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@david@boles.xyz
2026-03-03 12:07:46

Real ID: Federal Mandate, National Card, or Something Worse?
The Real ID is now the law of the land, but it is not the law most Americans think it is, and the story of how it arrived at your local DMV is a twenty-year saga of congressional sleight-of-hand, serial postponement, and a quiet transformation of the American driver's license into something it was never designed to be. The question everyone should be asking…

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-12-04 04:54:19

Every once in a while in a random thread on here, someone unnecessarily pops into the replies and says "block me, I'm pro-slavery!", or "block me, I'm a nazi!", or expresses something similar. I always appreciate how forthcoming they are before I block them.
Obviously they dress up their sentiment in some kind of vague language of respectability or something, but it's usually pretty clear what they're saying.

@yaxu@post.lurk.org
2025-12-04 17:04:34

I want to get into bobbin lace, I got a second hand pillow and bobbins and am enjoying surfing youtube, but not sure how to navigate all the tutorials etc.. Anyone with advice for a good book or something, or even better in a similar position and fancy some peer learning?

@hikingdude@mastodon.social
2026-02-04 07:27:03

I had to smile at this paragraph:
> The mountains taught me the same lesson. They just stand there, massive and indifferent, doing nothing but being mountains. They don’t try to be more spiritual or more awakened. They simply are. And somehow, in their ordinariness, they hold something sacred.
Besides that, it's a good article I think.
Why I No Longer Chase Enlightenment | by Clara Ramirez

@ErikJonker@mastodon.social
2026-01-03 15:52:01

We can conclude that democratic control and oversight, the role of Congress in the US, is essentially death. If Trump can do this and get away with it he can basically do anything. If Trump wants to strike in Mexico, why would he consult/inform congress, or when he does something against Greenland or Canada.
#venezuela

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2026-01-03 22:13:59

Series B, Episode 07 - Killer
BLAKE: Who? What are you talking about? Cally, what are you picking up?
CALLY: I don't know, but Blake, there is something malignant on that ship.
blake.torpidity.net/m/207/41 B7B6

Claude Sonnet 4 describes the image as: "I can see this appears to be from a science fiction television production, likely from the late 1970s or early 1980s based on the visual quality and styling. The image shows someone with dark curly hair wearing what appears to be a brown or leather-like garment, photographed against a blurred background that suggests a spaceship or futuristic setting. The lighting and cinematography are characteristic of British science fiction television from that era. …
@detondev@social.linux.pizza
2026-02-04 00:00:27

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/At_Sixes



"At sixes and sevens" is an English idiom very common in the United Kingdom. used to describe a condition of confusion or disarray.

The similar phrase "to set the world on six and seven", used by Geoffrey Chaucer, seems -in its context-, to mean "to hazard the world" or "to risk one's life".

It is something probable that the album title and its main track reflected Morten Veland's mood in that time. Similarly, a large number of the songs on this album and the next one of Sirenia refer to th…
@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-12-04 16:48:17

I agree with the storyteller: the experience of having a slave is abhorrent, simulated or not, and this story is a window into something •deep• about the present moment. Even without having slaves, we are all in danger of having a •slaver mindset•. It’s a disease that’s running rampant now in billionaire-shaped techno-utopian circles.
I wrote this thread on the topic earlier:
hachyderm.io/@inthehands/11329
…and even having written that, it’s still shocking — not surprising, exactly, but shocking — to hear those thoughts expressed so baldly by the colleague in the story above.

@zachleat@zachleat.com
2026-02-02 22:29:42

@… well, I’ve done it but escaped unscathed, I wonder if I have safesearch on or something

@3sframe@social.linux.pizza
2026-02-03 15:58:41

Listen, I love security like the next guy, but can we please stop forcing MFA using just my email? Can you ask me if I want to use email, text, or an app?
I'm so tired of logging into something arbitrary, like a gaming site, and getting hit with "PLEASE PUT IN THIS 6 DIGIT CODE" or worse, it keeps me signed in but makes me put in the code any time I click on something, multiple times. Zero trust is crazy.

@stefan@gardenstate.social
2026-02-04 02:48:35

So far every time I try something other then vanilla ubuntu I haven't loved it or hit some weird glitch.

@xiffy@mastodon.nl
2026-01-03 21:47:14

End of the holiday, it finally snows here inn France. I used part of my time to bring back something online. Don't know if I'll be a regular writer or not, but it was at least fun to create a usable setup to quickly get something online. xiffy.nl/blog/hugo/ about the setup of the site,

@fanf@mendeddrum.org
2026-02-04 09:42:03

from my link log —
Writing an async runtime in Rust.
michaelhelvey.dev/posts/rust_a
saved 2026-02-03

@leftsidestory@mstdn.social
2026-01-04 02:07:20

Un Momento 🕰️
一瞬 🕰️
📷 Zeiss Ikon Super Ikonta 533/16
🎞️ Lucky SHD 400
#filmphotography #Photography #blackandwhite

Lucky SHD 400 (6x6)

English Alt Text: A black-and-white overhead view of an urban plaza. Two people sit on a curved concrete bench surrounding a circular planter with a leafy tree. They appear to be talking or looking at something together. The ground is paved with rectangular tiles, and a glass building wall reflects part of the scene. Another person is partially visible near the planter. The image emphasizes quiet human interaction in a thoughtfully designed public space.

中文替代文本:
这是一张黑白俯视图,…
Lucky SHD 400 (6x6)

English Alt Text: A black-and-white photo of a modern city street. Several people walk along a wide pedestrian path lined with trees and tall buildings. The buildings have glass facades and display signs in Chinese characters, including a spa and various shops. Some people carry shopping bags or pull suitcases. The atmosphere is busy but orderly, capturing a typical day in a commercial district. The contrast between the sleek architecture and natural elements like trees add…
Lucky SHD 400 (6x6)

English Alt Text: A black-and-white image of a bustling urban plaza. Tall buildings with reflective glass facades and Chinese signage surround the area. A large advertisement featuring a person dominates one building. Trees are planted in circular planters along paved walkways. An elevated pedestrian bridge connects parts of the complex, with people walking across it. The scene blends architecture, nature, and human activity in a vibrant commercial setting.

中文替代文本:
这是一张黑白照…
Lucky SHD 400 (6x6)

English Alt Text: A black-and-white street scene in a busy commercial area. People walk in various directions on a tiled pedestrian walkway. Modern buildings with glass facades and commercial signs surround the area. In the background, a large billboard shows a person and some text. The image captures the energy of urban life, with movement, architecture, and advertising blending into a dynamic cityscape.

中文替代文本:
这是一张黑白街景照片,拍摄于繁忙的商业区。人们在铺有砖块的人行道上四处走动。周围是现代玻璃幕墙建筑,挂有各类商业招牌。背…
@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2026-01-02 18:59:22

If you believe capitalism is something we simply have to live with, then we are not standing on the same ground. I cannot accept the idea of resigning myself to a system built on exploitation and inequality, treated as if it were natural or eternal. What passes for stability in capitalism is only the quiet before another round of dispossession.
I reject the kind of unionism that settles for small reforms while leaving the machinery of domination untouched. Progress does not come from p…

A propaganda-style illustration inspired by Chinese revolutionary posters shows a glowing, sun-like portrait of an elderly, bearded intellectual replacing the usual central leader image, while uniformed soldiers and civilians below look upward holding small books against a red background.
@hex@kolektiva.social
2026-03-03 10:26:42

The context is probably important too, and a bit more nuanced. The general actually wasn't playing as Iran but as a rebel faction that arose due to instability. You know, like how the US got ISIS after toppling Saddam? So like... not necessarily the Iranian regime but something much more challenging that comes after a major earthquake or, like... I don't know... the US kills the supreme leader and Iranian proxies create a decentralized network that threatens international trade.
Definitely unimaginable. Everything is definitely going to go well and exactly as simulated, definitely leading to a Blue force victory.
Yeah, I'm gonna get back to writing fiction and doing art, and ignoring this mess for the moment.

@jtk@infosec.exchange
2026-01-04 15:42:49

We won't even bother to put this into Dataplane's extended weekly Internet Last Week report: A 46 second "major outage" on APNIC's WHOIS serving North America. Sounds like something automatically recovered quickly, perhaps from a software crash or routing anomaly?

@penguin42@mastodon.org.uk
2026-03-03 15:04:14

These chunky toggle switches are nice - they can have upto 4 sets of contacts, each of which seem to have a bunch of poles each. These are momentary but there are some latching. Given the 'under license from Ericsson' label I assume they came off some comms kit originally. Now, I've just got to figure out how to mount them to something other than a panel.
#electronics

A pair of old toggle switches sitting on a table.  They've got a metal frame and then sets of (exposed) leaf switch contacts that are pressed or released by the tilt of the central column that moves based on the toggle at the front.  They have bits of wire soldered on where they were once used.  
One is marked 'Made By Telephone Mfg Co. Ltd under license from Ericsson Teles Ltd.  Pat No 838348'.The other is marked K. Pat No 838348, N9321 MATK'
One has a pleasing blue toggle, the other a pleasin…
@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2026-02-01 15:11:48

If you reply to me and expect an answer, maybe don't call what I said a "bad faith argument".
What do you want me to say?
"Yes, I posted this to specifically upset you personally even though I didn't actually mean it!"
Or, you know, maybe if it makes you feel angry—figure out why.
Anger is an emotion that just tells you something might be wrong. You should take it as sign to think about why you have the feeling. It might be that there is something the matter with your beliefs or what you're doing.

@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2026-02-03 15:04:06

Mailbag: Has Pro Bowl honor been cheapened? dallascowboys.com/news/mailbag

@PaulWermer@sfba.social
2026-01-04 15:22:38

Has anyone else compared the daily weather forecasts from www.weather.gov, Google Weather and Wunderground?
And is there something unique about San Francisco that makes it so hard to predict, or have models produce such different results?

@paulwermer@sfba.social
2026-01-04 15:22:38

Has anyone else compared the daily weather forecasts from www.weather.gov, Google Weather and Wunderground?
And is there something unique about San Francisco that makes it so hard to predict, or have models produce such different results?

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2026-03-03 19:46:28

lol

screenshot of a CNN post, linking to an article (or video or something, who knows, I didn't click on that noise). "Target's new CEO wants to re-establish the company's 'Tarzhay' reputation after a brutal few years."
A response to the above CNN post, by "Truther_Dare", saying "Maybe they shouldn't have capitulated with Na-zhays"
@thesaigoneer@social.linux.pizza
2026-03-02 23:46:30

Because I don't know what I'm doing for the last 60 years or so, I patched something into dwm that pastes the clipboard into whatever I'm doing when using the scrollwheel.
Given that i use the scroller quite a lot it's effing annoying 😡

@LillyHerself@Mastodon.social
2026-01-01 21:58:34

RE: mastodon.social/@rufustheduck/
If you've got something dark you want to photograph, like a black cat or article of clothing, you can achieve better definition by having some white paper or styrofoam outside the frame,…

@rasterweb@mastodon.social
2026-02-28 22:36:55

I read a README file I wrote a few weeks ago and decided it didn't have enough information, so it's now twice as long with a lot more detail.
I'm the only one who will ever read or use the file, but I have learned I cannot rely on my own memory a few months or years from now when I need to revisit the project or do something similar.
Make notes! Make more notes. It's a text file, it won't take up much space but it might save you a bunch of time in the future.

@maxheadroom@hub.uckermark.social
2026-02-02 06:02:40

Just read an article by @… and stumbles across this question:
> "...if Clawdbot can create a virtual remote for my LG television (something I did) or give me a personalized report with voice every morning (another cron job I set up) that work exactly the way I want, why should I even bother going to the App Store to look for pre-built solut…

@catsalad@infosec.exchange
2026-01-02 03:55:09

Cats do not like third party cookies

Caption: Feel the enthusiasm

Photo of one mostly white and one all white kitty in the lap of a human showing off matching cookies of the two cats (with chocolate dipped ears for the first cat). Both cats look less than excited and would rather be doing something more entertaining... like licking their butthole or ignoring the human while sleeping.
@wydamn@social.linux.pizza
2026-03-03 13:12:23

When I was younger, I used to think that knowing more programming languages made you a better program. And in some ways I still think that. But the only for loop I have memorized the syntax for is the C for loop. Any other language, I have to look up to make sure the for loop is the same as C's or if it's something different.
I haven't coded in C in like over a decade.

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2026-03-02 17:12:33
Content warning: Uspol, Iran, necropolitics

Seeing Iran appoint new leaders and continue to fight is seeing the more literal kind of necropolitics in action, as a hierarchical system continues to function while replacing the expendable human parts that it lost. The system is of course changed and influenced (and ultimately was built) by humans, but it has become something undying, or at least almost as hard to kill as an idea, and it maintains a terrible inertia in it's destructive tendencies (e.g., "Morality Police" continue to patrol the streets).
Lest anyone think this somehow expresses approval of US actions, the same logic applies here too: what once had a (thin) verneer of democracy, a system which loudly proclaimed to be controlled by "the people" (but which never was nor was ever intended to be) has lost its paint job, exposing the inhuman machinations beneath. Trump is a symptom, not cause, of an institution built on blood and spoils, whose alignment with the Epstein class (and moreover, their institutions) is ever more apparent with each disregarded law and principle.
Stepping back for a moment, this systems/necropolitics perspective is just a perspective, with its own distortions and blind spots. To paraphrase LeGuin, any institution built by humans can also be changed or destroyed by them. But I think it's very useful to put on the systems goggles in this moment, especially when some are fond of preaching about the dangers of "overwhelmingly powerful systems unaccountable to humans which pursue destructive ends" without actually examining the plethora of existing systems that do just that.
P.S. yes, United Healthcare is another good example of this.
P.P.S. yes I bending the meaning of necropolitics here, but the two are related: these systems would not be so free to profit from human death and suffering if they were more vulnerable to the deaths of their constituent parts. Necropolitics of the standard variety is of course present as companies like Raytheon and Lockeed Martin profit from the carnage. The F-15 caught by friendly fire? Just as profitable for Beoing to replace as one downed by the enemy.

@cjust@infosec.exchange
2026-02-02 14:48:21

They straight up gonna have to put a protection detail on Phil's ass

The image captures a moment from a traditional winter ceremony outdoors, likely Punxsutawney Groundhog Day. Two men in formal, old-fashioned attire dominate the scene. Both wear black top hats and long dark overcoats, along with black gloves, giving them a ceremonial, almost vintage look. The man on the left is clean-shaven and appears to be speaking or announcing something; he is holding a long sheet of paper in one hand and gesturing toward it with the other, as if presenting or reading the d…
@zachleat@zachleat.com
2026-02-02 21:47:44

What’s a good name for the UX pattern where a search field in a header shows results inline, but the search itself does not occupy its own page or independent history entries?
Practically, it means you can’t go back to it. You can to navigate to ONE SEARCH RESULT and only one (especially if you open in a new tab, though support for that is pretty iffy in this pattern!). All context about the search is lost when you select something.

Expect Trump to post something like this next year:
"We seek to bring joy and warmth to those in need of care and attention — and, of course, to support our heroes, the participants of the special military operation, with both words and deeds. You have taken on the responsibility of fighting for your homeland, for truth and justice. I assure you, millions of people across Russia are with you on this New Year's night," - V. Putin

@billbert@mastodon.social
2026-03-02 17:24:50

This is called manifesting and I need to either learn, re-learn or get trained on this process.
It’s possible for me to do something. @costarastrology

Bill’s avatar photo, and text reading: YOUR DAY AT A GLANCE
You can't have what you want unless you believe that it's possible for you to have it.
That voice telling you "it's too late" or "you're not good enough" isn't wisdom —it's old fear talking.
Look at what's actually in front of you. Someone is offering a genuine hand. Take it before your doubt slams another door shut.
@cowboys@darktundra.xyz
2026-02-03 15:34:38

Mailbag: Has Pro Bowl honor been cheapened? dallascowboys.com/news/mailbag

@aral@mastodon.ar.al
2026-01-29 20:49:05

RE: syzito.xyz/@fkamiah17/11597935
Almost as if people who are complicit in genocide aren’t good people or something. But that can’t be right, can it? I don’t want to sound antisemitic or anything.

@paulbusch@mstdn.ca
2025-12-04 12:41:13

Good Morning #Canada
Most of us - who are not CEOs, or CFOs, or CTOs, or C-somethings - know that #AI makes the user experience shittier and we'd prefer it wasn't installed on our phone, tablets, applications or toasters. But when it gets installed on children's toys, that becomes a whole new level of evil perpetrated on us by the tech bros. Numerous media outlets reported in the past month about the dangers of letting your kids access AI via a cute and cuddly toy, most focused on a teddy bear that used Chat GPT to explain fetishes and role playing to unsuspecting children. I don't think Santa's Elves were involved in the quality control process. Stick with something low tech, like Play-Doh or LEGO.
#CanadaIsAwesome ##BeSafeOutThere
cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/ai-toy

@grahamperrin@bsd.cafe
2026-01-01 20:01:23

@… @… drive-by comment: from the (very) little that I hear about HP shifting, I don't imagine that generosity is on the table if there's any financial or other cost attached to generosity actually giving something. …

@daniel@social.telemetrydeck.com
2025-12-31 11:57:41

Every year I have this tradition of being extra honest for the last hours of the outgoing years. Ask me anything before my midnight via DM or publicly, and I’ll answer honestly and kindly. Or tell me something honest about yourself, and I’ll appreciate you for sharing <3

@scott@carfree.city
2026-01-01 04:23:04

If anyone has a joke reference to something ridiculous Eric Adams said, post it now or forever hold your peace.

@philip@mastodon.mallegolhansen.com
2025-12-31 15:37:21

Shit I totally forgot what day it was today.
Should probably go buy something nice to cook for dinner or something.

@adulau@infosec.exchange
2026-02-01 09:49:23

While listening to discussions about federated systems and protocols at #fosdem (like the one I’m currently using): I realized something.
It recently resonated with me through some past and ongoing projects: when people are afraid of federation, they call it “balkanization” or “fragmentation.”
Sorry for the wording @…

A nice graffiti seen in Paris. The toot is about federation but that’s exactly that. Benefiting from the power of everyone without trying to enforce them in a centralized model.
@mgorny@social.treehouse.systems
2025-12-26 10:41:26

I don't think I'm ever going to enjoy gifts.
I can get why people would give them to children. After all, children don't have their own budget. However, I'm talking about occasional gifts, not a new toy every second week, because "we must outcompete the other grandparents". But to adults?
Once I've heard that you should gift people with what they won't buy themselves. Well, that's won't work for me. I'm a minimalist. If I don't need something, I don't want to have it. Unnecessary junk is only emotional burden to me.
I can get why you'd enjoy something handmade. But something people bought? If I need something, I can buy it myself, when I need it. And I definitely don't need people to prove to me that they never cared to learn who I am, and just buy whatever they like or whatever is "fashionable"; which usually means exactly the opposite of what I'd prefer (i.e. something minimalistic). Or even worse, I don't need people manipulating me through gifts.
Sweets? Besides my diabetes, I don't really enjoy expensive shit that people generally buy because it's what's advertised. For the money they waste on it, I'd buy three times as much sweets I'd actually enjoy.
Gift cards? Oh yes, "you aren't supposed to give money, so let's just give the equivalent of money that's actually worth less than money". Actual money? And here we reach the true nonsense; we exchange the same amount of money, so it's just pointless gesture. Unless one of us gives less money…
What I'd really like, as a gift? Maybe that people would finally bother accepting me as who I am. The absolute minimum of caring that I hate consumerism, and not fueling it "for me".
#AntiCapitalism #minimalism #ActuallyAutistic

@leftsidestory@mstdn.social
2026-01-02 00:30:01

Past and Sapiens 🉐
过去和智人 🉐
📷 Nikon F4E
🎞️ ERA 100, expired 1993
#filmphotography #Photography #blackandwhite

ERA 100 (FF)

English Alt Text:
A black-and-white photo captures a serene outdoor scene with tall grass and trees. Three people are present: one stands on the left, another walks away in the center, and a third crouches or sits nearby. All are dressed for cool weather. The image conveys solitude, quiet exploration, and a peaceful connection with nature.

中文替代文字:
这张黑白照片展现了一个宁静的户外场景,前景是高草,背景是树木。画面中有三人:一人在左侧站立,一人在中央背对镜头行走,另一人蹲坐在附近。他们穿着适合凉爽天气的衣物。画面传达出孤独、探索和与自然和平相处的氛围。
ERA 100 (FF)

English Alt Text:
A black-and-white photo shows a person standing near a tree in a densely vegetated area. The person wears a hat and holds a bag, possibly collecting or hanging something. Tall grasses and trees fill the scene, creating a misty, mysterious atmosphere. The image suggests quiet activity in nature.

中文替代文字:
这是一张黑白照片,画面中一人站在树旁,周围是茂密的植被。此人戴帽子,手持一个袋子,似乎在采集或悬挂物品。高草和树木充满整个画面,营造出朦胧而神秘的氛围。画面暗示着在自然中进行的安静活动
ERA 100 (FF)

English Alt Text:
A black-and-white photograph depicts two individuals sitting on a bench in a park. Trees in the foreground partially obscure the view. The bench is on a paved path surrounded by grass and trees. The two people appear to be talking or quietly sitting together. The scene feels peaceful and contemplative.

中文替代文字:
这张黑白照片展示了两人坐在公园的长椅上。前景中的树木部分遮挡了视线。长椅位于铺设的小路上,周围是草地和树木。两人似乎在交谈或静静地坐着。整个场景宁静而富有沉思气息。
ERA 100 (FF)

English Alt Text:
A black-and-white photograph shows a dense forest in the foreground with two tall industrial smokestacks rising in the background. The smokestacks have horizontal bands and are partially obscured by treetops. The sky is overcast, casting a muted light over the scene. The contrast between the natural greenery and the industrial structures evokes themes of environmental tension and coexistence.

中文替代文字:
这是一张黑白照片,前景是茂密的森林,背景中有两根高大的工业烟囱从树顶后方升起。烟囱上有水平条纹,部分被树冠遮挡。天空阴沉,光…

I love that so many Americans turned out to not just protest policies that hit personally,
but to rally in support of democracy writ large.
For many, it was their first time taking this kind of action,
and they were doing it in a way that expressed optimism and possibility rather than giving in to anger or despair

@pre@boing.world
2025-12-27 20:12:46

By post, it's mostly web rather than Phanpy.
Suspect it's mostly replies over stand-alone only because of threads here really. Most of a thread counts as a reply because it's a reply-to-self.
I mostly use the web interface for new posts rather than the phanpy one because I can't type an emoji in Phanpy. Only instance custom-emojis can be typed starting with a colon and I usually want 😄 or 😉 or 🙄 not the custom emojii. Can't type them on Phanpy. So I mostly compose on web.
Maybe the Phanpy dev has some kind of emoji plugin or something? Dunno why he makes it only do the custom ones.
But this is why I mostly post from web even though I almost entirely read from Phanphy. Which means replies mostly come from Phanpy but standalone mostly from Web.

@luana@wetdry.world
2026-02-02 15:54:19

Reminder that iSH.app is a must-have for anyone trying to deal with large quantities of files in iOS. iOS is awful at dealing with large quantities (200 ) of files (or even a very large single file), using iSH for moving, transfering with rsync or even comrpressing them is a way better experience than trying to use Files App or any of the native stuff for this.
Just mount -t ios /mnt /mnt and choose the iCloud Drive folder you want to mount.
(Note that rsyncing the files and then compressing them in the destination will be way quicker than thew other way around due to the lack of JIT or actual virtualization, but either way iSH will be way better than Files App because it actually works instead of just failing, freezing and crashing all the time with no error message)
The iPad would be a really great device if they just let you unlock it and install an OS that actually works. My dream device for college would be an iPad with Apple Pencil but running postmarketOS or NixOS or something, plus Rnote or whatever for notes.

@PwnieFan@infosec.exchange
2026-01-30 18:50:09

Anyone else who's trying to minimize household waste . . . I really like the idea of toothpaste tablets because there's no toothpaste tube to dispose of or recycle. But toothpaste tablets aren't widely carried even in the coops/natural food stores around here.
Do ppl just really like paste over tablets? Or is there something problematic about tablets I'm missing?

@brian_gettler@mas.to
2026-02-27 14:53:59

Learn something everyday, or, Education as incomplete debugging.

A screenshot from a university faculty member's bio that reads:
Education
Test
No, I am the test!
@Treppenwitz@sfba.social
2026-02-02 14:20:50

"Did a large Quaker community found an oatmeal company or something?" *Sigh*

Wikipedia: According to some accounts, Quaker Mill partner Henry Seymour came up with the brand name after discovering an encyclopedia article about Quakers.
@andycarolan@social.lol
2026-02-27 14:37:21

Something I keep coming back to is who is going to buy products when AI consumes 90% of jobs?*
Is this a sign that we are entering a post-scarcity era, or will we plunge even deeper into inequality?
*a number I recently read being pushed by a tech bruh
#NoAI #AI

@crell@phpc.social
2026-01-30 00:56:58

Do you want to participate in destroying the environment even faster while ignoring copyright law, or leave your industry of 20 years and try to find something else that may pay half as much?
That's basically the choice all developers are being given today.
I fucking hate it, and I fucking hate all the people who ignore all the externalities and damage and shrug "well it's inevitable."
Yeah, I'm in a bad mood.

@johl@mastodon.xyz
2026-01-27 12:38:28

The #Enclosure feedback loop or how LLMs sabotage existing programming practices by privatizing a public good:
“[…]something has been taken from the public. Not just the training data, but the public forums and practices that created this training data in the first place. […] LLM companies are now selling back to us something that used to be available for free.”

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-12-31 10:11:11

Series C, Episode 11 - Moloch
POOLA: Chesil... I think I've got something. [Chesil moves to look at Poola's screen.]
CHESIL: Aren't you going to report it?
POOLA: No. Wait! [They watch as a spacecraft-shaped dot crosses the screen.]
blake.torpidity.net/m/311/50

Claude Sonnet 3.7 describes the image as: "This image appears to be from a vintage television production, likely from the 1970s or early 1980s based on the styling and production quality. The scene shows a person with blonde, curly hair wearing a teal green outfit with a v-neck design and a small pendant necklace. They appear to be working at some kind of control desk or console, possibly in a broadcast studio or communications setting, as suggested by the equipment in front of them and the win…
@lindawoodrow@mastodon.social
2025-12-12 03:17:07

Have all us Australians hit the tromboncino/cucuzza/zucchini glut yet? Or just me? witcheskitchen.com.au/trombonc

To ensure you get a postmark that reflects the day you mail something, you’ll have to go to a post office counter and ask for a manual postmark.
This may affect the eligibility of your mail-in ballot, or tax payment

@jswright61@ruby.social
2026-02-24 16:51:45

Thanks to all who are submitting feedback on #LeftWordle, I truly appreciate it!
Private Messages to me aren’t necessary from my POV. If you're sharing something sensitive - of course, but to report a bug or request a feature, a public post w/ an @ mention is fine.
Maybe someone else has a similar problem, or found a workaround. Also, favs on a bug report or feature request can h…

@tante@tldr.nettime.org
2025-12-12 16:40:05

A few remarks on "AI" usage and the narrative surrounding it. I think it's about the difference between disconnected creating and embodied making.
(Original title: Something from nothing)
tante.cc/2025/12/12/something-

@nemorosa@mastodon.nu
2026-01-29 20:45:55

What's your guilty pleasure?
Mine is hobnobs. They're perfect for dunking in tea or coffee, they rarely make a mess, and they give just enough resistance when you're consuming them to remind you that you are actually eating something. They don't vanish into a soggy mess, unless you stop thinking while dunking. But you actually have to think long and hard to make them go splosh down into the mug, like someone created this particular biscuit for absentminded authors.

A cup of tea, two hobnobs, and a lit candle on a pretty little tray.
@roland@devdilettante.com
2026-02-26 05:59:07

all i want for 2030 is radio userland back or something :-) my current jekyll static setup with my custom ruby scripts if fine! but not nearly as much as fun as radio was back in 1999!

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2026-02-24 14:19:56

Even if you're a prompting god, an LLM savant or otherwise an accomplished machine whisperer—
—it will inflate prices you have to pay for stuff too; computers, phones, hosting, Internet service, software, and generally anything with chips in it (or made in e.g. in a factory that uses stuff with chips in it) and any services that are provided by or are facilitated by something with chips in it.
(This means all goods and services).

@aral@mastodon.ar.al
2026-01-31 12:57:39

RE: journa.host/@fulelo/1159891184
Can’t be. Saudi Arabia, like Israel, are our allies in the West. And so it’s impossible to believe they would do something like this, or have a journalist murdered in their own embassy and chopped up into small…

@hynek@mastodon.social
2026-02-12 12:01:19

I’m at a spa trying to get my shit together in a 90ºC (~194ºF) sauna after my 2025 was beautiful madness but madness no less.
I’ve finally started to write a new newsletter & if you wanna know more about the madness or what’s coming up or a cute dog photo, sign up at buttondown.com/hynek

@gray17@mastodon.social
2026-01-29 19:15:10

"AI democratizes creativity and talent" => "AI offers everyone a minion they can exploit ruthlessly"
... sure it's possible to ethically use dollar-store fluffers when you can't afford professionals or can't attract volunteers, but maybe don't delude yourself into thinking it's something else?

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2026-01-30 03:39:13

I give my kids old phones with the assumption that they will get lost in a field or dropped on the subway tracks or left out in the rain or something. The 13yo's on his 3rd phone in ~4 years, so this expectation holds up.
Meanwhile, the 8yo has the Oneplus 3 That Will Not Die. Battery life's still great, screen's only cracked by the fingerprint reader (not part of the display), I've had to repair the buttons two or three times now.. After almost 3 years, it's gettin…

@galaxydinodragon@social.linux.pizza
2026-02-27 21:59:40

Anyone think this is actually a good idea?
Thinking of making my own SAS backplane for use with an HBA using an RPI Pico or something as an SGPIO decode. Might have some obvious mistakes here but any help is welcome!
#hardware #technology

@ethanwhite@hachyderm.io
2026-02-09 14:10:01

When asking someone to do something it's important to be clear about everything you are asking them to do, and when you are asking them to do it, up front.
Increasingly I'm asked to do something, I look at my schedule and other commitments and agree to the ask, and then weeks later am informed that "as part of X (what I agreed to) everyone is expected to do Y (something time consuming that wasn't mentioned before)" or "we need you to provide X (something necessary the day of the event) a week in advance (when there was no indication of this early deadline at the initial ask)".
This means that the calculations someone made regarding whether they could participate are based an incomplete understanding of what is required. That's not fair and it either results in forcing the participant to deprioritize something else or makes them push back on something they never agreed to and potentially withdraw.

@DiverDoc@mstdn.ca
2026-02-19 21:49:57

Trump’s administration is so afraid that they might even accidentally do something good, or of value, or that might save lives or appear to be modern and scientifically based if appropriate.
CIDRAP Op-Ed: The FDA refused to review a flu vaccine, contrary to evidence. Now the agency reversed itself.
cidrap.umn.edu/influenza-vacci

@DrPlanktonguy@ecoevo.social
2026-02-21 14:30:15

Weekend #Plankton Factoid 🦠🦐
Recently, Japanese researchers found some odd DNA in a dinoflagellate cell, which isn't really an Archaea, or a virus, but something else entirely. Apparently symbiotic or parasitic, with an extreme genome reduction, Sukunaarchaeum mirabile has the genetic coding to replicate, but not sustain itself metabolically, so is it life or not alive? Classifying organ…

image/jpeg a microscopic photograph of a dotted textured pink coloured single-celled organism with a dark orange inclusion. 
Citharistes regius, dinoflagellate by Takuro Nakayama, Mami Nomura, Akinori Yabuki, Kogiku Shiba, Kazuo Inaba & Yuji Inagaki. CC BY 4.0.
@DamonHD@mastodon.social
2026-01-29 07:42:32

In at uni for 9am today (so already at a cold train station), for a day on responsible research or something ... should I have done some prep ... um?

@chrisnelder@mastodon.energy
2026-02-12 19:05:48

After reading Matt Shumer's warning about what AI will do to knowledge workers linkedin.com/pulse/something-b I thought: Is anyone demanding a "just transition" for them, or is that only for the energy tr…

@ErikJonker@mastodon.social
2026-02-28 07:00:30

For Iran the question is can we just sit this one out , without striking back somewhere (with their limited capabilities) or do we have to do something to remain credible.
#geopolitics #iran #israel

@simon_lucy@mastodon.social
2026-02-22 14:50:30

No one on either side can control the ball. Someone should check the pressures, or the axial tilt of Nottingham or something.
#lfc

@philip@mastodon.mallegolhansen.com
2026-02-26 23:45:47

@… Whether or not something is a pyramid scheme, and whether or not participants find benefit in participating, are orthogonal. It can be both :)

@hex@kolektiva.social
2026-01-25 19:39:35

I explained something for a friend in a simple way, and I think it's worth paraphrasing again here.
You cannot create a system that constrains itself. Any constraint on a system must be external to the system, or that constraint can be ignored or removed. That's just how systems work. Every constitution for every country claims to do this impossible thing, a thing proven is impossible almost 100 years ago now. Gödel's loophole has been known to exist since 1947.
Every constitution in the world, every "separation of powers" and set of "checks and balances," attempts to do something which is categorically impossible. Every government is always, at best, a few steps away from authoritarianism. From this, we would then expect that governments trand towards authoritarianism. Which, of course, is what we see historically.
Constraints on power are a formality, because no real controls can possibly exist. So then democratic processes become sort of collective classifiers that try to select only people who won't plunge the country into a dictatorship. Again, because this claim of restrictions on powers is a lie (willful or ignorant, a lie reguardless) that classifier has to be correct 100% of the time (even assuming a best case scenario). That's statistically unlikely.
So as long as you have a system of concentrated power, you will have the worst people attracted to it, and you will inevitably have that power fall into the hands of one of the worst possible person.
Fortunately, there is an alternative. The alternative is to not centralize power. In the security world we try to design systems that assume compromise and minimize impact, rather than just assuming that we will be right 100% of the time. If you build systems that maximially distribute power, then you minimize the impact of one horrible person.
Now, I didn't mention this because we're both already under enough stress, but...
Almost 90% of the nuclear weapons deployed around the world are in the hands of ghoulish dictators. Only two of the countries with nuclear weapons not straight up authoritarian, but they're not far off. We're one crashout away from steralizing the surface of the Earth with nuclear hellfire. Maybe countries shouldn't exist, and *definitely* multiple thousands of nuclear weapons shouldn't exist and shouldn't all be wired together to launch as soon as one of these assholes goes a bit too far sideways.

@aardrian@toot.cafe
2026-01-23 13:22:31

“Barriers from Links with ARIA”
adrianroselli.com/2026/01/barr
Tried to capture other ways using `aria-label` and/or `aria-hidden` within links can break them for non-SR users.
Corrections, additions welcome. Ma…

@karlauerbach@sfba.social
2026-01-27 01:05:48

And now for something completely different:
closertotheedge.net/p/the-dild

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2026-01-02 07:04:24

#Blakes7 Series B, Episode 10 - Voice from the Past
AVON: The human brain.
ORAC: Correct.
CALLY: A telepathic order was beamed to Blake to force him to reroute to that asteroid.
ORAC: As you yourself foresaw.
AVON: So tell us something new.

Claude Sonnet 4.5 describes the image as: "This is a close-up shot from what appears to be a British science fiction television production, likely from the late 1970s or early 1980s based on the video quality and aesthetic. The image captures an intense dramatic moment, with the camera positioned very close to the subject's face, emphasizing emotional intensity and gravitas.

Paul Darrow appears in character, displaying the kind of commanding presence he was known for in his television work. Hi…
@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2026-02-26 19:00:23

Because some of the replies, while good, have wandered a bit off the rails, please consider:
1. “We should study and learn from how Hypercard lowered the barrier to entry to programming.”
2. “Hypercard or something like it would be unsuitable for many / most modern applications.”
Please note that both these things can be true (and both are in my view). Upthread I’m pushing for (1). And…

@PwnieFan@infosec.exchange
2026-01-01 17:25:19

From Marcia Bjornerud's Reading The Rocks: Over geologic time, the specific rhythms and idioms change slowly, but the essential rules of the dance remain the same: interaction, restraint, reincarnation.
These rhythms of nature shape all the organisms that evolved under their influence. It is folly to think that we can sit out the dance or make our own rules ... without the force field of scarcity, a constant in our evolutionary past, we lose something of our full potential. Once we …

@aral@mastodon.ar.al
2026-02-27 07:42:45

RE: mastodon.social/@fj/1161412444
If you’re not a US citizen, Anthropic supports your mass surveillance by the US regime. Thought you might want to know in case you find yourself funding your own future demise from a drone strike or something.

@hex@kolektiva.social
2025-12-26 22:38:36

This yacht isn't the biggest or the worst. I chose it because it's the easiest to find. If you actually wanted to try and blockade a ship like this, or do a noise demo or something, it would probably be better to target a larger ship rather than just the richest guy... But whatever, I'm not organizing shit so you do you.

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2026-01-31 21:41:35

I'll be honest, sometimes I like the #AltText more than the picture. Like, it'll be some picture of the woods or something, and I'm like "okay woods.." and then I read the alt text and it describes lots of amazing details that I didn't even notice and I'm like, "wow this picture is great!"
But really it's the alt text that's great. It…

@scott@carfree.city
2025-12-29 01:29:36

I’m helping put together a campaign for municipal #socialHousing here in San Francisco. If you’re already familiar with social housing, how would you define it? If you’re newer to the idea, what’s a question you have about social housing, or something you hope it can achieve?

@tante@tldr.nettime.org
2026-01-26 09:29:57

Read something about the Anthropic house philosopher stating that we still don't know if "AI" can feel and got pissed off about that level of drivel only to realize that she said it on the Hard Fork Podcast of course.
This is so "tech discourse in 2026" that I don't even know how to respond or react.

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2026-01-27 13:12:55
Content warning: ICE, racism, police brutality

Also: we're seeing what happens when white people are actually motivated en-masse (and the George Floyd response was actually another decent example of this).
General strike -> capitalist class goes "oh shit we need to deescalate" -> temporary reprieve.
White people actually putting their bodies on the line (or at least near enough to it that ICE killed them) got results. This is direct evidence of just how much oppression depends on the social fragmentation it invests immense energy into creating in order to not get its ass kicked both ideologically and literally.
Also for those white people like me who are scared to participate: I don't have the numbers, but there were something like 50,000 people who stood up (even if we just want to count observers and joiners-of-whistle-crowds I'd guess at least 5,000-10,000). Two in that category died (more like 30 have died in the direct-targets-of-ICE category). So don't look at Pretti and think "protesting is so risky." Consider that both the odds of being the one or two killed are low, and that if you don't stand up quickly and strongly enough against this shit, the body count will grow much higher.
This isn't over, and continued escalation and resistance is super critical now. Rather than hoping the twin cities story is a story of heroes elsewhere who solved the problem, make it a story of an inspiring example that gets replicated in LA, Chicago, and all around the nation where ICE is trying to metastasize into an unaccountable secret police.

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2026-02-25 04:39:48

Maybe the AI companies are on to something and there’s a global summary shortage or unfulfilled market demand for Shrimp Jesus image macros we’re not aware of

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2026-02-01 10:34:20

Series C, Episode 12 - Death-Watch
DAYNA: I felt something. At least, I think I did.
AVON: Yes?
DAYNA: It's difficult to pin down. It's as though we were waiting.
blake.torpidity.net/m/312/473 B7B2

Claude Sonnet 4 describes the image as: "This appears to be a scene from the British science fiction television series "Blake's 7," set aboard the spacecraft Liberator. Five crew members are gathered in the ship's main lounge area, seated on the characteristic beige/cream colored seating. They're positioned around what appears to be a transparent container or device on the central table. The setting features the show's distinctive futuristic interior design with metallic surfaces and ambient li…

In a conversation at this year's
Billionaire's convention
—aka the World Economic Forum
—Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella warned that AI will lose public support
unless it's used to "do something useful that changes the outcomes of people and communities and countries and industries."
"We will quickly lose even the social permission to take something like energy,
which is a scarce resource,
and use it to generate these tokens,

@ErikJonker@mastodon.social
2026-02-13 16:28:32

Is this the disturbed view of AI / BigTech optimists, or does he have a point?
"Something Big Is Happening"
#ai

@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-12-27 19:19:47

All these breathless articles about people forming weird relationships with LLMs, ruining marriages or going down psychological rabbit holes because of the emotionally compulsion-forming quality of having something that always says yes to you?
I think that’s happening to people in management, too, in their professional lives — and they’re making purchase decisions around it.
9/

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-12-30 23:21:00

I do wish more folks opted into being searchable on here.
The other day I accidentally clicked on a CW and uncovered a Pluribus spoiler, so I quickly scrolled away before reading it. Now that I've caught up on it, I'm curious what the post said.. but I can't find it. In retrospect I should bookmarked it or something, but I wasn't thinking that far ahead - just wanted to make sure I didn't read it at the time.

@hex@kolektiva.social
2025-12-29 18:23:53

I'm trying to play through the implications of some software I've been thinking about maybe designing.
It's legal to make a digital copy of the media that you own (videos, audio) physical copies of. It's legal to give a physical copy of your media to someone else or loan it out, which transfers your viewing license while they have It. Then it should also be legal to let someone else use a digital copy of your media given that you don't also use it at the same time. So as long as you keep track of your license, you should be able to let exactly one person stream some media you own.
If someone else then "steals" that content and views it without a license then that has to be legally on them, otherwise streaming platforms would be liable whenever someone cracks some DRM.
So then, it should be completely legal to set up a local community media library streaming service where you can share content you own licenses to as long as you track your license count and don't let more people stream at any given time than there are licenses available.
Is there something obvious I'm missing (aside from the MPAA and RIAA don't care about the law and will just sue anyone they can just to make an example)?

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2026-01-16 14:15:13

Hi, I'm Thomas. Back in 2005 or so I've practically invented in-browser animations with HTML elements.
PLEASE DO NOT ANIMATE USER INTERFACE ELEMENTS FOR NO REASON.
Do not animate icons, change positions of buttons, do "fun liquid glass animations"; definitely under no circumstances move in or fade in whole blocks of text (unless your design goal is that you want people looking at your website to become nauseous).
Only use animation when it's helpful to the user—for example, when they need to pay extra attention to something because there's a risk of data loss or to pass the time while showing that something is going on when there's a process which takes a bit longer.

#Oumuamua was first spotted on October 19, 2017, by a telescope in Hawaii called Pan-STARRS 1.
At first, scientists thought it was just a regular comet or asteroid -- But as they watched it more closely, they realized it was very different.
Here are some key things about Oumuamua:
#Shape: Unlike most as…

@hex@kolektiva.social
2026-02-21 22:08:39

One more thought...
One of the more toxic elements of the whole "manosphere" thing relative to dating is the application of game theory to relationships. They've got people trying to "maximize their dating potential" or whatever, trying to find the "most attractive march" (which is it's own fucked up thing I'm not even going to dig in to). But that whole mindset is basically going to always leave you miserable.
Oh, you're single? You need a partner. Oh you have a partner? Could you get a "better" one?
It turns relationships into the endless pointless grind of capitalism. Fuck that. None of that shit makes sense. No matter how "well" you do in that game, you always feel like a loser. Everyone does. Fuck that game. Quit.
The constant desire makes you miserable and your misery makes you unlikable. When you let go of it, you leave room to experience what is instead of constantly imagining what could be.
You will always be able to imagine a better "could be" than what is now. By comparing your situation now to that "could be" you will always see your situation as bad because it's worse than your yardstick.
Is your situation good for you? Is it serving you? It can be good and it can also be possible to make it better. When was the last time you just experience your life instead of trying to strategize your way into "something better."
Throw away the yardstick. Something something Buddha.
Edit: all this is of course aside from the whole objectification thing, which is it's own whole set of fucked up. But yeah... All that shit is real bad news.

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-12-21 13:11:44

Series C, Episode 12 - Death-Watch
MAX: Did you expect to?
DEETA: I don't mean personally. I mean there's something strange about him, something wrong.
blake.torpidity.net/m/312/219 B7B3

Claude Sonnet 4 describes the image as: "This image shows a man in what appears to be a military or formal uniform with decorative braiding or cord details on the shoulders. He has brown hair styled in a 1970s fashion and is looking directly at the camera with an intense expression. The background appears to be indoors with light-colored walls or pillars, suggesting this may be from a television production or film from that era. The costume and styling are consistent with period drama productio…
@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2025-12-16 22:05:35

Wrt to a certain article going around today:
I think if your parents are abusive and/or say or do certain abominable things and you don’t cut them off, there’s something wrong with you.
Which would make perfect sense being raised by people that were abusive to you.
Gotta break the cycle. If you don’t do it for yourself, think about how it affects people you love like your partner or children.

@hex@kolektiva.social
2025-12-26 22:25:04

RE: mastodon.social/@jmcrookston/1
"The earth is not dying, it is being killed, and those who are killing it have names and addresses."
And in this case the things they are using to kill it have radio transponders that regularly transmit their geolocation, and these can be looked up on sites that also generally track their Intended destination.
Frog suit Luigi jokes aside, I do feel like it would be possible to blockade some of these ships or at least make their stays in some ports uncomfortable. There are some problems with tracking boats to specific owners, but any giant yacht should probably just be resisted on principle.
I hope someone with more organizing time than me thinks about this a bit. It would definitely take international effort, but an international org like XR could actually probably pull something like that off... If they actually wanted to do something.

@hex@kolektiva.social
2026-02-21 21:10:33

After the whole Adam Something "dating advice for leftist men" thing, I realized I should probably write something about that. I didn't, but I realized I should. Here I am sort of getting around to it.
I had a friend call me an "elder" at one point. I was like 35 at that time, but like... a lot of old leftists are just dead or in prison, so we take what we can get I guess. Being also an elder in the sense that I'm an elder millennial, who is also a parent and married for almost 10 years and all that, I guess I'm technically qualified.
So here it is, dating advice for (straight cis) leftist men:
1. Don't.
That's it, actually. That's the whole thing. Let me explain a bit.
First of all, this is dating advice for neuroatypical folks. We're way overrepresented in both extremes because this system wasn't built for us. And that's who is *the most* confused by all the relationship stuff, and most likely to try to apply all this masculinity/manosphere bullshit. I'm also talking a bit from experience here, as a neruo-spicy trying to "figure out" how to date within a paradigm entirely built around neurotypicals and their relationships. It's garbage. Throw it out. There's nothing worth saving.
His video had some line comparing not having sex to your house being on fire. I'm not gonna bother to quote it because I'm busy with actual life. But like, that's exactly what I'm talking about. I recognize that and it's horribly destructive. Men who buy in to patriarchy actually believe this, because those men value themselves based on (hetro) sex. Yeah, if you think you're worthless because you aren't "getting laid" then yeah, you're gonna feel like that's an emergency.
"Dating" as a paradigm turns humans into roles. It dehumanizes us all, and thus makes human connection much harder. It is a game that, like thermonuclear war, can only be won by not playing.
When you abandon "dating" and just act like a human, everything starts to be easier. There's no such thing as being "friend zoned" because you're just friends. Sometimes friendships become other things, sometimes they don't. It doesn't actually matter, because if you're actually there for friendship then you don't *need* anything else.
My grandma, at 98 I think, gave me some advice. My grandparents always got along well, and were married for enough decades that I listened really closely. She told me I should just do things I loved to do and everything else would work itself out.
And it kind of did.
I understand the fear, the idea that you'll die alone. I get that. I get the loneliness. It all hits a lot harder when you have ADHD emotions and past trauma. I get that. But that fear is self-manifesting. When you build your confidence, when you don't *need* to be "in a relationship," you have more room to actually build relationships. For me, dating was dehumanizing. When I abandoned that, I was able to actually be a good partner, and I was able to find my partner.
I would advise against marriage as well, but we did get married for legal reasons. It can still be hard to maintain that, to see each other as people rather than roles. That becomes extra hard as parents. But the times that we cut through that are the times we're closest. Those are the times when it becomes easier to remember that we're both humans and all human relationships need tending.
Roles don't need to be tended because they are classifications. Classifications are static. But relationships between humans are not. Humans are messy and chaotic. Humans have all kinds of complex needs and desires.
So yeah, don't date. Just be a human and see what happens. Maybe google "relationship anarchy" and see where it takes you.
If you have ADHD, it can be especially useful to understand that relationships with neurotypical folks can be especially difficult. Assume you're incompatible with 90% of the population as your baseline, and you'll start to understand why the standard "dating" thing has made you feel so alienated and miserable.
Neurotypical folks generally have no idea that atypicality exists, much less how it impacts relationships. Having to conform to a neurotypical relationship just adds additional mental strain unless you find someone (really special) who can do at least some of the work.
The ADHD thing was especially important for me. There were so many things I was told to do in specific ways by neurotypicals that never worked for me. Their advice always made me feel like a failure. When I was finally diagnosed, I realized they were just giving advice for the wrong type of brain. It was advice I could never use. Basically all dating advice I ever got fell into this same category.
That's my braindump. Maybe I'll develop it more in the future, but I'm busy so maybe not. I hope it helps someone who is struggling like I was.