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@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-06-21 02:34:13

Why AI can't possibly make you more productive; long
#AI and "productivity", some thoughts:
Edit: fixed some typos.
Productivity is a concept that isn't entirely meaningless outside the context of capitalism, but it's a concept that is heavily inflected in a capitalist context. In many uses today it effectively means "how much you can satisfy and/or exceed your boss' expectations." This is not really what it should mean: even in an anarchist utopia, people would care about things like how many shirts they can produce in a week, although in an "I'd like to voluntarily help more people" way rather than an "I need to meet this quota to earn my survival" way. But let's roll with this definition for a second, because it's almost certainly what your boss means when they say "productivity", and understanding that word in a different (even if truer) sense is therefore inherently dangerous.
Accepting "productivity" to mean "satisfying your boss' expectations," I will now claim: the use of generative AI cannot increase your productivity.
Before I dive in, it's imperative to note that the big generative models which most people think of as constituting "AI" today are evil. They are 1: pouring fuel on our burning planet, 2: psychologically strip-mining a class of data laborers who are exploited for their precarity, 3: enclosing, exploiting, and polluting the digital commons, and 4: stealing labor from broad classes of people many of whom are otherwise glad to give that labor away for free provided they get a simple acknowledgement in return. Any of these four "ethical issues" should be enough *alone* to cause everyone to simply not use the technology. These ethical issues are the reason that I do not use generative AI right now, except for in extremely extenuating circumstances. These issues are also convincing for a wide range of people I talk to, from experts to those with no computer science background. So before I launch into a critique of the effectiveness of generative AI, I want to emphasize that such a critique should be entirely unnecessary.
But back to my thesis: generative AI cannot increase your productivity, where "productivity" has been defined as "how much you can satisfy and/or exceed your boss' expectations."
Why? In fact, what the fuck? Every AI booster I've met has claimed the opposite. They've given me personal examples of time saved by using generative AI. Some of them even truly believe this. Sometimes I even believe they saved time without horribly compromising on quality (and often, your boss doesn't care about quality anyways if the lack of quality is hard to measure of doesn't seem likely to impact short-term sales/feedback/revenue). So if generative AI genuinely lets you write more emails in a shorter period of time, or close more tickets, or something else along these lines, how can I say it isn't increasing your ability to meet your boss' expectations?
The problem is simple: your boss' expectations are not a fixed target. Never have been. In virtue of being someone who oversees and pays wages to others under capitalism, your boss' game has always been: pay you less than the worth of your labor, so that they can accumulate profit and thus more capital to remain in charge instead of being forced into working for a wage themselves. Sure, there are layers of management caught in between who aren't fully in this mode, but they are irrelevant to this analysis. It matters not how much you please your manager if your CEO thinks your work is not worth the wages you are being paid. And using AI actively lowers the value of your work relative to your wages.
Why do I say that? It's actually true in several ways. The most obvious: using generative AI lowers the quality of your work, because the work it produces is shot through with errors, and when your job is reduced to proofreading slop, you are bound to tire a bit, relax your diligence, and let some mistakes through. More than you would have if you are actually doing and taking pride in the work. Examples are innumerable and frequent, from journalists to lawyers to programmers, and we laugh at them "haha how stupid to not check whether the books the AI reviewed for you actually existed!" but on a deeper level if we're honest we know we'd eventually make the same mistake ourselves (bonus game: spot the swipe-typing typos I missed in this post; I'm sure there will be some).
But using generative AI also lowers the value of your work in another much more frightening way: in this era of hype, it demonstrates to your boss that you could be replaced by AI. The more you use it, and no matter how much you can see that your human skills are really necessary to correct its mistakes, the more it appears to your boss that they should hire the AI instead of you. Or perhaps retain 10% of the people in roles like yours to manage the AI doing the other 90% of the work. Paradoxically, the *more* you get done in terms of raw output using generative AI, the more it looks to your boss as if there's an opportunity to get enough work done with even fewer expensive humans. Of course, the decision to fire you and lean more heavily into AI isn't really a good one for long-term profits and success, but the modern boss did not get where they are by considering long-term profits. By using AI, you are merely demonstrating your redundancy, and the more you get done with it, the more redundant you seem.
In fact, there's even a third dimension to this: by using generative AI, you're also providing its purveyors with invaluable training data that allows them to make it better at replacing you. It's generally quite shitty right now, but the more use it gets by competent & clever people, the better it can become at the tasks those specific people use it for. Using the currently-popular algorithm family, there are limits to this; I'm not saying it will eventually transcend the mediocrity it's entwined with. But it can absolutely go from underwhelmingly mediocre to almost-reasonably mediocre with the right training data, and data from prompting sessions is both rarer and more useful than the base datasets it's built on.
For all of these reasons, using generative AI in your job is a mistake that will likely lead to your future unemployment. To reiterate, you should already not be using it because it is evil and causes specific and inexcusable harms, but in case like so many you just don't care about those harms, I've just explained to you why for entirely selfish reasons you should not use it.
If you're in a position where your boss is forcing you to use it, my condolences. I suggest leaning into its failures instead of trying to get the most out of it, and as much as possible, showing your boss very clearly how it wastes your time and makes things slower. Also, point out the dangers of legal liability for its mistakes, and make sure your boss is aware of the degree to which any of your AI-eager coworkers are producing low-quality work that harms organizational goals.
Also, if you've read this far and aren't yet of an anarchist mindset, I encourage you to think about the implications of firing 75% of (at least the white-collar) workforce in order to make more profit while fueling the climate crisis and in most cases also propping up dictatorial figureheads in government. When *either* the AI bubble bursts *or* if the techbros get to live out the beginnings of their worker-replacement fantasies, there are going to be an unimaginable number of economically desperate people living in increasingly expensive times. I'm the kind of optimist who thinks that the resulting social crucible, though perhaps through terrible violence, will lead to deep social changes that effectively unseat from power the ultra-rich that continue to drag us all down this destructive path, and I think its worth some thinking now about what you might want the succeeding stable social configuration to look like so you can advocate towards that during points of malleability.
As others have said more eloquently, generative AI *should* be a technology that makes human lives on average easier, and it would be were it developed & controlled by humanists. The only reason that it's not, is that it's developed and controlled by terrible greedy people who use their unfairly hoarded wealth to immiserate the rest of us in order to maintain their dominance. In the long run, for our very survival, we need to depose them, and I look forward to what the term "generative AI" will mean after that finally happens.

@dr2chase@ohai.social
2025-07-22 21:29:58

From Bsky (and colleague):
Cargo Bike Test Drive event is this Saturday AM in Arlington (MA). An event where owners of cargo bikes volunteer their time to help those considering cargo bikes figure out the right cargo bike for them. Test drives in a safe for newbies environment.
familybikeride.org/testdrive

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-22 18:56:18

What TV channel is Cowboys vs. Falcons on today? Time, TV schedule for NFL preseason game cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story

@rberger@hachyderm.io
2025-07-19 18:48:22

"A society under “number go up” tends towards evil. The men and women behind an excessively high rate of return often make deeply sinful and immoral choices, little different than the Confederate plantation owners did in whipping slaves or lords in castles did when abusing serfs. That they do it with spreadsheets doesn’t make it better. (We even use old terminology: I know of several people in a large health insurance conglomerate who set policies to deny care whose nickname is “the three witches.”)
And that’s why Jeff Epstein’s story is so compelling, it expresses this evil in a way that we all understand. On Sunday, I wrote about the oddness of the story, how an elite sex trafficker convicted of procuring children as prostitutes was friends or associates with everyone from Trump to Bill Clinton to Larry Summers to Bill Gates. Epstein represents how elites live in one moral universe where evil bacchanalia is rampant, while the rest of us live in a different more normal one. Every society has elites, and there are always weird things that elites do. But America, and the West, have reached a point where there is increasingly deep resentment and cynicism about this divide."
#USPolitcs #EconomicInequality
thebignewsletter.com/p/the-num

@thopan@norden.social
2025-06-18 19:39:38

Aktueller Titel: The Cure – Where The Birds Always Sing
#DunkleEchos – jetzt live bei mixcloud.com/live/thopan

@AimeeMaroux@mastodon.social
2025-06-21 15:43:16
Content warning:

Happy #JuneSolstice to all who celebrate ☀️
It's now officially summer where I live and while the #SummerSolstice itself is not celebrated any more, there are St. John's fires on St. John Eve and 7 different herbs are hung up to protect the home in some households.
St. …

Photograph of the Athenian acropolis on a clear summer day. The sky is blue and the trees are a lush green, the modern buildings only visible in the far distance with the ancient acropolis and theatres in focus.
@hex@kolektiva.social
2025-07-21 01:50:28

Epstein shit and adjacent, Rural America, Poverty, Abuse
Everyone who's not a pedophile thinks pedophiles are bad, but there's this special obsessed hatred you'll find among poor rural Americans. The whole QAnon/Epstein obsession may not really make sense to folks raised in cities. Like, why do these people think *so much* about pedophiles? Why do they think that everyone in power is a pedophile? Why would the Pizzagate thing make sense to anyone? What is this unhinged shit? A lot of folks (who aren't anarchists) might be inclined to ask "why can't these people just let the cops take care of it?"
I was watching Legal Eagle's run down on the Trump Epstein thing earlier today and I woke up thinking about something I don't know if I've ever talked about. Now that I'm not in the US, I'm not at any risk of talking about it. I don't know how much I would have been before, but that's not something I'm gonna dig into right now. So let me tell you a story that might explain a few things.
I'm like 16, maybe 17. I have my license, so this girl I was dating/not dating/just friends with/whatever would regularly convince me to drive her and her friends around. I think she's like 15 at the time. Her friends are younger than her.
She tells me that there's a party we can go to where they have beer. She was told to invite her friends, so I can come too. We're going to pick her friends up (we regularly fill the VW Golf well beyond the legal limit and drive places) and head to the party.
So I take these girls, at least is 13 years old, down to this party. I'm already a bit sketched out bringing a 13 year old to a party. We drive out for a while. It's in the country. We drive down a long dark road. Three are some barrel fires and a shack. This is all a bit strange, but not too abnormal for this area. We're a little ways outside of a place called Mill City (in Oregon).
We park and walk towards the shack. This dude who looks like a rat comes up and offers us beer. He laughs and talks to the girl who invited me, "What's he doing here? You're supposed to bring your girl friends." She's like, "He's our ride." I don't remember if he offered me a beer or not.
We go over to this shed and everyone starts smoking, except me because I didn't smoke until I turned 18. The other girls start talking about the rat face dude, who's wandered over by the fire with some other guys. They're mainly teasing one of the 13 year old girls about having sex with him a bunch of times. They say he's like, 32 or something. The other girls joke about him only having sex with 13 year olds because he's too ugly to have sex with anyone closer to his own age.
Somewhere along the line it comes out that he's a cop. I never forgot that, it's absolutely seared in to my memory. I can picture his face perfectly still, decades later, and them talking about how he's a deputy, he was in his 30's, and he was having sex with a 13 year old girl. I was the only boy there, but there were a few older men. This was a chunk of the good ol' boys club of the town. I think there were a couple of cops besides the one deputy, and a judge or the mayor or some kind of big local VIP.
I kept trying to get my friend to leave, but she wanted to stay. Turns out under age drinking with cops seems like a great deal if you're a kid because you know you won't get busted. I left alone, creeped the fuck out.
I was told later that I wasn't invited and that I couldn't talk about it, I've always been good at compartmentalization, so I never did.
Decades later it occurred to me what was actually happening. I'm pretty sure that cop was giving meth he'd seized as evidence to these kids. This wasn't some one-off thing. It was regular. Who knows how many decades it went on after I left, or how many decades it had been going on before I found out. I knew this type of thing had happened at least a few times before because that's how that 13 year old girl and that 32 year old cop had hooked up in the first place.
Hearing about Epstein's MO, targeting these teenage girls from fucked up backgrounds, it's right there for me. I wouldn't be surprised if they were involved in sex trafficking of minors or some shit like that... but who would you call if you found out? Half the sheriff's department was there and the other half would cover for them.
You live in the city and shit like that doesn't happen, or at least you don't think it happens. But rural poor folks have this intuition about power and abuse. It's right there and you know it.
Trump is such a familiar character for me, because he's exactly that small town mayor or sheriff. He'll will talk about being tough on crime and hunting down pedophiles, while hanging out at a party that exists so people can fuck 8th graders.
The problem with the whole thing is that rural folks will never break the cognitive dissonance between "kill the peods" and "back the blue." They'll never go kill those cops. No, the pedos must be somewhere else. It must be the elites. It must be outsiders. It can't be the cops and good ol' boys everyone respects. It can't be the mayor who rigs the election to win every time. It can't be the "good upstanding" sheriff. Nah, it's the Clintons.
To be fair, it's probably also the Clitnons, a bunch of other politicians, billionaires, etc. Epstein was exactly who everyone thought he was, and he didn't get away with it for so long without a whole lot of really powerful help.
There are still powerful people who got away with involvement with #Epstein. #Trump is one of them, but I don't really believe that he's the only one.
#USPol #ACAB

Indian Creek Village,
the “Billionaire Bunker” near Miami,
couldn’t get approval to discharge its waste into a neighboring town’s sewer lines.
So the village quietly persuaded state lawmakers to force the issue.
In a world where billionaires are increasingly exercising political clout,
the fight over sewage in Indian Creek suggests the degree to which their influence is extending not just to policy in the White House and Congress but to some of the most foundat…

@arXiv_mathPR_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-23 09:01:30

Coming down from infinity for coordinated particle systems
Varun Sreedhar
arxiv.org/abs/2506.15736 arxiv.org/pdf/2506…

@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-16 20:44:32

Look, I give a fuck, because freedom isn't some abstract idea or lip service paid to "choice" while real decisions are made over your head.
Freedom is collective, it's when everyone gets to shape the community together, no more of this top-down bullshit where rules drop from above and you’re told to accept it or leave. Anarcho-syndicalism is not theory to me, it’s my fucking life story now, because I want to actually live this principle where people, not bosses, run t…

@joe@toot.works
2025-06-21 13:19:04

I'm watching a video online of somebody justifying spending 4X my mortgage because if they didn't have a house with a built-in hanger for their airplanes, they would have to live in town where they would be paying 12X my mortgage. That's a lot of money.

@karlauerbach@sfba.social
2025-08-14 20:51:04

From The Guardian at 15.22 EDT
"Lauren Gambino
Border patrol has showed up outside Gavin Newsom’s event at the democracy center in Los Angeles.
Local news reported that at least one man was arrested, as the governor vowed on X that Democrats would “not be intimidated”.
Inside, speakers referenced the enforcement activity. Ann Burroughs, president of the Japanese American National Museum, said the center was built on the site because it was where, in 1942, Japanes…

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-04 20:14:31

Long; central Massachusetts colonial history
Today on a whim I visited a site in Massachusetts marked as "Huguenot Fort Ruins" on OpenStreetMaps. I drove out with my 4-year-old through increasingly rural central Massachusetts forests & fields to end up on a narrow street near the top of a hill beside a small field. The neighboring houses had huge lawns, some with tractors.
Appropriately for this day and this moment in history, the history of the site turns out to be a microcosm of America. Across the field beyond a cross-shaped stone memorial stood an info board with a few diagrams and some text. The text of the main sign (including typos/misspellings) read:
"""
Town Is Formed
Early in the 1680's, interest began to generate to develop a town in the area west of Natick in the south central part of the Commonwealth that would be suitable for a settlement. A Mr. Hugh Campbell, a Scotch merchant of Boston petitioned the court for land for a colony. At about the same time, Joseph Dudley and William Stoughton also were desirous of obtaining land for a settlement. A claim was made for all lands west of the Blackstone River to the southern land of Massachusetts to a point northerly of the Springfield Road then running southwesterly until it joined the southern line of Massachusetts.
Associated with Dudley and Stoughton was Robert Thompson of London, England, Dr. Daniel Cox and John Blackwell, both of London and Thomas Freak of Hannington, Wiltshire, as proprietors. A stipulation in the acquisition of this land being that within four years thirty families and an orthodox minister settle in the area. An extension of this stipulation was granted at the end of the four years when no group large enough seemed to be willing to take up the opportunity.
In 1686, Robert Thompson met Gabriel Bernor and learned that he was seeking an area where his countrymen, who had fled their native France because of the Edict of Nantes, were desirous of a place to live. Their main concern was to settle in a place that would allow them freedom of worship. New Oxford, as it was the so-named, at that time included the larger part of Charlton, one-fourth of Auburn, one-fifth of Dudley and several square miles of the northeast portion of Southbridge as well as the easterly ares now known as Webster.
Joseph Dudley's assessment that the area was capable of a good settlement probably was based on the idea of the meadows already established along with the plains, ponds, brooks and rivers. Meadows were a necessity as they provided hay for animal feed and other uses by the settlers. The French River tributary books and streams provided a good source for fishing and hunting. There were open areas on the plains as customarily in November of each year, the Indians burnt over areas to keep them free of underwood and brush. It appeared then that this area was ready for settling.
The first seventy-five years of the settling of the Town of Oxford originally known as Manchaug, embraced three different cultures. The Indians were known to be here about 1656 when the Missionary, John Eliott and his partner Daniel Gookin visited in the praying towns. Thirty years later, in 1686, the Huguenots walked here from Boston under the guidance of their leader Isaac Bertrand DuTuffeau. The Huguenot's that arrived were not peasants, but were acknowledged to be the best Agriculturist, Wine Growers, Merchant's, and Manufacter's in France. There were 30 families consisting of 52 people. At the time of their first departure (10 years), due to Indian insurrection, there were 80 people in the group, and near their Meetinghouse/Church was a Cemetery that held 20 bodies. In 1699, 8 to 10 familie's made a second attempt to re-settle, failing after only four years, with the village being completely abandoned in 1704.
The English colonist made their way here in 1713 and established what has become a permanent settlement.
"""
All that was left of the fort was a crumbling stone wall that would have been the base of a higher wooden wall according to a picture of a model (I didn't think to get a shot of that myself). Only trees and brush remain where the multi-story main wooden building was.
This story has so many echoes in the present:
- The rich colonialists from Boston & London agree to settle the land, buying/taking land "rights" from the colonial British court that claimed jurisdiction without actually having control of the land. Whether the sponsors ever actually visited the land themselves I don't know. They surely profited somehow, whether from selling on the land rights later or collecting taxes/rent or whatever, by they needed poor laborers to actually do the work of developing the land (& driving out the original inhabitants, who had no say in the machinations of the Boston court).
- The land deal was on condition that there capital-holders who stood to profit would find settlers to actually do the work of colonizing. The British crown wanted more territory to be controlled in practice not just in theory, but they weren't going to be the ones to do the hard work.
- The capital-holders actually failed to find enough poor suckers to do their dirty work for 4 years, until the Huguenots, fleeing religious persecution in France, were desperate enough to accept their terms.
- Of course, the land was only so ripe for settlement because of careful tending over centuries by the natives who were eventually driven off, and whose land management practices are abandoned today. Given the mention of praying towns (& dates), this was after King Phillip's war, which resulted in at least some forced resettlement of native tribes around the area, but the descendants of those "Indians" mentioned in this sign are still around. For example, this is the site of one local band of Nipmuck, whose namesake lake is about 5 miles south of the fort site: #LandBack.

@grumpybozo@toad.social
2025-06-07 20:27:10

The Internet IS a *set* of physical things that can be blown up by bombs.
However, where there used to be about a dozen places where you’d need to plant a substantial bomb to wreck the Internet, while now there are hundreds you’d need to hit simultaneously to affect most users. It isn’t even really feasible to figure out where those places all are, because the live interconnections are so complex and the fallback links are entirely invisible normally.

@tezoatlipoca@mas.to
2025-06-02 12:56:13

@… @…
mstdn.ca/@CycleWR/…

@tante@tldr.nettime.org
2025-06-16 09:24:59

In the end it seems to me that one of the main distinctions between people who see LLMs as good and those who don't is whether they see the digital part of the world as "content" or "people".
If it's all just content, LLMs make sense. If it's where people live LLMs become a somewhat dumb idea.

@3sframe@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-14 14:58:19

I have two journals for poetry. One where I write some certified stinkers and the other where I try my best to write good ones.
And sometimes, I write some personal favorites in the bad journal and have to transfer it over to the good journal anyway.
Is this weird? Shouldn't I just have one journal where the good and the bad poetry can live next to each other?
#poetry

@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-06-16 02:35:33

Is this true? Hoping for confirmation; more than a little sleeved out that he was so close to where I live if so.
fed.brid.gy/r/https://bsky.app

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 13:06:20

How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love

@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-18 21:06:24

I love it when my oversharing turns into me being hyperfixiated on the CNT-FAI in anarchist Spain from 1936 to 1939. Suddenly, I find myself lost in all the details of revolutionary syndicalism and anarchist ideas.
It feels like stumbling into a secret world where people actually tried to live without rulers or bosses. Every little detail just pulls me deeper into this fascinating moment in time.
GLORY TO ANARCHIST SPAIN! ¡VIVA LA ESPAÑA ANARQUISTA!

@berlinbuzzwords@floss.social
2025-06-16 14:00:16

Join us for our Get-Together right after today's last session at 18:00 CEST!
Head over to the partner area, where you can unwind with tasty snacks and refreshing drinks while enjoying great live music, all sponsored by Search Guard. What better way to end the first day of the conference than by catching up with old friends and making new connections?
#bbuzz

@carlos@social.perceptiveconstructs.com
2025-06-18 13:32:19
@…

I'm fortunate to have the option of exercising outdoors, including in an outdoors gym within walking distance of where I live - there are plenty in Finland, and they are an excellent use of taxpayers money - so I mostly exercise off-hours maskless when nobody is around.

However I have exerted considerable physical effo…
@carlos@perceptiveconstructs.com
2025-06-18 13:32:19
@…

I'm fortunate to have the option of exercising outdoors, including in an outdoors gym within walking distance of where I live - there are plenty in Finland, and they are an excellent use of taxpayers money - so I mostly exercise off-hours maskless when nobody is around.

However I have exerted considerable physical effo…
@penguin42@mastodon.org.uk
2025-07-07 15:58:34

Heavy sudden rain storms are the only really thing that scares me about climate change; I live far enough in land that I don't need to worry directly about sea level rises, I'm assuming will manage with food crops somehow, but there's fuck all you can do when you suddenly get a torrential rain storm that decides to park itself over your city for an hour at full pelt. You might be able to predict heavy rain, but where's it going to land - no way to tell.

@buercher@tooting.ch
2025-08-22 09:08:50

Famine set to be officially declared in Gaza for first time by UN-backed group
A famine is set to be declared in Gaza by the international body responsible for monitoring world hunger.
The Guardian understands that the report will declare that the threshold for famine has been reached in Gaza City, in parts of the south and central areas of the territory but not in the north, where data is insufficient.
theguardian.com/world/live/202

@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-16 12:38:37

What TV channel is 49ers vs. Raiders on today? Time, TV schedule for NFL preseason game ninerswire.usatoday.com/story/

@arXiv_statML_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-11 08:56:30

Lightweight Auto-bidding based on Traffic Prediction in Live Advertising
Bo Yang, Ruixuan Luo, Junqi Jin, Han Zhu
arxiv.org/abs/2508.06069

@samir@functional.computer
2025-08-14 21:20:58

@… @… Good point. Let me be more concrete.
I have an interpreter with a function, `evaluate :: Expr -> Evaluate Value`, where `Evaluate` is some kind of monad.
I want `Evaluate` (the monad) to live with `evaluate` (the func…

@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-06-09 16:55:55

A live blog of WWDC, where OS redesigns, new naming conventions, and more are expected, after failing to deliver on Apple Intelligence, unveiled at WWDC 2024 (Allison Johnson/The Verge)
theverge.com/tech/681646/apple

@gwire@mastodon.social
2025-06-16 12:39:13

Openreach (who operates a big chunk of internet access in the UK) collects a lot of data about end-user internet use and can generate press releases based on analysis of it.
This is like an advert for VPNs.
openreach.com/news/how-do-you-

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-16 15:21:34

What TV channel is Cowboys vs. Ravens on today? Time, TV schedule for NFL preseason game cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story

@metacurity@infosec.exchange
2025-06-12 08:02:26

bitsight.com/blog/bitsight-ide
Bitsight Identifies Thousands of Security Cameras Openly Accessible on the Internet

@newsie@darktundra.xyz
2025-05-28 17:51:28

Developer Builds Tool That Scrapes YouTube Comments, Uses AI to Predict Where Users Live 404media.co/developer-builds-t

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2025-07-08 00:58:48

Is this feasible everywhere?
Maybe not, depending on population density and geography.
However, it's not a big mystery where floods will happen and we figured this out long ago—there's no reason anyone should live there and we know in advance when they happen to evacuate anyone being temporarily around.

@chris@mstdn.chrisalemany.ca
2025-06-09 04:29:36

I am so lucky to live where I do with lakes with crystal clear water nearby.
The water was very nice.
#SproatLake #PortAlberni #summer

@arXiv_astrophGA_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-18 09:21:29

Accuracy of analytic potentials for orbits of satellites around a Milky Way-like galaxy: comparison with $N$-body simulations
Rubens E. G. Machado, Giovanni C. Tauil, Nicholas Schweder-Souza
arxiv.org/abs/2506.13813

@thomastraynor@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-27 13:51:41

That is stupid (to be nice). #octranspo right now is less that dependable and depending on where you live it will take several hours to either get to the school or return to where you live. How about they revoke parking passes for ALL senior management and make them take the bus system.

Where Things Stand
Policy bill: After releasing a 940-page version of their sprawling domestic policy bill overnight, Senate Republicans on Saturday were seeking the votes to pass it, a key step in advancing President Trump’s agenda. They cut deals with holdouts in their ranks that they hoped would be enough to speed the bill through the chamber as early as this weekend.

Final cost: If Senate Republicans begin debate on the sweeping bill on Saturday, they will do so wit…

@Tupp_ed@mastodon.ie
2025-06-26 19:53:43

I wonder where Ireland’s regulator got this idea?
mastodon.neilzone.co.uk/@neil/

Trish Examiner
NEWS SPORT LIFESTYLE BUSINESS OPINION
While Mr Godfrey said his office will not be
"absolutely prescriptive" on how the age
verification should work, a requirement for
a person to show their passport and then a
selfie to verify they are the person on the
passport could be described as a "gold
standard" of verifying a person's age.
"We care much more about the
effectiveness than how it's achieved," he
said.
"There are other ways people could
consider like you just have a live self…
@yaxu@post.lurk.org
2025-05-27 05:55:46

On the train to Barcelona for @… ! Having already spent a couple of days surrounded by live coders in a Peak District retreat I've got this weird thing where I keep seeing live coders just walking around everywhere who turn out to be lookalikes
I'll be involved with a paper about choreographic notation for robots with @…

@sean@scoat.es
2025-07-31 22:17:14

It sounds like that Tea app vulnerability (not the one where they had data just open to the world on Firebase, but a second problem) is what I describe in the first paragraph of this post.
You *can’t* rely on user-controlled devices to safely hold credentials that work for more than that one user—especially if the credentials live outside of something like a hardware security module, which they almost certainly do if your app is storing them.

@annettamallon@aus.social
2025-06-25 07:28:23

Today is Joy Day!
How do you allow joy to show up in your life? How do you bring joy to others?
What does joy mean to you?
Got questions? I'm here to help
#EOLD #DeathDoula #AskAnnetta

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@mgorny@social.treehouse.systems
2025-06-26 18:35:23

Today I recalled an event from my youth.
One day, as I was walking home from school, a car driver stopped me. He asked if I'm from around here. Naturally, I found that quite inappropriate, since he has no business learning where do I live. But I answered. So he's asking me if I know where tire repair shop is. I answered that I don't. So he asked me again, "but are you from around here?" Well, that was too much, so he got a short explanation that just because I live here, that doesn't mean that I need to know every single company around here, and since I am not a driver (obviously — after all I was a school kid), I have never needed tire repair shop.
I suppose that worked quite well, since he drove away at this point. As he drove away, his car revealed a tire repair shop poster on the fence opposite.
The obvious lesson here is: if you need something, ask straight instead of going through silly helper questions.

@markhburton@mstdn.social
2025-08-05 14:06:34

What is missing, at least from the article, is the need to have productive land near where we live. Essential as systems-collapse looms.
Jeremy Corbyn attacks Angela Rayner for selling off allotments - BBC News
bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3dpkv

@teledyn@mstdn.ca
2025-05-26 16:03:41

At 4 hours I left #ubuntu installer running and went to bed. This morning, at 16 hours, I killed the process. Trying again without entering the Live desktop but I do so WISH the devs had left SOME means to know why and where it fails.
This is why when folks ask me to help with their Windows machine, I gracefully decline.

@ThatHoarder@mastodon.online
2025-06-07 10:22:11

In the latest podcast episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I talk about the idea of scaffolding, and how it can help us in our recovery and our dehoarding process. So what is emotional and practical and psychological scaffolding, and where can we get some?! Listen to the episode that went live yesterday to find out 🙌🏻
Find the podcast by searching for That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast in your podcast player.

@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-06 06:28:15

Where to watch Raiders preseason games 2025: Full schedule, times, TV channels, live streams for Las Vegas sportingnews.com/us/nfl/las-ve

@brichapman@mastodon.social
2025-07-11 22:45:22

"To be a powerful futurist is to live at the edge of the present, where the known and unknown collide." -- more @ #activism

@threeofus@mstdn.social
2025-06-01 09:28:33

My mantra for today is that I’m not going to do anything that I don’t want to. We should get at least one day a week where we can live like that, right?

@JSkier@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-30 23:52:06

Nice breeze on this one. I haven't "run" errands before on a run, but it worked out. With so much construction around where I live, it is difficult to drive anywhere close without it being worthwhile. A younger woman at the store did a double take, she thought it was too hot to run in this weather. Lol. #running

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-09 10:04:50

What TV channel is Cowboys vs. Rams on today? Time, TV schedule for NFL preseason game cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story

@arXiv_csAR_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-10 16:13:49

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@ruari@velocipederider.com
2025-07-30 10:15:36

But look at the 4 on that! Don't these sundial makers know how to write Roman numerals? Where is the QC!?
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A bronze sundial on a piece of granite. The bronze is weathered and green with oxidation. An hourglass with wings appears beneath the gnomon, and there are Roman numeral markings for the hours. In a semicircle outside of the dial is the inscription WE LIVE IN DEEDS NOT YEARS. [The four is…
@samerfarha@mastodon.social
2025-08-04 18:14:07

A couple of cars in Reykjavík (is it weird I’ve been here so often I know where a bunch cool cars live?)

An orange Saab 96 parked next to a low wall
A Buick hearse parked at an apartment building off the main road
@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-08-09 17:11:45

Caveat: I’m not sure how rigorous and reliable the AQI data is here: this is a company selling air quality products, not some kind of scientifically peer-reviewed model (AFAICT), and it seems like maybe they’re extrapolating based on models of air currents instead of direct measurements? They don’t actually appear to have measurement stations spread across the Atlantic, for example.
(I will say that, checking it all summer, this map does generally check out against other sources for where I live. They’re not obviously juicing the numbers for MSP, at least.)

Many are closely watching to see whether Representative
David Valadao, Republican of California
and one of the most politically vulnerable Republicans in the country,
votes to advance the procedural rule.
Almost no other member serves a district that relies as heavily on Medicaid as his,
where nearly two-thirds of the population depends on the program for health care.
This bill was always going to bring about a tough vote for Valadao,
and earlier th…

@arXiv_csSE_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-05-30 07:21:40

SWE-bench Goes Live!
Linghao Zhang, Shilin He, Chaoyun Zhang, Yu Kang, Bowen Li, Chengxing Xie, Junhao Wang, Maoquan Wang, Yufan Huang, Shengyu Fu, Elsie Nallipogu, Qingwei Lin, Yingnong Dang, Saravan Rajmohan, Dongmei Zhang
arxiv.org/abs/2505.23419

@grumpybozo@toad.social
2025-08-01 20:18:21

True.
OTOH: The same is true for TB, flu, measles, and a slate of other potentially severe diseases floating around.
#Covid is not a qualitatively new threat, it's the latest in a long line of pathogens that we have become accustomed to just living with. For a long time measles left the list, but it is now back and it is at least as harmful as Covid.
I don’t have a magic bullet.…

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-09 09:16:32

What TV channel is Cowboys vs. Rams on today? Time, TV schedule for NFL preseason game cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2025-07-29 02:22:16

You know what it is though?
It’s just like racism or xenophobia—the lowest level of human assholery.
If you don’t want any to live in a society where other people just exist, or have your children grow up in such a society—why don’t you walk into the ocean?

@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-08 18:20:17

I’m not your go-to for deep economic theory. I'm just your regular Fediverse baby anarchist, who has a huge crush on Rudolf Rocker's syndicalist takes!
But what I do know is that I don’t need bosses or rulers telling me how to live my life. We’re all capable of working together, making decisions as equals, and building something better without anyone lording over us.
I believe in solidarity and collective action. We deserve workplaces and communities where everyone has a …

Anarchist flag hanging on a white textured wall.

Scientists discover a whole new type of ecosystem 30,000 feet deep
For decades, scientists have studied organisms that thrive around hydrothermal vents, fissures spewing superheated fluids.
But the creatures that live around cold seeps
— places where gases such as methane and hydrogen sulfide ooze from the seafloor at near-freezing temperatures,
often where tectonic plates meet
— have been understudied.

So, to investigate, an expedition to the northwest P…

@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-06-28 18:34:14

Remarkable.
I visited Budapest not too long ago and ••loved•• the place. I had trouble while there parsing or even perceiving all the layers of Orbanism and cosmopolitanism and Hungarian-ness. I could tell that there were strong undercurrents invisible to me, both oppressive and liberatory. And I had a sense that yes, it was a city where a march like this was just beneath the surface everywhere, every day.
Watch a few seconds the video for a sense of scale.
theguardian.com/world/live/202

If you’ve ever tried putting butter in your coffee, you have Dave Asprey to thank.
(Sure, it was your annoying coworker who finally convinced you,
but that’s where your annoying coworker got the idea.)
Asprey is arguably the man who popularized the brew of smart drugs, supplements, and self-experimentation
we now know as biohacking.
As part of his multi-million-dollar empire
—which also involves the company Bulletproof Labs
and dressing increasingl…

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-06 09:09:31

Where to watch Cowboys preseason games 2025: Full schedule, times, TV channels, live streams for Dallas sportingnews.com/us/nfl/dallas

I've been reading the paper on small induction-recursion (which is really well-written btw!) and I think there might be a similar kind of terminological thingy about induction-recursion as with the "type-theoretic axiom of choice".
For context, "type-theoretic axiom of choice" is an old name for the distributivity of Π over Σ, which has nothing to do with choice. The reason it's named that is that, if you interpret ∀ as Π and ⊃ as Σ, the formulation of the axiom of choice in terms of relations
(∀ (x : X). ⊃ (y : Y). R(x, y)) − (⊃ (f : X − Y). ∀ (x : X). R(x, f(x)))
is just the distributivity of Π over Σ, which is trivial. The real mathematical content of the axiom of choice in type theory comes from the distributivity of Π over the propositional truncation, since the correct interpretation of ⊃ x. P x is ⊥ Σ x. P x ⊥.
Similarly, "induction-recursion" is made up of two parts: small induction-recursion, which is equivalent to indexed inductive definitions and thus rather anodyne, and the resizing of those definitions so that they live in U when they should live in U⁺, which is where the expressive power of IR comes from.
So, while "type-theoretic axiom of choice" is a very strong name for something innocuous, "induction-recursion" is an innocuous name for something very strong, essentially for dual reasons.
I hope this is not too obvious; I sure wish someone had explained this to me the first time I learned about induction-recursion.

@arXiv_csSE_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-03 17:35:35

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@chris@mstdn.chrisalemany.ca
2025-07-02 16:30:02

Imagine any government in Canada spending $30 Million on a tunnel, for BICYCLES. AAAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHA
the whining from the car people... the wringing of hands... the car dealership lobbyists groups...
(TBC: this is a laugh of desperation and yearning for better things like they have in Zurich, Paris, Europe, where the 21st century seems to live)
#cycling #bicycles #canada #USA #CarCulture
mas.to/@meganL/114782059960984

@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-27 18:49:00

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Pride never ends where I live! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
#Pride #Bisexual #GenderFluid #LGBTQIA

Several pride flags hang from the ceiling above a workspace. Books are visible on the left, a desk with a computer sits in the center, an ethernet cable runs to the left, a window is in the background behind the desktop, and an anarchist flag is displayed on the right wall.