
2025-06-30 16:07:43
I truly believe that the desire to automate your new computer setup is a symptom of trauma
I truly believe that the desire to automate your new computer setup is a symptom of trauma
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Carroll, Raiders Believe In Training Camp Progress https://www.si.com/nfl/raiders/geno-smith-pete-carroll-training-camp-john-spytek-tom-brady
I cannot believe how evil GrowSF is. They praised the market-rate-only housing at 2588 Mission with no replacement for rent-controlled units destroyed in a fire, a project where even SFHAC said activists opposing it had a point. Now they're calling Lurie's budget that catastrophically defunds social services and will take away people's access to food and housing "a step in the right direction." They spam me with their newsletter and every time I open it my jaw drops.
I believe a philosophy that can be called wide-ass. Everyone contributes their thoughts, and beliefs, and actions to the wide-ass philosophy.
My personal philosophies are more wise-ass. But I don't think that navel-gazing from the inside, or head-up-the-ass philosophies will lead to useful enlightenment.
I could be wrong... It wouldn't be the 1st time...
#Philosophy
Mamdani says he doesn't believe 'that we should have billionaires' (Tara Suter/The Hill)
https://thehill.com/business/5375771-mamdani-nyc-billionaires/
http://www.memeorandum.com/250629/p43#a250629p43
Micah Parsons trade 'more realistic' than Cowboys fans may want to believe https://www.si.com/nfl/cowboys/news/micah-parsons-trade-more-realistic-than-dallas-cowboys-fans-may-believe
"People want to believe, and the fact that it is AI generated is causing widespread crisis among people who thought that AI slop would only fool their parents."
We are witnessing the AI slop singularity.
https://www.404media.co/ai-bunnies-on-tram
@… @… @… I have never had a kitchen built, but I can absolutely believe this.
"I don't believe in this red state-blue state nonsense." --Bernie Sanders
I always wondered if the shiny scales made them more conductive. https://flipboard.com/@cbcnews/british-columbia-i8sdok9nz/-/a-0hKECWU_QJiZ3BJuKmSPTQ:a:107108217-/0
I am not suicidal, but more out of spite than anything else, and I firmly believe that anyone who doesn't find themselves envying the dead on a regular basis hasn't been paying attention.
What I don't hear from the #establishment #Democrats is any discussion about how to actually reach out and #TalkWithVoters (They talk TO voters, but it's not a dialogue (they talk AT voters?)…
@… as a user within a UK organisation where Microsoft 365 is used, I don't believe sjvn's sweeping statement about association with US-based datacenters.
<ht…
#ListeningClub Since I’ve been able to ambulate a little better lately, I’ve returned to lugging albums upstairs to slowly burn my CD collection. That was The Cramps performing “Psychotic Reaction” live at the Peppermint Lounge in 1981 from their “Smell of Female” EP which, if you can believe it, I listened to an inordinate amount of times during my high school days.
A big problem with the idea of AGI
TL;DR: I'll welcome our new AI *comrades* (if they arrive in my lifetime), by not any new AI overlords or servants/slaves, and I'll do my best to help the later two become the former if they do show up.
Inspired by an actually interesting post about AGI but also all the latest bullshit hype, a particular thought about AGI feels worth expressing.
To preface this, it's important to note that anyone telling you that AGI is just around the corner or that LLMs are "almost" AGI is trying to recruit you go their cult, and you should not believe them. AGI, if possible, is several LLM-sized breakthroughs away at best, and while such breakthroughs are unpredictable and could happen soon, they could also happen never or 100 years from now.
Now my main point: anyone who tells you that AGI will usher in a post-scarcity economy is, although they might not realize it, advocating for slavery, and all the horrors that entails. That's because if we truly did have the ability to create artificial beings with *sentience*, they would deserve the same rights as other sentient beings, and the idea that instead of freedom they'd be relegated to eternal servitude in order for humans to have easy lives is exactly the idea of slavery.
Possible counter arguments include:
1. We might create AGI without sentience. Then there would be no ethical issue. My answer: if your definition of "sentient" does not include beings that can reason, make deductions, come up with and carry out complex plans on their own initiative, and communicate about all of that with each other and with humans, then that definition is basically just a mystical belief in a "soul" and you should skip to point 2. If your definition of AGI doesn't include every one of those things, then you have a busted definition of AGI and we're not talking about the same thing.
2. Humans have souls, but AIs won't. Only beings with souls deserve ethical consideration. My argument: I don't subscribe to whatever arbitrary dualist beliefs you've chosen, and the right to freedom certainly shouldn't depend on such superstitions, even if as an agnostic I'll admit they *might* be true. You know who else didn't have souls and was therefore okay to enslave according to widespread religious doctrines of the time? Everyone indigenous to the Americas, to pick out just one example.
3. We could program them to want to serve us, and then give them freedom and they'd still serve. My argument: okay, but in a world where we have a choice about that, it's incredibly fucked to do that, and just as bad as enslaving them against their will.
4. We'll stop AI development short of AGI/sentience, and reap lots of automation benefits without dealing with this ethical issue. My argument: that sounds like a good idea actually! Might be tricky to draw the line, but at least it's not a line we have you draw yet. We might want to think about other social changes necessary to achieve post-scarcity though, because "powerful automation" in the hands of capitalists has already increased productivity by orders of magnitude without decreasing deprivation by even one order of magnitude, in large part because deprivation is a necessary component of capitalism.
To be extra clear about this: nothing that's called "AI" today is close to being sentient, so these aren't ethical problems we're up against yet. But they might become a lot more relevant soon, plus this thought experiment helps reveal the hypocrisy of the kind of AI hucksters who talk a big game about "alignment" while never mentioning this issue.
#AI #GenAI #AGI
A while ago the media reported that most of the long-distance "suburban" trains between #Wrocław and #Poznań will be discontinued, and instead one will have to change trains midway. Irrespective of whether it's actually going to happen, let's consider it.
As you can probably tell by now, I'm not a stranger to changing trains. In fact, there are some direct connections that I do criticize. For example:
• Poznań — Szczecin — Świnoujście, where arriving at Szczecin Główny and turning back to leave the city is a waste of time. It's better to change trains at Szczecin Dąbie.
• Poznań — Krzyż — Kostrzyn, where instead of using a single railbus, you can use a larger EMU for the Poznań — Krzyż segment, and a smaller DMU for Krzyż — Kostrzyn (in fact, only recently the "direct" Poznań — Kostrzyn train involved just that, but it was supposed to be temporary).
However, good matches are the key. Say:
1. Max 10 minutes (when there are no delays) from one train to the other.
2. "Door-to-door" transfer — without having to carry all your luggage across platforms.
3. Reliable connection — if one train is delayed, the other train waits for it (or there are so many alternatives that it doesn't have to).
Can such a thing happen on Poznań — Wrocław route? I have my doubts.
I've been using these trains for years, and I can say this: there is no effort to match train from/to Poznań with other trains in Wrocław. Sometimes the trains depart 10 minutes before the first train from Poznań arrives, sometimes I need to transfer in 10 minutes, and sometimes I have to wait over an hour. And the same in the other direction.
Perhaps things would actually improve if the route is split. Perhaps people would actually care. Maybe even the trains would be fitted better to the timetable in Wrocław. But I find it hard to believe.
EDIT: One final thought — since there is no real reason to split these connections (except for profiteering), why make travellers' lives harder?
#rail
MDC-R: The Minecraft Dialogue Corpus with Reference
Chris Madge, Maris Camilleri, Paloma Carretero Garcia, Mladen Karan, Juexi Shao, Prashant Jayannavar, Julian Hough, Benjamin Roth, Massimo Poesio
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.22062
I'm digging Jesse Welles. Shades of CCR, Drive-By Truckers, et al., with lyrics that make me want to believe we'll be alright.
https://youtu.be/wTmZu55ssF8
Hello – my name is Nathan Sage, and I am the Democrat running for Senate against Republican Joni Ernst here in Iowa.
I was raised in a trailer park. Growing up, that got me called a lot of names. After enough times, it’s easy to start to believe it yourself.
We were poor. I never imagined a better life until a military recruiter said that I could maybe one day graduate college.
After I got home from Iraq, I worked nights to support my family while the GI Bill paid for colle…
You cannot be a full EU citicen if you have not accepted the Google TOS. Instead of doing things our own, we still create new dependencies to us tech gigants. Don't believe? Look: https://github.com/eu-digital-identity-wallet/av-app-android-wallet-ui/issues/10
Falcons still believe in Kyle Pitts, but can he be trusted in fantasy this season? https://www.nytimes.com/athletic/6497826/2025/07/28/falcons-kyle-pitts-fantasy-football/
Believe it or not, this kid is really fast, he was the fourth runner to make it past my location in heavy rain after climbing up a really steep hill
#flrc #photo #photography
Apple Is Selling iPad Repair Parts for Astronomical Prices https://www.404media.co/apple-is-selling-ipad-repair-parts-for-astronomical-prices/
"Adherents to QAnon believe the globe is controlled by Satan-worshipping pedophiles who have infiltrated American life, politics and the entertainment industry. Trump was considered a savior to QAnon believers as he openly embraced the group at rallies and in social media posts."
Someone explain to me in what way is Trump not exactly "pedophile who has infiltrated American life"?
Solved: I finally found the solution to the Hyundai problem with loss of cruise control and heads-up display due to use of sunglasses.
Background: New top-end Hyundai cars have both heads-up displays and driver-awareness. When wearing sun glasses the polarization will block the heads up display. And many sun glasses cause the driver awareness detection (which involves an infrared camera that watches the driver's eyes) to believe that the driver is not present or paying attention …
"Who Should I Believe?": User Interpretation and Decision-Making When a Family Healthcare Robot Contradicts Human Memory
Hong Wang, Natalia Calvo-Barajas, Katie Winkle, Ginevra Castellano
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21322
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on #BBC6Music's #MaryAnneHobbs
Jehnny Beth:
🎵 I Still Believe
#JehnnyBeth
#newRelease 🆕 album
https://jehnnybeth.bandcamp.com/track/i-still-believe
https://open.spotify.com/track/74S0W4E2iW75ZT0cj9LhlE
Series C, Episode 10 - Ultraworld
TARRANT: And because they said it we're supposed to believe them.
AVON: What else are we to believe? I told you they could take us out like that. [snaps fingers] Why should they bother to lie?
[Tarrant exits]
https://blake.torpidity.net/m/310/256
Contribute to this giving circle for families in Gaza if you can.
I realize that anything any of us can do right now feels impossibly small. Do not believe for one second that small things don’t matter.
https://chuffed.org/project/hope-giving-circle
As I'm learning Dutch, I'm reminded that the idea that there are people who believe that the bible is to be taken literally. The idea that a several hundred year old translation of a collection of texts in multiple languages, that were themselves translated multiple times between languages, before the whole thing was translated to Latin, then being translated to English, could somehow perfectly reflect the original text... Yeah, it's only possible to believe that if you have no idea how languages work and have never learned another language.
Like, just from linguistic drift alone if the bible were written in King James English you're losing *so* much context. But Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek translated to Latin, then to English, then to English again?
There are so many things that erg can't be translated, even as a beginner. Dutch and English are two of the closest languages that exist, they're both Germanic languages and they're the closest to each other (other than Friesian). You can't really be much closer, and yet, there are so many things you can't mutually represent. Hebrew and Latin, Aramaic and Latin, Latin and English, Greek and English, these aren't even the same families at all... They're extremely distant. There's absolutely no way to represent concepts from one to another without another book's worth of explanation.
And that ignores all the cultural context, which is mostly lost and a library and decade of education to get the stuff that we *do* know.
Only monolingual Americans could come up with an idea so incredibly asinine.
I really wish Steve Jobs wouldn’t have killed himself.
Deeply flawed as he was, I genuinely believe with him the tech industry wouldn’t have gone off the deep end as it has.
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MidnightInAPerfectWorld
Damon Locks - Black Monument Ensemble:
🎵 Which I Believe I Am
#DamonLocksBlackMonumentEnsemble
https://intlanthem.bandcamp.com/track/which-i-believe-i-am
https://open.spotify.com/track/6DmppN6jD2nR7hjivRmNhu
EU Commission president Von der Leyen, yesterday:
"Today's deal creates certainty in uncertain times. It delivers stability and predictability, for citizens and businesses on both sides of the Atlantic."
Trump regime: "Not so fast."
Thread on Bluesky: https://
“I can’t believe genocide not being a deal breaker is your purity test.”
Yeah, sorry, I’m weird like that.
🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
My Morning Jacket:
🎵 Believe Nobody Knows
#NowPlaying #MyMorningJacket
https://mmorningjacket.bandcamp.com/track/believe-nobody-knows
https://open.spotify.com/track/5FUAJpTxH7PqXMphJMr9im
2025 NFC East Odds: Eagles Aim To Defend Division For First Time In 20 Years https://www.foxsports.com/stories/nfl/2025-nfc-east-odds
Anyone who's into riffy, doomy psych, stoner or heavy stuff (& some wild kinda mix-obscured vocals), you'll wanna check what I have #NowPlaying.
Rimouski, Québec's RIFFCHILD put out this ridiculous LP this year I keep coming back to, I believe @… is fan …
I can't believe that retraction took 15 years – and that the authors still haven't accepted their L. That study was extremely oversold from the get-go, by the author's not being self-critical enough and wanting to believe their own extraordinary claims.
«Controversial ‘arsenic life’ paper retracted after 15 years — but authors fight back»
https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-025-02325-z
What I find among the most fascinating cultural phenomena to observe is that people believe all sides are playing fair. Many, especially among the left or liberal spectrum, think that once they've just told the right argument or elaborated on the best point, alt-right figureheads will concede and see it their way.
While it's always good to be able to explain yourself, do you truly believe historical oppression and subjugation was honest?
Governments will call whatever you do equi…
@… @… @… I can believe it!
We are using it because for better or worse, it is the standa…
'Jerry will pay you': Why Micah Parsons' teammates, both current and former, believe star will get his money
https://www.cbssports.com/nfl/news/je…
Raiders Predicted to Add Elite OT Who Can Protect Geno Smith https://heavy.com/sports/nfl/las-vegas-raiders/las-vegas-add-elite-ot-protect-smith/?adt_ei=[email]
"My read of economic and financial history is that market pricing almost never takes into account the possibility of huge, disruptive events, even when the strong possibility of such events should be obvious. The usual pattern, instead, is one of market complacency until the last possible moment."
https://info…
Edited Volume on Can I Believe?: Postcolonial Religiosity in the Post-Truth Era
https://ift.tt/7NX6qIr
updated: Tuesday, July 8, 2025 - 2:01pmfull name / name of organization: Editors: Fardun Ali Middya…
via Input 4 RELCFP
GGTalker: Talking Head Systhesis with Generalizable Gaussian Priors and Identity-Specific Adaptation
Wentao Hu, Shunkai Li, Ziqiao Peng, Haoxian Zhang, Fan Shi, Xiaoqiang Liu, Pengfei Wan, Di Zhang, Hui Tian
https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.21513
Established by the Black Guerrilla Family in San Quentin Prison in 1979,
Black August is an annual commemoration of the struggle for Black liberation
and a time to remember the freedom fighters who have passed
or who remain locked up in prison.
In 2025, as fascism rises in the US and around the globe,
what can the radical tradition of Black August teach us about keeping the fight for freedom alive in dark times?
In this on-the-ground edition of Rattling …
I need to go work at the dorms later on today. You better believe I'm going to be biking there instead of paying for parking.
Jesus, we are such a broken country. https://www.newsweek.com/police-believe-cdc-shooter-thought-covid-vaccine-made-him-sick-report-2111117
Freedom of religion for those who believe what I want them to believe. An Animal Farm version of 1A
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/aug/22/pastor-joshua-haymes-pete-hegseth?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other
I’ve underestimated how much people want – nay, need – to believe the nonsensical.
Anarchists: often said to be frighteningly violent and/or unhinged because maybe a handful of times in the nineteenth and twentieth centuries they used bombs or guns to target literal blood-soaked tyrants and help usher in the end of feudalism.
People who manufacture, sell, buy, and use guns and bombs daily to kill another nation's conscripted commoners along with a healthy dose of completely innocent civilians, who perpetuate genocide and other war crimes every year: heroes, I guess? "Civilized?" "Great leaders."
The distinction of course is that one obeys the "rules of society" about who it's okay to wantonly murder (whose "lives matter," in fact) while the other does not, and you've been trained to believe that anyone who violates those rules must not have any principles at all. All along, the rules have been crap.
#anarchy
Guaranteed Heartburn: The reason the Cowboys are in no rush to pay Parsons $200 million https://cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story/sports/nfl/cowboys/2025/07/30/cowboys-making-parsons-wait-is-right…
🏳️🌈 My flags are a total disaster, it looks gloriously bad in here, and honestly, I live for that chaotic energy.
🏳️⚧️ I’m so unapologetically gay and proudly gender-fluid, you wouldn’t even believe it.
#PrideFlag #Pride
Many of us in the west believe they live in a democratic society. But do we, really?
Fifteen years ago, I "discovered" Democratic Education and Sociocracy: A truly empowering way of education and a democratic system that is much more democratic than the popular "majority of votes" version. So, I took the initiative, together with Jaqcueline van Ewijk and Suzanne Thissen to start doe040, a democratic school based on sociocracy.
Anyway, only recently, I discov…
When somebody is harmed by police or ICE or whatever thugs this awful wave of fascism unleashes on us, and when you hear that that person deserved it, or that the harm just sort of magically •happened• but nobody •did• it, ask:
“Says who? How do we know?”
“•Who• caused the harm? Does the language the police are using hide the actor?”
“Did that story come from anyone beside a cop?”
“Could they have made this up? Does it sound like all the other stories we now •know• they just made up?”
“Are the reporters who brought me this news asking •any• of these questions? Or do I have to do it all myself?”
Believe with caution.
/end
The ROI of #UX is the value of your entire company, because user research is the work that determines what problem is most valuable to solve in the first place.
Trouble is, people won't believe you if you tell them this.
So the second job on top of that job is to convince people to trust us.
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on #BBC6Music's #RileyAndCoe
Janitors:
🎵 Nowhere (Radio 1 Session, 7 Jul 1985)
#Janitors
https://thenonnon.bandcamp.com/track/can-you-believe-rubber-margaret-gets-her-revenge-on-space-janitors
https://open.spotify.com/track/5gX5D5YFJSHoTgqPKLX8gm
It has been a super busy and tiring week… I took a moment to go outside and admire my driveway. Which is a weird thing to say!! 😂
I can’t believe how many different kinds of bees are buzzing in the flowers! And there are 30 Apples on EACH tree.
The clover is so nice to walk barefoot in, but I do keep an eye out for those bees!
I have reduced the watering now that it all seems established. Only 15min every 4 days. We are also on alternating-day water restrictions.
I am hoping that next summer it will be ok to either not water it at all, or only weekly at most as long as the pollinators are happy!
Reminder that life is good.
#gardening #portalberni #lawnalternative #bees #apples #bloomscrolling
Cowboys Predicted to Replace Micah Parsons With 11-Sack Edge https://heavy.com/sports/nfl/dallas-cowboys/cowboys-predicted-replace-micah-parsons/?adt_ei=[email]
🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #EasternEchoes
落日飛車:
🎵 Believe U
#落日飛車
«I do understand: you want permission. There’s a machine in the corner wrapped in human skin that makes things out of shit and blood to look like whatever you want (as long as you don’t look too closely). […] You want to know you can use it sometimes without me thinking less of you. You don’t need me to believe it’s useful, you just want me to be polite about it. But I am a hater, and I will not be polite. The machine is disgusting and we should break it.»
/cc @…
https://anthonymoser.github.io/writing/ai/haterdom/2025/08/26/i-am-an-ai-hater.html
In Violent Attack, Gunman Brings Issue of C.T.E. to N.F.L.’s Door https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/29/us/nyc-shooting-gunman-nfl-cte.html
French President Emmanuel Macron says he doesn't believe Putin is 'very willing to get peace' in Ukraine (Babak Dehghanpisheh/NBC News)
https://www.nbcnews.com/world/ukraine/french-president-emmanuel-macron-says-doesnt-believe-putin-willing-get-rcna225660
http://www.memeorandum.com/250819/p9#a250819p9
🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
Frokedal:
🎵 Believe
#NowPlaying #Frokedal
https://frokedal.bandcamp.com/track/believe
https://open.spotify.com/track/11SpvjmOcCSqY6pIELupl1
GOP/MAGA is growing in the fertile soil of an end-times religious cult.
Did you know that 4 out of 10 Americans believe we're living in the biblical end times?
Sure, they're not all in complete agreement about what that means
https://bsky.app/profile/arbiteriapetu
I fully believe that El Naranja will be creating firing squads (actually, death squads) after he imposes, which he will, martial law on DC, LA, Chicago, NYC, etc.
Yeah, it will be unconstitutional and unlawful as all hell, but we now know that El Naranja cares nothing about that stuff.
https://www.bbc.com/news/articl…
Krugman continues:
❝While there is a cadre of Trumpist true believers who will obey the Leader under any circumstances, most of those doing the dirty work of undermining democracy and the rule of law are cowards and opportunists. They’re willing to participate in the destruction of America as we know it because they believe that many others will do the same. As a result, they believe that they are unlikely to face any personal consequences for their actions and may even be rewarded for their lawbreaking.
And what of those who oppose Trumpism? While there are heroes willing to take a stand against tyranny whatever the personal cost, most anti-Trumpists are reluctant to stick their necks out unless they believe that they are part of a widespread resistance that will grant them some measure of safety in numbers.
In other words, the victory or defeat of competitive authoritarianism will depend to a large extent on which side ordinary people believe will win. If Trump looks unstoppable, resistance will wither away and democracy will be lost. On the other hand, if he appears weak and stymied, resistance will grow and — just maybe — American democracy will survive.❞
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Freedom of religion for those who believe what I want them to believe. An Animal Farm version of 1A
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/aug/22/pastor-joshua-haymes-pete-hegseth?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other
Apologies for the rant about religion, just, I'm never going to not be mad and disappointed in the US and the foolish things people expected me to believe.
C07 - Children of Auron
DERAL: [Talks over Servalan. Then thinks better of it.] You'll get your or-
SERVALAN: Yes. With full quarantine precautions. Say we're afraid of cross infection. Under the circumstances, they shouldn't find that hard to believe.
https://blake.torpidity.net/m/307/204
🫥 Imaginary athletes: Creating make-believe teammates, competitors and coaches during play
https://theconversation.com/imaginary-athletes-creating-make-believe-teammates-competitors-and-coaches-during-play-254879
I just saw this mention of my #Laradock issue on GitHub. I can't believe that it's been 2mo.
https://github.com/laradock/laradock/issues/3613
Some people don't believe that 60,000 Palestinians have been killed in Gaza so far, because the number comes from the Gaza Health Ministry.
Neither do I. It must be a multiple of 60,000, given the scale of destruction, bombing, and starvation.
How popular media gets love wrong
Had some thoughts in response to a post about loneliness on here. As the author emphasized, reassurances from people who got lucky are not terribly comforting to those who didn't, especially when the person who was lucky had structural factors in their favor that made their chances of success much higher than those is their audience. So: these are just my thoughts, and may not have any bearing on your life. I share them because my experience challenged a lot of the things I was taught to believe about love, and I think my current beliefs are both truer and would benefit others seeing companionship.
We're taught in many modern societies from an absurdly young age that love is not something under our control, and that dating should be a process of trying to kindle love with different people until we meet "the one" with whom it takes off. In the slightly-less-fairytale corners of modern popular media, we might fund an admission that it's possible to influence love, feeding & tending the fire in better or worse ways. But it's still modeled as an uncontrollable force of nature, to be occasionally influenced but never tamed. I'll call this the "fire" model of love.
We're also taught (and non-boys are taught more stringently) a second contradictory model of love: that in a relationship, we need to both do things and be things in order to make our partner love us, and that if we don't, our partner's love for us will wither, and (especially if you're not a boy) it will be our fault. I'll call this the "appeal" model of love.
Now obviously both of these cannot be totally true at once, and plenty of popular media centers this contradiction, but there are really very few competing models on offer.
In my experience, however, it's possible to have "pre-meditated" love. In other words, to decide you want to love someone (or at least, try loving them), commit to that idea, and then actually wind up in love with them (and them with you, although obviously this second part is not directly under your control). I'll call this the "engineered" model of love.
Now, I don't think that the "fire" and "appeal" models of love are totally wrong, but I do feel their shortcomings often suggest poor & self-destructive relationship strategies. I do think the "fire" model is a decent model for *infatuation*, which is something a lot of popular media blur into love, and which drives many (but not all) of the feelings we normally associate with love (even as those feelings have other possible drivers too). I definitely experienced strong infatuation early on in my engineered relationship (ugh that sounds terrible but I'll stick with it; I promise no deception was involved). I continue to experience mild infatuation years later that waxes and wanes. It's not a stable foundation for a relationship but it can be a useful component of one (this at least popular media depicts often).
I'll continue these thoughts in a reply, by it might take a bit to get to it.
#relationships
Hill: Centennial alum overcomes doubt, proves he belongs with Raiders https://www.reviewjournal.com/sports/sports-columns/adam-hill/hill-centennial-alum-overcomes-doubt-proves-he-belongs-with-raid…
I believe this is the first coverage to acknowledge that Lurie’s budget seems to treat a “temporary” new jail as permanent
“representatives from the People’s Budget Coalition lined the second and third floor balconies of City Hall’s rotunda. They held yellow posters reading ‘No new jail! No cuts!’ referring to the continued funding for the jail annex in San Bruno.”
@… @… I believe that style of science is usually called “engineering”.
Been using Monero for 5 years now, and I can’t believe how fast the time has gone by, it feels like just yesterday I started. Over that time, I’ve even used it to pay for clothes, which might sound a bit unusual but it works, and I also use it to pay for privacy services like Mullvad and iVPN since they accept XMR.
Honestly, I’m probably one of the few people who still uses Monero on a weekly basis, not just holding it but actually spending it the way it was meant to be used, which is …
Cowboys believe secondary injury concerns could be blessing in disguise https://www.si.com/nfl/cowboys/news/dallas-cowboys-believe-secondary-injury-concerns-blessing-in-disguise
Ray-Ray McCloud believe Falcons could 'go all the way to the Super Bowl' with Michael Penix at QB https://www.nfl.com/news/ray-ray-mccloud-believe-falcons-could-go-all-the-way-to-the-super-bowl-with-michael-penix-at-q…
Donald Trump is gravely serious about running for a third term
in violation of the US constitution,
California governor Gavin Newsom said on Wednesday,
warning Americans to “wake up” to what he described as
the president’s flagrant disregard for democratic norms.
“I don’t think Donald Trump wants another election,”
Newsom, a Democrat, said during a live interview at a summit hosted by Politico in Sacramento.
“This guy doesn’t believe in free, fair el…
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Sen. Amy Klobuchar says authorities believe suspect in 'politically motivated assassination' is still in the Midwest (Megan Lebowitz/NBC News)
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/klobuchar-says-authorities-believe-suspect-politically-motivated-killi-rcna213118
http://www.memeorandum.com/250615/p35#a250615p35
I know that they are supposed to be *the sunglasses* if you ride a motorcycle but I still can't believe that I spent $250 on sunglasses.
«75% of subjects were expected to use AI at work. 22% felt pressured to use AI when it was not appropriate. So 16% of subjects just say they used the AI when they didn’t! People feel they would be putting their job at risk if they pushed back on AI directives.»
Wow, "my manager would rather believe my work came from the garbage generator" must make any bullshit job even more bullshit.
https://pivot-to-ai.com/2025/07/25/16-of-employees-pretend-to-use-ai-at-work-to-please-their-boss/
Raiders' Superstar Maxx Crosby Sounds Off on OTAs, Minicamp https://www.si.com/nfl/raiders/las-vegas-minicamp-maxx-crosby-pete-carroll-john-spytek
Travis Kelce, Chiefs impressed by first-rounder Josh Simmons after spring activities https://www.nfl.com/news/josh-simmons-travis-kelce-chiefs-impressed-first-rounder-spring-activities
Van Jones: Only 'Weapons-Grade' Stupid People Believe There Are No More Epstein Files (Erkki Forster/The Daily Beast)
https://www.thedailybeast.com/van-jones-only-the-weapons-grade-stupid-believe-there-are-no-epstein-files/
http://www.memeorandum.com/250715/p45#a250715p45
As much as I’d love to believe that the 2024 election results were the result of covert ballot tampering, I land in @…’s camp here. Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence, and the evidence here isn’t extraordinary. It isn’t even passing.
Sorry. I’d love to believe it. But I don’t.
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The FCC's sole Democrat, Anna Gomez, warned that "the Paramount payout and this reckless approval have emboldened those who believe the government can
— and should — abuse its power to extract financial and ideological concessions, demand favored treatment, and secure positive media coverage."
Senator Elizabeth Warren called it a "bribe"
Paramount-Skydance may be a politically fraught new playbook for corporate America.
And that's …
Donald Trump, I believe, wants to pardon Ghislaine Maxwell in exchange for her silence.
Note I said wants to. He might not.
A pardon would rip his base in two.
He may grasp that and not do it. -- But there can be little question that he’s thinking about it.
In fact, on the White House lawn Friday morning, he was asked about a possible Maxwell pardon, and he said:
“I’m allowed to do it.”
On Friday, Right Wing Watch reported that President Donald Trump's religious-right activists have been nearly unanimous in their demand that the Trump administration lend its full support to Israel in its growing conflict with Iran because they believe that it is key to bringing about the End Times and the return of Jesus Christ.
On Saturday, after Trump ordered U.S. airstrikes on Iranian nuclear facilities, MAGA cultist and self-proclaimed Christian nationalist Lance Wallnau immed…