make the billionaire owners richer?
Is that truly fulfilling work?

from my link log —
The longest train journey in the EU.
https://jonworth.eu/the-longest-train-journey-in-the-eu/
saved 2026-04-25 https://

The longest train journey in the EU
Anyone who has been following my work for a while knows I have long had a rather abstract discussion about the definition of the World's Longest Train Journey. I started calculating this back in 2021, after an incorrect map on Reddit went viral, and have updated my thoughts about it

The Department of Homeland Security warns it will run out of money to pay airport security workers in the coming weeks despite a $10 billion fund for DHS created by the “One Big Beautiful Bill.” Maybe they can bring lunch to work, carpool and stop ordering avocado toast. Or even better: abolish ICE and solve two problems.
h…

DHS warns it will run out of money to pay airport security workers in coming weeks
US airports could face more long security lines as early as May after homeland security chief said he will run out of money to pay workers due to government ...

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Caroline Polachek:
🎵 Welcome to my island
#NowPlaying #CarolinePolachek
https://stereonuke.bandcamp.com/track/caroline-polachek-welcome-to-my-island-stereonukes-after-work-edit
https://open.spotify.com/track/4bp2wYweUPvsBrQfntdYcr

During NASA’s #ArtemisII mission to the Moon, four astronauts will live and work inside the Orion spacecraft after launching atop the SLS (Space Launch System) rocket: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lxDQj7CFyI - the crew will test Orion’s systems throughout their 10-day mission to ensure the spacecraft can keep astronauts safe and healthy in deep space.

Falcons QB Tua Tagovailoa embracing competition, excited to work with Michael Penix Jr. https://www.nfl.com/news/falcons-qb-tua-tagovailoa-embracing-competition-excited-to-work-with-michael-penix-jr

For the first time since October, the conditions were good enough that I was able to get 20 kilometers in on the bicycle after work.
#Milwaukee #Mequon #Bike

The product delivery lifecycle is composed of service relationships. AI's main value proposition is freedom from relationships.
When designers champion AI tools, we are not making ourselves layoff-proof. We are reinforcing a system that frames us as unnecessary friction.
If we don't want to serve as janitors for vibe prototypes, We must invest in deliberately designing the service relationships that make up the PDLC.

UX works through social relationships. AI tools are erasing them.
Stakeholders want to vibe code and have designers clean up after them afterwards. But rather than helping with velocity, there is just more noise and more work for everyone.

An alarm in my neighbourhood started around 3:30 am this morning. Not that loud so probably a distance away yet still enough to wake me up to go and investigate. It stopped for a bit then started up again. I was trying not to get frustrated or angry but it still meant I didn't get back to sleep until after 6.
I stayed in bed until nearly 8 am and then rushed about so I'd be finished with work in time for a zoom meeting at 5:30 pm. Made it! Success!
Finally realised at 5:…

T - 7hours
Every end-of-semester, it's the same story: I let students submit late term papers without penalty. But, the university sets a hard deadline after which students need to petition the Registrar's Office for acceptance of late work. With Canvas that hard deadline becomes a minute instead of a day (11:59pm to be precise). Of course, no one has submitted a paper and no one will until 11:53 or so (there's always an anxious student or two), with the rest flooding in be…

"After my father died, for years (at least 10), people I never had met before would emotionally share what a positive influence he had on their lives. He did great stuff helping organizations improve. But the majority of people were not telling me how much he helped the organization improve [there were also...]. But most people talked about was how much happier they were because of the changes he helped them see they could make in their lives."

Anthropic's dispute with the DOD raises critical questions for US military partners like Nvidia, Google, Amazon, and Palantir, which work closely with Anthropic (Wired)
https://www.wired.com/story/anthropic-supply-chain-risk-shockwaves-silicon-valley/…

Anthropic Hits Back After US Military Labels It a 'Supply Chain Risk'
Anthropic says it would be “legally unsound” for the Pentagon to blacklist its technology after talks over military use of its artificial intelligence models broke down.

My kids have had the last week off of school and it's looking like they'll have a snow day on Monday, too.
Just slowly losing my mind over here.. (also way behind on work)

I find it somehow fitting that I'm on my way to #oggcamp and I've finally figured out how playlists work on my phone in VLC after de-spotifying quite some time ago (or maybe this functionality got better since I last tried?)

After some days work, I finally made my first unassisted warp, and got it on the loom and threaded up - 189 ends. It seems I had only one small mistake in the threading, just had to swap two threads. Can't wait to explore some lift patterns with this ! #weaving

DOD says it'll move the press to an annex facility outside its main building, among other changes, after a judge found its current media policy unconstitutional (Erik Wemple/New York Times)
https://www.

Pentagon Adopts New Limits for Journalists After Court Loss
The Defense Department said it would close the Pentagon’s work area for journalists, among other changes, after a judge found the existing media policy unconstitutional.

Another #ShockedShockedToFind headline & story.
Trump donor who criticized offshoring to close Ohio plant and move work to China
https://www.

Another #ShockedShockedToFind headline & story.
Trump donor who criticized offshoring to close Ohio plant and move work to China
https://www.

There's still time to register for the next #DefendResearch webinar! On April 8th, #DefendResearch team member and Declaration co-author Sara Rouhi will be in conversation with information studies researcher Dr. George Cooper, who will share key findings from his 6-year project o…

"No ice is safe ice" is the mantra of those who work and engage in recreational activities on lake ice. This event overwhelmed the news of many other ice rescues that had to be done on the weekend across the Great Lakes basin. After a week period of *extremely warm temperatures where everything was clearly melting, it doesn't matter if you drive 2 hrs to get there. Many first responders had to risk themselves to save these people. Stay off the ice!

Looking for a CSIO (Chief Stop It Officer) position for my next career move. The organization comes to me with some wacky idea, and after much consideration, I say, "No, Stop It!” and we all go back to doing normal-ass work.
Send only serious offers my way.
Update: For a bit extra, I'll squirt your department leads with a water spray bottle.

Anthropic's Claude Code leak reveals its "Kairos" updates, including letting Claude work in the background and using a "dream mode" to consolidate its memories (The Information)
https://www.theinformation.com/articles/claude-code-l…

Claude Code Leak Reveals Always-On ‘Kairos’ Agent
Anthropic’s cybersecurity employees have probably spent the past week scolding their colleagues. After accidentally publishing a blog post last week containing details of its next flagship AI model, Claude Mythos, the company on Tuesday said it had accidentally leaked some of the source code ...

work director just tried to console us after the layoff
with the parable of the house on fire from the Lotus Sutra, chapter 3
i guess that makes us lowly employees... the children in the burning house? and he has bravely deceived us into running out, by telling us there are toys outside?
i don't even understand this as a Buddhist parable
but i _definitely_ think it was inappropriate for a director of engineering to say it to a group of colleagues mourning their l…

A proposed constellation of satellites has astronomers very worried.
Unlike satellites that reflect sunlight and produce light pollution as an unfortunate byproduct,
the ones by US startup
"Reflect Orbital" would produce light pollution by design.
The company promises to produce “sunlight on demand” with mirrors that beam sunlight down to Earth so solar farms can operate after sunset.
It plans to start with an 18-metre test satellite named Earendil-1 wh…

A US startup plans to deliver ‘sunlight on demand’ after dark. Can it work – and would we want it to?
Satellites beaming sunlight down to Earth sound like science fiction – and they have astronomers very worried.

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.

Memo: CNN CEO Mark Thompson urged employees to avoid jumping to conclusions after Netflix pulled out of the WBD deal and to focus on serving CNN's audience (Ted Johnson/Deadline)
https://deadline.com/2026/02/cnn-paramount-warner-bros-merger-1236738177/

With Paramount As A Potential New Owner, CNN CEO Mark Thompson Urges Employees, “Don’t Jump To Conclusions About The Future”
Mark Thompson urged employees to focus on their work after Paramount won the bidding for CNN parent company Warner Bros Discovery.

Students in costume circulate around dragon after end of parade
#photo #photography #dragonday #cornell

After the lunch break (which I had to use to work on my slides for tomorrow), #UndoneCS continues with the second keynote, “Undone Ideas on Programming: When Cultures Fail to Meet” by @….

After the lunch break (which I had to use to work on my slides for tomorrow), #UndoneCS continues with the second keynote, “Undone Ideas on Programming: When Cultures Fail to Meet” by @….

The final piece of the central tower of Barcelona’s Sagrada Familia has been laid in place,
bringing the church to its maximum final height 144 years after work began.
After several days when it has been too windy to work,
the upper section of the 17 metre-high four-sided steel and glass cross was winched into position at 11am on Friday,
completing the tower dedicated to Jesus Christ.
At 172.5 metres, the Sagrada Familia, to which the Catalan architect Antoni G…

Brandon Cleveland: 'Can't wait to get down there and get to work' https://www.raiders.com/video/brandon-cleveland-2026-nfl-draft-press-conference

I loved Soderbergh's Ocean's 11. Here's a breakdown of what made his work so entertaining.
▶️ yeah... no wonder they made two more after this - Soder Cinema
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zfmbhnKt3M4&si=bjCP7POhzBT9mwFw

A year after DOGE, former federal employees are still looking for work (NBC News)
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/doge/year-doge-former-federal-employees-still-unemployed-looking-jobs-rcna265911
http://www.memeorandum.com/260422/p39#a260422p39

Alphabet's Intrinsic, which builds AI models and software for industrial robots, joins Google; it will remain a distinct entity and work with Google DeepMind (Rebecca Szkutak/TechCrunch)
https://techcrunch.com/2026/02/25/alphabet-owned-r…

Alphabet-owned robotics software company Intrinsic joins Google | TechCrunch
Nearly five years after graduating into an independent Alphabet company, Intrinsic is moving under Google's domain.

Treydan Stukes: 'Excited to get to work' https://www.raiders.com/video/treydan-stukes-2026-nfl-draft-press-conference

Keyron Crawford: 'Ready to put the work in' https://www.raiders.com/video/keyron-crawford-2026-nfl-draft-press-conference

Barack Obama says Higher Ground, his production company with Michelle Obama, will become an independent operation after its Netflix deal, signed in 2018, ends (Kimberly Nordyke/The Hollywood Reporter)
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/tv/tv-ne

Barack Obama Says His and Michelle’s Production Company Higher Ground Will Go Independent After Netflix Deal Ends
The couple are “in the process now of transitioning to a more independent [company] where we can work with a bunch of different studios,” Barack Obama said.

Plant specimens and teaching materials that inspired Charles Darwin
and qualified him to work as a naturalist on HMS Beagle
have been unearthed from an archive in Cambridge
and will be used for the first time to teach contemporary students about botany.
The fragile specimens, ink drawings and watercolour illustrations of plants belonged to
Darwin’s teacher and mentor,
Prof John Stevens Henslow,
and have been stored in Cambridge University’s herbarium…

Two CIA officers die in Mexico accident after counternarcotics operation
Two U.S. embassy officials who died in an automobile accident in northern Mexico as they returned from the scene of a counternarcotic operation
worked for the Central Intelligence Agency as part of a significantly expanded role in battling narcotics trafficking in the Western Hemisphere

The deadly car crash Sunday in the state of Chihuahua also took the lives of two Mexican officials
and prompte…

Two CIA officers die in Mexico accident after counternarcotics operation
The U.S. spy agency has significantly expanded its international antidrug work under President Trump and CIA Director Ratcliffe.

Grading the Raiders’ draft haul: Mendoza and McCoy and more, oh my https://www.reviewjournal.com/sports/raiders/grading-the-raiders-draft-haul-mendoza-and-mccoy-and-more-oh-my-3793749/

A federal judge orders Voice of America employees reinstated by March 23, putting hundreds of people who have been on administrative leave back to work (David Bauder/Associated Press)
https://apnews.com/article/voice-of-america-kari-lake-trump-cd6…

Judge orders restoration of Voice of America
A federal judge has ordered the Trump administration to restore the government-run Voice of America to full operations, putting hundreds of journalists who have been on administrative leave for a year back to work. U.S. District Judge Royce C. Lamberth's order came a week after he ruled that Kari Lake, President Donald Trump's choice to effectively lead the U.S. Agency for Global Media, did not have the authority to effectively dismantle the congressionally authorized Voice of America. Followin…

Sources: AI legal software startup Legora is in talks to raise $400M at a $5B valuation, after raising $150M in October 2025 at a $1.8B valuation (Forbes)
https://www.forbes.com/sites/iainmartin/2026/02/17/legal-…

Legal AI Startup Legora Eyes $400 Million Raise At $5 Billion-Plus Valuation
As investors double down on the promise of automating legal work, the company is in talks to raise $400 million following two rounds in late 2025.

John Paulson, a hedge fund billionaire and one of Donald Trump’s earliest Wall Street backers,
is planning to offshore an Ohio manufacturing plant to China despite heavy pushback from employees.
Workers at the plant call the move “a slap in our face”,
after Paulson vocally defended domestic manufacturing, and are fighting to keep the plant open.
Conn Selmer, the largest US manufacturer of brass and orchestra instruments,
told the union it planned to offshore mos…

Fourteen months after
Robert F Kennedy Jr was sworn in
as US health secretary,
the country’s prime public health agency over which he presides
is in a state of disarray.
Eighty per cent of the top director positions at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) stand vacant,
with no permanent leader to drive policies affecting the health of millions of Americans.
No one is in place to coordinate the agency’s day-to-day work fighting infecti…

Since September last year, Trump has announced several changes to the H1-B visa category, which allows highly skilled immigrants to live and work in the U.S. for up to six years.
From higher costs to increased scrutiny in the process,
the uncertainty has made applicants and companies wary.
FY2027 applications will close at the end of February 2026, and the lottery will run after that.
A presidential proclamation subjects new H-1B applications to a $100,000 fee,

What it takes to get an H-1B visa in Trump’s America
An immigration lawyer explains the behind-the-scenes challenges of getting the coveted U.S. visa in 2026.

ICE has used the "Mobile Fortify" facial recognition app to identify immigrants and citizens alike
💥over 100,000 times, by one estimate.
❌It wasn't built to work like that
—and only got approved after DHS abandoned its own privacy rules.
https://www.…

ICE and CBP’s Face-Recognition App Can’t Actually Verify Who People Are
ICE has used Mobile Fortify to identify immigrants and citizens alike over 100,000 times, by one estimate. It wasn't built to work like that—and only got approved after DHS abandoned its own privacy rules.