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@lightweight@mastodon.nzoss.nz
2025-07-04 04:33:08

This is a delightful segment on RNZ (nights with Emile Donovan) talking about 'perfect pitch'... rnz.co.nz/national/programmes/

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-04 09:42:21

A note on maximal plane subgraphs of the complete twisted graph containing perfect matchings
Elsa Oma\~na-Pulido, Eduardo Rivera-Campo
arxiv.org/abs/2507.02711

@Mediagazer@mstdn.social
2025-08-04 03:35:36

Regal Cinemas will distribute a new Dude Perfect documentary on 800 screens, including rivals AMC and Cinemark, as it looks beyond Hollywood for content (Lucas Shaw/Bloomberg)
bloomberg.com/news/newsletters

@gwire@mastodon.social
2025-07-02 20:06:07

Wow, they're cancelling that Perfect Dark reboot? It looked so good, though?
kotaku.com/xbox-reportedly-can

@arXiv_mathNT_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 12:20:23

Perfect $F$-gauges and finite flat group schemes
Keerthi Madapusi, Shubhodip Mondal
arxiv.org/abs/2509.01573 arxiv.org/pdf/2509.01573

@NFL@darktundra.xyz
2025-06-05 10:02:22

The Scotsman who helped the Eagles perfect the tush push: 'Nobody else is doing what I do' nytimes.com/athletic/6390145/2

@arXiv_mathGT_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-05 10:21:41

Kauffman bracket polynomials, perfect matchings and cluster variables
Weiqing Tian
arxiv.org/abs/2508.02535 arxiv.org/pdf/2508.02535

@arXiv_grqc_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-04 10:04:01

Influence of Perfect Fluid Dark Matter on Shadow Observables of Yang-Mills modified charged black holes
Md Sabir Ali, Abhishek Negi, Sanjay Pant
arxiv.org/abs/2509.03507

@cosmos4u@scicomm.xyz
2025-07-03 00:00:55

The Detection-vs-Retrieval Challenge - #Titan as an Exoplanet: arxiv.org/abs/2506.12144 -> Titan is the Perfect Benchmark for Studying Exoplanet Atmospheres: universetoday.com/articles/tit

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-09-04 10:49:35

Broadcaster Melissa Stark's 25-year NFL sideline anniversary is perfect timing usatoday.com/story/sports/medi

@arXiv_physicsoptics_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 12:13:33

Coherent perfect absorption and lasing in bimodal Fabry-P\'erot interferometers
Dmitry A. Bykov, Evgeni A. Bezus, Leonid L. Doskolovich
arxiv.org/abs/2509.01356

@samvarma@fosstodon.org
2025-07-02 16:13:55

Chris Arnade was one of my favorite followers on the old place. One of the very few people who thinks very deeply, but also outside of their own silos, to create a cross-disciplinary theory of the world. One of the few people who is truly willing to see the world as it is.
The solutions to our problems will never come from one realm of expertise, but only by synthesizing a strategy from a more holistic world view.

@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-09-04 12:37:22

Why the Raiders Have Perfect Opportunity to Shock Doubters si.com/nfl/raiders/las-vegas-m

@kexpmusicbot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-07-02 18:25:57

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #MiddayShow
Lou Reed:
🎵 Perfect Day
#LouReed
a-souvenir.bandcamp.com/track/
open.spotify.com/track/4TOMI01

@arXiv_astrophCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 10:35:13

The Perfect Host: JWST Cepheid Observations in a Background-Free SN Ia Host Confirm No Bias in Hubble-Constant Measurements
Adam G. Riess, Siyang Li, Gagandeep S. Anand, Wenlong Yuan, Louise Breuval, Stefano Casertano, Lucas M. Macri, Dan Scolnic, Yukei S. Murakami, Alexei V. Filippenko, Thomas G. Brink
arxiv.org/abs/2509.01667

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-06-05 06:07:10

There was an older lady in the train sitting across from us who was literally opening up a bottle of cough syrup and chugging it. We were wearing masks, she was not.
Perfect timing for our visit: aus.social/@DenisCOVIDinfoguy/

@cheryanne@aus.social
2025-06-30 21:59:13

Pitch Perfect
Great Australian Pods Podcast Directory: #GreatAusPods

Pitch Perfect
Screenshot of the podcast listing on the Great Australian Pods website
@hikingdude@mastodon.social
2025-07-04 05:02:40

Yesterday I finally wrote the blog post for the bike and hike recently.
For me it was pretty tough as it was constant incline of around 1000m over around 12km with just one short exception.
The view here is from the summit down to the "plain" where we left the bikes for the final climb.
The blog:

A stunning rocky landscape is depicted in this image, featuring majestic mountains, lush trees, and a clear blue sky with fluffy clouds. The scene exudes a sense of tranquility and grandeur, with the rocky terrain adding a rugged beauty to the overall composition. The dominant color scheme of grey adds a sense of calm and serenity to the landscape. The image captures the essence of the great outdoors, showcasing a wilderness setting that is perfect for hiking and exploring. This picturesque vie…
@prachisrivas@masto.ai
2025-07-04 16:17:52

Lovely to give the keynote 'On Epistemic Humility: storytelling, positionalities, and just survival in/through research', for the Higher Degree Research Forum, University of South Australia.
I draw on post-colonial, Black, and Indigenous scholarship to problematise what we know and how we know.
#HigherEducation

On Epistemic Humility: storytelling, positionalities, and just survival in/through research

A/Prof Prachi Srivastava, University of Adelaide

Keynote

UniSA Education Futures - HDR Forum: Pitch Perfect

4 July 2025

With a decorative image of a series of points connected by lines resembling a network or constellation formation.
@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-04 10:03:21

Colored base-3 partitions, sequences of polynomials, and perfect numbers
Karl Dilcher, Larry Ericksen
arxiv.org/abs/2509.03147 arxiv.org/pd…

@smashtie@mas.to
2025-07-04 19:17:43

I love this! That drum riff. It's all perfect. #Inxs #totp

@BBC3MusicBot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-07-05 08:00:12

🔊 #NowPlaying on #BBCRadio3:
#SaturdayMorning
- Nicola Benedetti pops in
Tom Service with the perfect classical soundtrack and superstar violinist Nicola Benedetti chats to Tom about everything from Edinburgh International Festival to music education.
Relisten now 👇
bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002f77s

@vague@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-01 15:06:51

I'm sorry but aren't pros/cons lists supposed to cover both faces of the coin? The list here is very one-sided for immich:
wetransco.de/2024/09/immich-ap

@samerfarha@mastodon.social
2025-07-05 00:48:57

Sunset

The sky is lit up by a setting sun with light clouds and an orange red gradient. The sun looks like a perfect circle just above the horizon. It is almost exactly hovering over a water tower.
@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-07-02 20:25:58

Microsoft cuts hundreds of Xbox jobs across studios, sources say including Halo Studios and King, and cancels games like Perfect Dark and Everwild (Eddie Makuch/GameSpot)
gamespot.com/gallery/all-the-x

@arXiv_quantph_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-04 09:59:20

Persistent Quantum Memory in Iterated Lifts
Hartosh Singh Bal
arxiv.org/abs/2508.00562 arxiv.org/pdf/2508.00562

@arXiv_csCR_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 13:48:33

E-PhishGen: Unlocking Novel Research in Phishing Email Detection
Luca Pajola, Eugenio Caripoti, Simeone Pizzi, Mauro Conti, Stefan Banzer, Giovanni Apruzzese
arxiv.org/abs/2509.01791

@arXiv_mathAG_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-04 08:44:31

The Canonical Exact Sequence of Differential Modules for 0-Dimensional Schemes
Tran N. K. Linh, Le Ngoc Long
arxiv.org/abs/2508.00196 arxiv…

@cosmos4u@scicomm.xyz
2025-09-04 00:36:19

Hot #cosmology papers ...
The Perfect Host - JWST Cepheid Observations in a Background-Free SN Ia Host Confirm No Bias in Hubble-Constant Measurements: arxiv.org/abs/2509.01667
Glimmers in the Cosmic Dawn - On the Photometrically Determined Black Hole Mass to Stellar Mass Relation Across Cosmic Time: arxiv.org/abs/2508.15905
The coherent satellite velocity field around the interacting spiral galaxy pair NGC5713/19 - signature of two galaxy groups merging: academic.oup.com/mnras/article
Looking beyond lambda: arxiv.org/abs/2509.00359

@radioeinsmusicbot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-06-30 19:07:50

🇺🇦 Auf radioeins läuft...
:
🎵 The Perfect Drug
#NowPlaying #
analogtecnemodel.bandcamp.com/
open.spotify.com/track/14tKBoK

@arXiv_csDS_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-01 07:39:23

On Finding $\ell$-th Smallest Perfect Matchings
Nicolas El Maalouly, Sebastian Haslebacher, Adrian Taubner, Lasse Wulf
arxiv.org/abs/2506.22619

@arXiv_hepth_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-04 09:29:11

AdS$_7$ Black Holes and Holography
Nikolay Bobev, Marina David, Vasil Dimitrov, Junho Hong
arxiv.org/abs/2509.02833 arxiv.org/pdf/2509.0283…

@fgraver@hcommons.social
2025-07-31 20:31:03

O.M.F.G.
This is perfect. PERFECT!
youtu.be/2WWTzQ-mRFw

@muz4now@mastodon.world
2025-09-02 20:39:01

​How to Mic Acoustic, Electric, or Bass Guitars like a Pro
#RecordingStudio #MusicianTips

@arXiv_csIT_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-05 07:19:34

Control Signaling for Reconfigurable Intelligent Surfaces: How Many Bits are Needed?
Anders Enqvist, \"Ozlem Tu\u{g}fe Demir, Cicek Cavdar, Emil Bj\"ornson
arxiv.org/abs/2506.03929

@arXiv_eessSP_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-05 08:39:11

Robust MIMO Semantic Communication with Imperfect CSI via Knowledge Distillation
Mingze Gong, Shuoyao Wang, Shijian Gao, Jia Yan, Suzhi Bi
arxiv.org/abs/2509.04005

@colgrave@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-03 15:38:31

I feel invincible.
I feel like I can make everything.
I finally squeezed some time to lean #freecad. It's awesome.
This is a project that I try to get rid of a proprietary plug from a Technics turntable my grandpa left us.
It's not perfect, but man I feel powerful right now

An image of cable panel inside of FreeCAD.
A back of the turntable with is teared apart, with the plugs half taking out.
@Treppenwitz@sfba.social
2025-07-02 13:00:13

| When you're that rich or adjacent to it, the rules bend. Climate guilt is something for the rest of us. For them, "awareness" is enough — even if it means standing on a yacht with champagne while Venice floods below.
| This isn’t just hypocrisy — it’s obedience. Participation in these rituals of excess is a display of loyalty to the system that sustains them. The same energy as the Secretary General of NATO, Mark Rutte, calling Trump “daddy.”

@samvarma@fosstodon.org
2025-08-05 00:13:46

LOL
guitarworld.com/gear/guitar-ce

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-02 03:49:27

Falcons have three-way pipeline to lure Micah Parsons from Cowboys with perfect recruiting pitch sportingnews.com/us/nfl/atlant

@davidaugust@mastodon.online
2025-07-02 03:07:01

source: #USpol

screenshot of a post by Sarah Ironside 💙 @SarahIronside6: 

I am not a perfect person, but at least I can wake up every day knowing I didn't vote for concentration camps and millions being stripped of health insurance and food assistance. 

Jun 30, 2025 · 1:10 PM UTC
@brian_gettler@mas.to
2025-07-01 18:17:25

Biryani, chotpoti, and spicy mango in the park was the perfect Canada Day lunch.

@samerfarha@mastodon.social
2025-08-04 10:09:01

Góðan daginn Mastodon!
On Saturday, I took a taxi from BSÍ and heard the driver say something in what I thought was Arabic to another driver. I asked him, and it turns out he’s an Afghani who speaks perfect Arabic.
He refused to take a payment! If anyone needs a taxi, I have his info, so DM me!

@arXiv_condmatsoft_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 10:50:23

Fully-chromophoric ferroelectric nematics for electronic electro-optics
Xi Chen (Department of Physics, University of Colorado Boulder, CO, USA), Andrew Bradfield (Department of Physics, University of Colorado Boulder, CO, USA), Chirag Patel (Polaris Electro-Optics, Inc., Broomfield, CO, USA), Pavel Savechenkov (Polaris Electro-Optics, Inc., Broomfield, CO, USA), Jason W. Sickler (Polaris Electro-Optics, Inc., Broomfield, CO, USA), Gianlorenzo Masini (Polaris Electro-Optics, Inc., Broo…

@arXiv_physicsbioph_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 15:43:29

Crosslisted article(s) found for physics.bio-ph. arxiv.org/list/physics.bio-ph/
[1/1]:
- Perfect adaptation in eukaryotic gradient sensing using cooperative allosteric binding
Vishnu Srinivasan, Wei Wang, Brian A. Camley

@tante@tldr.nettime.org
2025-09-01 07:40:05

It's kinda fun to see "AI" people basically fleecing Meta/Zuckerberg. bad people scamming bad people is just the perfect 2025 vibe
(Original title: Zuckerberg’s AI hires disrupt Meta with swift exits and threats to leave)
arstechnica…

@arXiv_mathAC_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-01 09:35:43

The Rouquier dimension of the category of perfect complexes over a regular ring
Janina C. Letz
arxiv.org/abs/2506.24038

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-01 09:35:21

Which maximal subgroups are perfect codes?
Shouhong Qiao, Ning Su, Binzhou Xia, Zhishuo Zhang, Sanming Zhou
arxiv.org/abs/2507.23635 arxiv.…

@NFL@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-29 20:26:37

Perfect Cowboys NFL Draft plan: Here's how Jerry Jones can reshape roster following Micah Parsons trade

cbssports.com/nfl/news/perfect

@grumpybozo@toad.social
2025-08-29 21:58:09

I am shook by how much I like this Sofresco Ginger-pineapple juice. Like all of their juices*, it is in fact largely apple juice, but that is the perfect 'cut' for the heaviness of pineapple juice and the ginger is a perfect combination.
*: Brilliantly marketed. They seem to ONLY sell their stuff in square cross-section 8oz bottles, recognizing that it makes them seem special.

@volephd@fediscience.org
2025-09-02 10:22:53

I refuse to read OOM errors as anything else but "Out of Mana".
Computers are magic, so it makes perfect sense they have a limited Mana pool.
Yes, I'm trouble shooting on the #HPC , why are you asking?

@jamesthebard@social.linux.pizza
2025-08-01 18:12:09

Last but not least: I've got an NESRGB on the way to the US from Australia. This is the final bit that I always wanted to install, and figured this Frankenstein's monster of a frontloader NES would be perfect with some nice RGB outputs instead of the standard composite outputs.
#retrogaming #nes

A picture of the NESRGB PCB which will allow the NES to output nice clean RGB video.
@rasterweb@mastodon.social
2025-08-28 21:57:22

Join us for a casual Scrappy Hour bike ride on Sunday, August 31st. 🚴‍♀️
We'll roll out from Rocket Baby just after 9am and head to the Domes... There's about four or five of us so far but we welcome anyone to join us! 🚴
instagram.com/p/DNvbxVRXHS1/

Scrappy Hour on Instagram: "It’s that time of year again! Ya, you know it! It’s Scrappy Hour BBQ BABY!!! Maybe it will be hot and we can all go swimming. Or maybe it will rain and we can all cower together. Or maybe it will be perfect and we’ll lay in the grass eating hot dogs till we have to roll us out of there. Here’s how it’s going to go down. First we’ll do a ride. We’re gonna do the Domes again, because it’s fun. Meet ups: BAY VIEW Cactus Club- meet 8:30a; wheels up 9:00a EAST SIDE/RW The Daily Bird-meet 9:00a; wheels up 9:15a TOSA Rocket Baby- meet 9:00; wheels up 9:15a Then, we SHBBQ at South Shore Park! We’ll bring some dogs and veggie alternatives. A couple sides. And a cooler of mixed bevies. We’ll bring a couple grills too. Last year our gang showed up with some really delightful offerings! There was homemade bread, and baked goods and side salads. It ruled. So feel free to bring what ever you would like to share with everyone. It will be much appreciated. Bring a baseball mitt and we’ll have a catch. Have a frisbee, bring that too. If it’s hot, good luck keeping me out of that lake, so bring your suit. If you have any questions, as always hit us up and we’ll try to answer. All our love, SH ✌️🚲🏃‍♂️☕️ #coffeeoutsidemke #scrappyhourmke"
107 likes, 8 comments - scrappyhourmke on August 24, 2025: "It’s that time of year again! Ya, you know it! It’s Scrappy Hour BBQ BABY!!! Maybe it will be hot and we can all go swimming. Or maybe it will rain and we can all cower together. Or maybe it will be perfect and we’ll lay in the grass eating hot dogs till we have to roll us out of there. Here’s how it’s going to go down. First we’ll do a ride. We’re gonna do the Domes again, because it’s fun. Meet ups: BAY VIEW …

@arXiv_mathOC_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-29 11:22:41

Iterative Schemes for Markov Perfect Equilibria
Felix H\"ofer, Mathieu Lauri\`ere, H. Mete Soner, Qinxin Yan
arxiv.org/abs/2507.20898

@UP8@mastodon.social
2025-09-02 01:59:03

I haven't been able to get a positive ID on the "sloppy daisies" that grow in Shindagin Hollow State forest but species that look similar are found in Mexico, Hawaii and other places -- these often have missing or irregularly shaped petals
#photo #photography

A yellow flower with 6 irregular petals and maybe 1 or 2 missing would have a circumscribed circle fill about 70% of the square frame it is in;  it is not quite in perfect focus and shaows of some of its petals can be seen on a green leaf behind it that is really unfocused,  the background to the upper right turns from dark purple to light purple as you go down.
@drgeraint@glasgow.social
2025-08-01 22:11:05

Interviewing candidates on-line for a job today.
One candidate kept having "network issues" every time a question was asked, so there were long pauses before every answer.
I pasted one of our questions into ChatGPT. The answer that came from the candidate was an almost perfect match.
They didn't get the job.

@fanf@mendeddrum.org
2025-07-19 17:42:03

from my link log —
Modern minimal perfect hashing: a survey.
arxiv.org/abs/2506.06536
saved 2025-06-11 dotat.at/:…

@BBC6MusicBot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-07-02 23:41:57

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on #BBC6Music's #FreakZonePlaylist
El Michels Affair:
🎵 Perfect Harmony
#ElMichelsAffair
elmichelsaffair.bandcamp.com/t
open.spotify.com/track/2jhSz2h

@aardrian@toot.cafe
2025-08-31 16:35:29

“Tennis star meets fan after US Open hat snatching viral video”
bbc.com/news/articles/cx298wd8
Millionaire CEO snatching a gift intended for a child is the perfect metaphor for… [ waves arms broadly ]

Versions of the clip were subsequently shared on social media, with many users criticising the man - who multiple media outlets have since named as Piotr Szczerek, a Polish CEO of a paving company.
@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 13:06:20

How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love

@lysander07@sigmoid.social
2025-08-26 11:33:41

Perfect Espresso at Coffeelution, directly accross the street from #cordi2025 😜
maps.app.goo.gl/rjiF2s8Kfxh3d6

Perfect Espresso and a Kinderriegel chocolate bar for 2.20Euro
@arXiv_hepph_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-03 10:02:50

Spin hydrodynamics -- recent developments
Samapan Bhadury, Zbigniew Drogosz, Wojciech Florkowski, Valeriya Mykhaylova
arxiv.org/abs/2507.01864

@Dragofix@veganism.social
2025-06-30 13:20:22

Easy Red Lentil Dhal #plantbased

@arXiv_csDM_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-30 08:27:42

Perfect Graph Modification Problems: An Integer Programming Approach
Burak Nur Erdem, T{\i}naz Ekim, Zeki Caner Ta\c{s}k{\i}n
arxiv.org/abs/2507.21987

@arXiv_csIT_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-29 08:30:21

On the non-existence of perfect codes in the sum-rank metric
Giuseppe Del Prete, Antonio Roccolano, Ferdinando Zullo
arxiv.org/abs/2508.20940

@arXiv_grqc_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-03 13:43:43

Gravitational waves induced by matter isocurvature in general cosmologies
Guillem Dom\`enech, Jan Tr\"ankle
arxiv.org/abs/2509.02122 a…

@arXiv_astrophCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-04 09:11:00

Can cosmic rotation resolve the Hubble tension? Constraints from CMB and large-scale structure
Micol Benetti, David A. Cook, Saulo Carneiro
arxiv.org/abs/2508.00759

@arXiv_physicsoptics_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-03 09:35:10

Negative Refraction Makes a Perfect Lens
JB Pendry
arxiv.org/abs/2507.01682 arxiv.org/pdf/2507.01682

@BBC3MusicBot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-08-03 08:00:53

🔊 #NowPlaying on #BBCRadio3:
#SundayMorning
- Your perfect Sunday soundtrack
Sarah Walker with three hours of classical music to reflect, restore and refresh, whether you are busy preparing lunch or relaxing with the papers.
Relisten now 👇
bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002ggzd

@muz4now@mastodon.world
2025-06-24 06:43:13

The Rise of Spotify and the Costs of the Perfect Playlist sonicstate.com/news/2025/06/10

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-09-04 18:04:50

Micah Parsons can prove the Cowboys wrong without even playing them fansided.com/nfl/nfl/micah-par

@hikingdude@mastodon.social
2025-07-30 19:10:32

Oh #waterfallWednesday! I almost missed it again.
I hope you enjoy it. And it also reminds me that I wanted to visit that place again. Especially now as it rained so much.
#waterfall #photography

A small waterfall flows gently in a lush forest setting. The image showcases the serene beauty of nature, with the waterfall cascading over rocks and moss-covered surfaces. The surrounding trees provide a picturesque backdrop, creating a peaceful and tranquil atmosphere.  This landscape captures the essence of an outdoor oasis, perfect for those seeking a moment of relaxation and connection with the wilderness. The image exudes a sense of calmness and beauty, making it a perfect representation …
@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-07-01 18:12:39

How these people still have jobs is beyond me. bsky.app/profile/did:plc:ihpgl

@arXiv_quantph_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-30 10:19:11

A Grover-Based Quantum Algorithm for Solving Perfect Mazes via Fitness-Guided Search
Michelle L. Wu
arxiv.org/abs/2507.21937 arxiv.org/pdf/…

@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-06-23 17:28:42

McLaurin to Raiders? 1 Perfect Landing Spot for Each NFL Minicamp Holdout foxsports.com/stories/nfl/one-

@kexpmusicbot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-07-28 22:42:36

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #AfternoonShow
Nuovo Testamento:
🎵 Picture Perfect
#NuovoTestamento
nuovotestamento.bandcamp.com/t
open.spotify.com/track/7H5ruh3

@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-06-20 22:50:50

Q&A with Yoshua Bengio on his nonprofit LawZero focusing on AI safety, its research direction, risks of increasingly capable and autonomous AI systems, and more (Sigal Samuel/Vox)
vox.com/future-perfect/417087/

@arXiv_grqc_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-04 10:10:01

Entropy Analysis of Dark Matter Halo Structures
Abdelhakim Benkrane
arxiv.org/abs/2507.02610 arxiv.org/pdf/2507.02610…

@rasterweb@mastodon.social
2025-09-01 02:29:58

Well, I bought a bike. I also realized I don’t think I ever bought a bike for myself before! Most of my bikes were gifts, or built from random parts I’d bought, or pieced together from the dumpster. So this is sort of exciting! And after today’s ride I think an ebike is perfect for me. It’s not easy to ride with people 15 years younger than be, and with occasional knee & hip pain, pedal assist will save my ass.

An Aventon Level 3 ebike.
@cosmos4u@scicomm.xyz
2025-07-01 22:05:14

Picture-perfect launch of #Meteosat Third Generation Sounder with the Sentinel 4 payload - minutes after deployment the satellite has already been heard from.

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-09-04 09:08:11

Some Maker-Breaker games on hypergraphs
Patrick Bennett, Alan Frieze, Wesley Pegden
arxiv.org/abs/2509.02788 arxiv.org/pdf/2509.02788

@cheryanne@aus.social
2025-07-01 00:50:13

Reality Check With Tom B. Rich
Great Australian Pods Podcast Directory: #GreatAusPods

Pitch Perfect
Screenshot of the podcast listing on the Great Australian Pods website
@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-07-29 16:18:06

Raiders Rookie with ‘Perfect Build’ Has ‘Rough’ Day at Practice heavy.com/sports/nfl/las-vegas]

@samvarma@fosstodon.org
2025-08-01 14:07:37

Been meaning to post about this for sometime now. Our bass player got one of these, and it absolutely kills. Perfect 80s synth bass sounds; super quick, accurate tracking. He has tried everything else, and this is the best thing he's ever had on his board.
#bass #BassGuitar

@muz4now@mastodon.world
2025-06-15 01:01:16

The Rise of Spotify and the Costs of the Perfect Playlist
sonicstate.com/news/2025/06/10

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-02 10:06:20

On the association scheme of perfect matchings and their designs
John Bamberg, Lukas Klawuhn
arxiv.org/abs/2507.00813

@kexpmusicbot@mastodonapp.uk
2025-06-25 23:16:24

🇺🇦 #NowPlaying on KEXP's #DriveTime
Dam Swindle:
🎵 The Present Is Always Perfect
#DamSwindle
damswindle.com/track/the-prese
open.spotify.com/track/7pIk4T4

@hikingdude@mastodon.social
2025-06-30 18:17:08

While I'm copying yesterday's photos to my computer, I'll just share some more photos from my recent blog post.
I tried to put the bushes at the lake as framing elements into the #photos. I think it worked out quite okay. -- And while we were on this walk I imagined all the time where and how this could look at sunset or with fog.
Maybe I should go there a again a couple o…

A serene scene captured in this image shows a wooden bench overlooking a tranquil lake, surrounded by lush green trees and majestic mountains in the distance. The image is filled with elements of nature, including trees, grass, sky, water, and clouds, creating a picturesque landscape. The presence of multiple trees of varying sizes adds to the overall natural beauty of the setting. The overall ambiance is peaceful and inviting, making it a perfect spot for relaxation and contemplation.
A serene and picturesque scene captured in this image shows a peaceful lake surrounded by lush green trees and grass. In the distance, a house can be seen, adding a touch of human habitation to the natural landscape. The image evokes a sense of quiet beauty and invites viewers to imagine themselves in this idyllic setting, appreciating the harmony between nature and man-made structures. The presence of a variety of tags related to outdoor landscapes, water bodies, and natural environments furth…
@NFL@darktundra.xyz
2025-07-01 15:21:36

Ravens' Lamar Jackson admits he still has one minor flaw in his game: Here's how he's trying to fix it

cbssports.com/nfl/news/r…

@arXiv_grqc_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-30 09:43:10

Black hole surrounded by perfect fluid dark matter with a background Kalb-Ramond field
Sohan Kumar Jha
arxiv.org/abs/2506.21911

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-28 00:41:36

Schottenheimer confirms Joe Milton as Cowboys’ backup QB, but search remains open cowboyswire.usatoday.com/story

@samvarma@fosstodon.org
2025-07-01 11:27:54

Very iiiiiinteresting...👀 mastodon.social/@BenRiceM/1147

@raiders@darktundra.xyz
2025-07-31 02:52:40

Raiders Make a Splash at the Perfect Time with ‘Cornerstone’ Move heavy.com/sports/nfl/las-vegas]

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-08-23 01:59:31

Joe Milton III walks it in for TD after perfect play fake nfl.com/videos/joe-milton-iii-

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-09-02 16:48:03

Cowboys' Week 1 opponent prepares for predicted butt-whooping with new sponsor si.com/nfl/cowboys/news/dallas

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-08-01 08:42:11

Perfecting the Line Graph
Hartosh Singh Bal
arxiv.org/abs/2507.23231 arxiv.org/pdf/2507.23231

@arXiv_mathCO_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-22 10:49:30

Subgroup Perfect Codes of $\mathcal{A}_t$-Groups and Their Applications
Huye chen, Binbin Li, Jingjian Li, Hao Yu
arxiv.org/abs/2507.15206

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-07-20 23:29:21

Giovanna Ortiz's perfect pass to Manriquez yields a crucial first down nfl.com/videos/giovanna-ortiz-

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2025-07-22 17:49:27

Newest Giants signing's Cowboys hatred already makes him perfect for NY fansided.com/nfl/newest-giants