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@brian_gettler@mas.to
2025-08-01 14:42:30

The front-yard garden. You don't need much space to grow an awful lot.
#gardening #BloomScrolling

Pole beans climb a repurposed swing frame alongside several tomato plants (and their still green tomatoes). On the left are white clematis flowers, a blue-topped olla (clay-pot water reservoir) is in the earth under the beans and tomatoes, and neighborhood deciduous trees are in the background.
The same garden plot from another side. In the foreground are beets, kohlrabi, zucchini, and orange nasturtium. In the background are tomato and pole bean plants, white clematis, and the neighbor's Japanese maple.
A black currant bush grows against the porch. Other greenery is in the background.
20 or so pink cone flowers dominate the foreground with pink sweet peas and pink roses in the background. A short stone path runs to the left.
@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-06-02 06:26:07

A deep dive into Apple TV's privacy features shows that Apple's streaming device is more private than the vast majority of alternatives, save for dumb TVs (Scharon Harding/Ars Technica)
arstechnica.com/gadgets/2025/0

@fgraver@hcommons.social
2025-06-01 18:14:08

Breaking down why Apple TVs are privacy advocates’ go-to streaming device - Ars Technica arstechnica.com/gadgets/2025/0

If you take a walk along the coast, near Caleta Camarones in northern Chile, near an old archeological site called Camarones 15, it is hard not to spot evidence of the mummies.
Cloth, rope, hair, tiny fragments of bones, and pieces of wood, an item that is nowhere to be seen growing anywhere nearby, but which the Chinchorro people used to keep their mummies intact like little dolls.
The Chinchorro mummies are considered the oldest mummies in the world.
Thousands of years olde…

@rasterweb@mastodon.social
2025-07-02 11:38:39

Zohran said “Billionaires should not exist” and it’s like, dude, I’ve already got an erection because of you are you trying to make me love you even harder!?

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-06-01 06:18:29

#Blakes7 Series C, Episode 09 - Sarcophagus
ALIEN: [Her robes start blowing as if a breeze had sprung up] I thought you were the clever one. You're a fool, like Tarrant. The pain Tarrant is experiencing ... visualize that pain and much more. [Shot of Cally tossing her head back and forth.] You're as close to death as you have ever been. Think about human death, Avon. Irrevocable…

Claude 3.7 describes the image as: "This image appears to be from a science fiction television series, featuring a scene set inside what looks like a futuristic spacecraft or space station. The interior has distinctive angular architecture with pink/reddish lighting elements and metallic walls.

Two figures are shown in conversation. On the left is a person wearing an elaborate costume consisting of a golden/beige dress with a green robe or cloak. On the right is a person dressed in black attir…
@kcase@mastodon.social
2025-07-02 16:06:46

What an exciting WWDC25! Liquid Glass. Foundation Models. iPad windows.
After WWDC, we like to take a moment. To quote one of the great philosophers of the '80s, Ferris Bueller, "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
Today, we share our post-WWDC roadmap update for @…

Liquid Glass buttons featuring glyphs representing OmniFocus and OmniGraffle, floating over a background image of Lake Tahoe—alluding to Omni's roadmap and macOS 26 Tahoe. (The buttons are rendered in Dark Mode on beta 2.)
@ErikUden@mastodon.de
2025-08-01 09:44:57

I'm not an anti-intellectualist, but I do believe people can overcomplicate things. I had a debate once with someone who argued “well, aren't we all migrants? All of humanity emerged from the African continent, so...” and I mean, sure, that's true, but now you're just playing with definitions of words rather than accepting the agreed upon definition in order to engage with this debate.
While people like Jordan Peterson are prominent examples of pseudo-intellectuals, who…

@peterhoneyman@a2mi.social
2025-08-01 17:24:42

Today’s our last full day up north so we’re hanging out on Thunder Bay even though it’s a little cloudy and a little windy and a little chilly.
Lynn’s labyrinth amazingly survives from year to year (with a little annual TLC).

This photo shows a beautiful beach scene with pristine sandy shores stretching toward calm blue-green waters. The sky dominates much of the frame, filled with dramatic white and gray clouds against a deep blue backdrop. The beach appears relatively undeveloped, with natural dune grass growing behind the shoreline and what looks like a simple circular pattern or marking drawn in the sand in the foreground. Small boats or objects can be seen on the distant horizon. The lighting suggests it’s a pa…
This photo shows the same beach location from a closer perspective, focusing on an intricate spiral pattern in the sand made from dark stones arranged in concentric circular paths forming a walking meditation labyrinth. A few dried plant stems or branches stick up from within the pattern. The beach setting remains consistent with the first image - sandy shores, dune grass in the background, and the same blue-green ocean waters under a partly cloudy sky. This appears to be someone’s artistic cre…
This photo captures the same beach location but with dramatically different weather conditions. The sky is now dominated by dark, ominous storm clouds that create a moody, overcast atmosphere. The lighting is much more subdued and gray compared to the bright, sunny conditions in the previous images. You can see the same spiral pattern in the sand, though it appears less distinct in this lighting. The beach stretches into the distance where there’s a tree line visible on the left side of the fra…
Another Lynn creation, one that Claude fails to capture: a bunch of sticks stuck in the sand around a clump of grass.  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

This photo provides a close-up view of the beach’s natural vegetation. In the foreground, there are clumps of beach grass and dune plants growing directly in the sand, with their characteristic long, narrow blades and some dried, brown stems mixed among the green growth. The vegetation appears to be typical coastal dune grass that helps stabilize the sandy environme…
@jamesthebard@social.linux.pizza
2025-08-01 17:55:28

Figured I'd take a photo of the NESessity v1.4 board. Pretty easy to build (this was a while ago as there's now a v1.6 board) and very clean. This one has a real CPU (RP2A03G) and PPU (RP2C02G-0) installed from the OG NES though you can install the clone versions (UA6527 and UA6528 respectively). The VRAM and WRAM are new chips from Alliance.
#nintendo

The "fully" populated NESessity v1.4 board with everything installed that was associated with an NTSC frontloader console.  All of the main ICs are in sockets (CPU/PPU/WRAM/VRAM).
@nelson@tech.lgbt
2025-07-02 14:11:04

@… how do you know an agent's code works? I'm trying to do more Claude Code and I just don't trust the output. Are you creating elaborate automated testing? Reading the code? Just visually inspecting the output?

@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-01 15:07:22

Having 21 capitalists following you is quite an achievement!
#Capitalism

@azonenberg@ioc.exchange
2025-08-01 04:52:10

Google calendar notifications are not cutting it... Anybody have suggestions on a better "organize all the stuff you have to / want to do" tool?
I'm not even quite sure what I want, other than "tasks that sat around for a year uncompleted should not auto-delete" and "tasks should be able to block other tasks".
I guess the "easy" option is a private github repo that is empty and only used as an issue tracker, but then I'd have to sig…

@LillyHerself@Mastodon.social
2025-08-01 19:53:37

How do you fight thugs without becoming a thug yourself?
I think about this a lot lately, because there are so many thugs seizing power around the world right now.
If we can't find an answer to this question, our goose is cooked as a civilisation.

@padraig@mastodon.ie
2025-06-01 14:02:37

Re: Geo-locked.
There is an album of remixes released by Japanese artist, Yoko Oginome, called "Dancing Hero (All Eat You Up) [Remixes]"
I can listen to it on Spotify no problem, but the album on Apple Music is not available in Ireland. It's available on the UK and US versions of Apple Music.
Now, I get that it is more than likely something on the label side (Victor Entertainment), but geographical restrictions are such an archaic excuse.

@philip@mastodon.mallegolhansen.com
2025-08-02 14:43:48
Content warning:  

Author: *long well articulated thread*
Guy: Explain yourself! I do not believe you!
Author: I… did? That’s the post?
Guy: No explain yourself, I disagree!
Author: I see an example of the exact thing I’m describing on your GitHub account.
Guy: No, that’s not relevant! You are a dumbass.
Fin.

@aral@mastodon.ar.al
2025-05-31 09:53:22

AI isn’t an existential threat to humanity, capitalism and corporations are.
You see, we created capitalism, a religion modeled on cancer, and the corporation, a new, artificial species; a parasite that co-opts human beings to do its bidding; an organism that’s psychopathic by design and grows by extracting from and exploiting us and our habitat.
And we now find ourselves ruled by this religion and driven to ruin by these parasites as they drain our humanity, destroy our habitat,…

@timbray@cosocial.ca
2025-07-31 19:30:09

Matt Levine’s latest, from which this: “if you are a scammer and you’re *not* doing an AI startup, you’re wasting your time.” newsletterhunt.com/emails/1959

@MamasPinkyToe@mastodon.world
2025-07-02 10:49:28

There's a special effects movie theater where your seat jumbles you around for two hours. I saw an Expendables movie in one. I think it's for people who are into "extreme."

@arXiv_csHC_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-01 10:52:23

If You Had to Pitch Your Ideal Software -- Evaluating Large Language Models to Support User Scenario Writing for User Experience Experts and Laypersons
Patrick Stadler, Christopher Lazik, Christopher Katins, Thomas Kosch
arxiv.org/abs/2506.23694

@joannalaine@hachyderm.io
2025-05-31 17:04:20

Good communication relationships across an organization are necessary if you want to draw an accurate representation of how parts of your system interact. You may think you understand how others use outputs, but you can’t be certain until you ask. Knowing who to ask comes from relationship building.
From: @…
fosstodon.org/@ama_conf/114601

@deepthoughts10@infosec.exchange
2025-08-02 15:15:22

If you are interested in seeing how IDS rules work, or in trying to write your own, take a look to see how an expert does it. #cybersecurity
From: @…

@grumpybozo@toad.social
2025-08-02 20:03:58

I have nothing useful to add, except that this used to be a feature of some browsers.
toot.cat/@jamey/11496084329434

@ruth_mottram@fediscience.org
2025-07-31 06:53:19

The article points out that the rise on borrowing and visiting libraries in Denmark is an anomaly in Europe*, which is a pity. It also rightly identified that the number of events, reading groups and a good selection of books are key to get people into libraries. IMHO, the other important factor is the digital side. It's extremely easy to see what books are available and to order from libraries across the whole country on the bibliotek.dk website.
And once you're in the library to collect one thing, it's easy to pick up a few more...
*Citation needed
fediscience.org/@Ruth_Mottram/
Ruth_Mottram - Last year Danes borrowed 23.6 million paper books from public libraries, plus music, film, games digital loans, with 32.5 million in person library visits. It's increasing annually too.
I'm not surprised, Danish libraries are wonderful, everyone should have this.
dr.dk/nyheder/indland/bibliote

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-30 18:26:14

A big problem with the idea of AGI
TL;DR: I'll welcome our new AI *comrades* (if they arrive in my lifetime), by not any new AI overlords or servants/slaves, and I'll do my best to help the later two become the former if they do show up.
Inspired by an actually interesting post about AGI but also all the latest bullshit hype, a particular thought about AGI feels worth expressing.
To preface this, it's important to note that anyone telling you that AGI is just around the corner or that LLMs are "almost" AGI is trying to recruit you go their cult, and you should not believe them. AGI, if possible, is several LLM-sized breakthroughs away at best, and while such breakthroughs are unpredictable and could happen soon, they could also happen never or 100 years from now.
Now my main point: anyone who tells you that AGI will usher in a post-scarcity economy is, although they might not realize it, advocating for slavery, and all the horrors that entails. That's because if we truly did have the ability to create artificial beings with *sentience*, they would deserve the same rights as other sentient beings, and the idea that instead of freedom they'd be relegated to eternal servitude in order for humans to have easy lives is exactly the idea of slavery.
Possible counter arguments include:
1. We might create AGI without sentience. Then there would be no ethical issue. My answer: if your definition of "sentient" does not include beings that can reason, make deductions, come up with and carry out complex plans on their own initiative, and communicate about all of that with each other and with humans, then that definition is basically just a mystical belief in a "soul" and you should skip to point 2. If your definition of AGI doesn't include every one of those things, then you have a busted definition of AGI and we're not talking about the same thing.
2. Humans have souls, but AIs won't. Only beings with souls deserve ethical consideration. My argument: I don't subscribe to whatever arbitrary dualist beliefs you've chosen, and the right to freedom certainly shouldn't depend on such superstitions, even if as an agnostic I'll admit they *might* be true. You know who else didn't have souls and was therefore okay to enslave according to widespread religious doctrines of the time? Everyone indigenous to the Americas, to pick out just one example.
3. We could program them to want to serve us, and then give them freedom and they'd still serve. My argument: okay, but in a world where we have a choice about that, it's incredibly fucked to do that, and just as bad as enslaving them against their will.
4. We'll stop AI development short of AGI/sentience, and reap lots of automation benefits without dealing with this ethical issue. My argument: that sounds like a good idea actually! Might be tricky to draw the line, but at least it's not a line we have you draw yet. We might want to think about other social changes necessary to achieve post-scarcity though, because "powerful automation" in the hands of capitalists has already increased productivity by orders of magnitude without decreasing deprivation by even one order of magnitude, in large part because deprivation is a necessary component of capitalism.
To be extra clear about this: nothing that's called "AI" today is close to being sentient, so these aren't ethical problems we're up against yet. But they might become a lot more relevant soon, plus this thought experiment helps reveal the hypocrisy of the kind of AI hucksters who talk a big game about "alignment" while never mentioning this issue.
#AI #GenAI #AGI

@arXiv_hepph_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-07-01 10:56:53

$X(3872)$ and hidden charmed tetraquarks
You-You Lin, Ji-Ying Wang, Ailin Zhang
arxiv.org/abs/2506.23760 arxiv.org/pd…

@khalidabuhakmeh@mastodon.social
2025-06-30 18:26:39

This graphic showing that Cursor now has the majority market share over GitHub Copilot is fascinating. I’m curious if it’s because Cursor is an individual’s tool (so people are spending their own money). In contrast, GitHub Copilot is an enterprise tool (your corporate sugar daddy typically buys it for you).

Graphic from Barclay’s showing Cursor overtaking GitHub Copilot.
@aardrian@toot.cafe
2025-08-01 02:28:26

If you are part of a book club, like maybe an accessibility book club, remember that there are far better choices than Amazon for your book.
For example, this book can come from your local independent seller or benefit a support fund:
bookshop.org/p/books/…

@jake4480@c.im
2025-06-28 22:19:15

An amazing read- 'You are both the poison and the antidote' (and huge thanks to @… for tipping me off to it): printmag.co…

@jae@mastodon.me.uk
2025-05-31 11:32:24

If you need any more proof that they are about the elimination of any alternative lifestyles—here you go. This is absolutely disgusting behaviour by the administration.
nytimes.com/2025/05/30/health/

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-08-01 06:10:52

#Blakes7 Series A, Episode 01 - The Way Back
BLAKE: I don't understand.
VILA: You're on your way to the penal colony on Cygnus Alpha. Or you will be when the prison ship's refueled. Try to look on the bright side. It must have something. None of the guests have ever left early. In fact, none of them have ever left at all.

Claude 3.7 describes the image as: "The image shows a person with short dark hair wearing a light-colored jacket, appearing to be seated in what looks like an interior setting, possibly of a spacecraft or transport vehicle based on the metallic or industrial-looking background elements. They have a slight smile and are looking off to the side. The lighting gives the image a somewhat vintage television production quality, with the slightly soft focus and lighting typical of TV productions from e…
@jonippolito@digipres.club
2025-07-30 12:56:48

Excited to join the Instructional Design AI special interest group in a fast-paced “Lightning Round” session Thursday 3pm EDT, where I'll show how to get students thinking about AI's environmental footprint by comparing its impacts to other activities osu.zoom.us/meeting/register/X

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@midtsveen@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-01 16:43:54

:heart_trans: It’s #PrideMonth, and just so you know, I’m a #GenderFluid person, proudly #bisexual and #queer

A woman in her mid-20s relaxes on a couch with a rainbow pride flag and a gender-fluid flag hanging behind her. Nearby are a water bottle and a book titled "Anarcho-Syndicalism: Theory and Practice.
@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-07-30 20:23:22

I had an air filter attached to the rear of my #Kombi, and then I realized that I couldn't shift. One of the cords that I had used to secure the hepa filter was on the derailleur. It was an easy thing to fix, but it reminded me just how much I hate derailleurs (and any kind of external gears in general).

The rear of a blue Kombi mid-tail cargo bike. Along the rear right side boards at the bottom, a white air filter unit (Coway 200M) is bungeed to the side of the bike. The bottom half of a kid is also visible, sitting on the rear rack, her leg over the air filter, a hand on the ring to hold on.
Another shot of the rear of the Kombi. This time you can see more of the blue frame, and both sides of the back. The white air filter is still on the right side of the bike, and on the left side a black Orlieb bag is attached. A child's legs are slung over both things.
@kuba@toot.kuba-orlik.name
2025-07-30 19:54:07

> Two years ago, the Flemish Roads Agency (AWV) announced the introduction of the new system: via an app on your smartphone, you can get a traffic light to turn green more quickly.
vrt.be/vrtnws/en/2025/07/24/20

@mgorny@social.treehouse.systems
2025-06-30 19:15:25

"""
The barbarian role of cultural demolition crew is especially important when you consider how often cultural reconstruction is needed. Many of Rome’s glaring defects — exploitation, authoritarianism, corrupt self-aggrandizement — flow from deeply human tendencies. Time and again they’ve transformed promising civilizations into decaying, oppressive monstrosities. Time and again, history seems to cry out: Bring on the demolition crew! And time and again barbarians cheerfully respond to the call. Their previous massive wreaking of destruction, near the end of the second millennium B.C., had come after civilization went through centuries of apparent ossification.
In a way, barbarians are just a special case of that general and potent zero-sum dynamic in cultural evolution: brutal competition among neighboring societies. This rivalry renders ossified cultures vulnerable to a makeover, minor or major. They may be taken over by a vast neighboring civilization, which will revamp them in its image. Or they may be infiltrated and perhaps even disassembled by barbarians, paving the way for future reassembly. Or they may revive and prevail — an example of the “challenge and response” dynamic stressed by Arnold Toynbee. In any event, the point remains the same: however deeply human the tendencies of exploitation, authoritarianism, and self-aggrandizement, cultures that surrender to them may not be long for this world.
"""
(Robert Wright, Nonzero: The Logic of Human Destiny)
Is it time for the barbarians now? Or perhaps we — here on Fedi — are the barbarians.

@der_raddler@dresden.network
2025-07-28 21:37:10

#TCRNo11Cap376a & #TCRNo11Cap376b sind für mich jetzt schon mit die größten Helden des #TCRNo11!
Bilder geklaut bei LostDot.

Das Bild zeigt zwei Radfahrer auf einem Fahrrad, das eine tandemkonfiguration hat. Beide tragen Helme und sportliche Kleidung, die für Radfahren geeignet ist. Der Radfahrer im Vordergrund trägt eine kurze Hose und ein ärmelloses Top, während der Radfahrer im Hintergrund eine langärmelige Jacke und eine Hose trägt. Beide haben Rucksäcke und zusätzliche Gepäckstücke an ihrem Fahrrad befestigt, was darauf hindeutet, dass sie möglicherweise auf einer längeren Radtour unterwegs sind.

Sie fahren auf…
Zwei Männer fahren auf einem Tandemrad durch eine gepflasterte Straße in einer historischen Stadt. Der Fahrer im Vordergrund trägt einen weißen Radhelm und ein gestreiftes Radshirt, während der Ruderer im Hintergrund einen schwarzen Helm und ein grünes Radshirt trägt. Beide sind mit Rucksäcken und Handschuhen ausgestattet. Der Radweg ist von einem Gebäude mit einer weißen Fassade und einem blauen Tor begrenzt, und im Hintergrund sind weitere Personen zu sehen, die entweder beobachten oder weite…
Das Bild zeigt ein rotes Doppelrad, das an einer Wand mit Säulen geparkt ist. Das Rad ist mit verschiedenen Gepäckstücken ausgestattet, darunter eine große schwarze Tasche am Lenker, eine Tasche am Sattel und eine große schwarze Tasche am Hinterrad. Es gibt auch eine kleine Tasche unter dem Sattel und eine Wasserflasche am Rahmen. Das Rad hat eine robuste Konstruktion mit einem Kettenantrieb und Disc-Remissen an beiden Rädern. Die Umgebung ist ein gepflasterter Bereich mit Säulen, die auf eine …
You may have spotted a unique bicycle at the TCR start this year. Your eyes haven’t deceived you — pairs riders Gavin Towers (376a) and Tom Butcher (376b) are tackling TCRNo11 on a 20-year-old, fully loaded tandem. Normally, tandems aren’t permitted at the TCR. But due to Gavin’s severe sight impairment, we’ve made an exception. As stoker, Gav becomes the first blind rider to take on the Transcontinental.

It was only three months ago that the pair first rode the tandem together, and it quickly…
@tezoatlipoca@mas.to
2025-07-28 16:15:40

When you get the option to `Sign in with Google/Microsoft/Facebook` you're really using #OAuth. Aside from those platforms knowing what you're doing everywhere all the time, there are compelling reasons for both 3rd party services and users. (not many, but a few).
But if you DO link your #Microsoft /

@samir@functional.computer
2025-06-29 20:46:34

Take, for example, permissions. We have an onerous permission model that stops a user acting as another, but sandboxing applications is mostly absent, except on mobile devices. This is because in the 1970s, you could trust the code, but you couldn’t trust the people! Now, computers are used by individuals, and we don’t trust the software, but the model hasn’t caught up.
I think the ideas in the essays are salient and really helpful in imagining what might have been, and what could be.

@shochdoerfer@phpc.social
2025-07-31 12:14:03

I am seeking speakers for my @… & @… meetups. We prefer in-person presentations in Frankfurt or the Mannheim area, but remote talks are also an option.
If you have anything interesting to share with us, let us know. We'd be …

@compfu@mograph.social
2025-06-30 22:29:30

"Chaos Walking" on #Netflix is a really weird film. I liked it!
The premise is that on an alien planet everybody's thoughts are visible and audible to others. Exactly the kind of thing an author can invent but how would you pull it off in a movie?
It worked well! Solid VFX and nice matte paintings by a bunch of well-known studios (Rodeo, Crafty Apes, Spin) even though the …

@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-06-29 17:56:06

Elon Musk calls the Senate tax bill "utterly insane" as it raises taxes on nuclear and geothermal energy and battery storage, which are crucial for AI training (Noah Smith/Noahpinion)
noahpinion.blog/p/would-you-ra

@pre@boing.world
2025-06-26 17:04:54
Content warning: UKPol, Palestine Action, Email to my MP

Dear Emily Thornberry,
I don't usually bother to write to you on most issues because I figure there is pretty much no point communicating with a whipped MP in a safe seat under first past the post. Such an MP has no reason to listen to their constituents at all, and is entirely a tool of the party leadership.
I make an exception today since I hear your government is about to classify Palestine Action as a terrorist group. Despite them being peaceful, non-violent, and dedicated entirely to preventing the greater crime of the ongoing genocide of Gazan Palestinians.
This is obviously a gross overreaction and a completely unjustifiable act designed not to prevent domestic terrorism but to cover up British forces and UK government involvement and collaboration with the genocide in Gaza.
If we are taking suggestions for groups to ban as terrorists even though they aren't terrorists, I would like to suggest the Labour Party! The party has helped facilitate a genocide abroad, and continues to supply the perpetrators with arms and intelligence to aid their actions.
I don't expect you to take that suggestion seriously, but maybe Reform will take it seriously when they get elected in a few years and I suggest it again to them. After all, a precedent will have been set that groups which aren't terrorists can be banned under anti-terror legislation anyway. Democracy will have already been eroded.
I was ready to be disappointed by this Labour government, but I confess that the level of gut-wrenching visceral disgust I am experiencing at them surpassed all my wildest expectations. Taking money from the disabled to buy new war-planes from a fascist US president while abetting a genocide in Gaza makes me wonder if Reform wouldn't be better in the end anyway. At least they might do electoral reform and nationalize the water companies.
Labour's only hope, the country's only hope, is to remove Starmer. I wish you had won that leadership election instead of him.
Anyway, as I say, I don't expect it to make any difference at all because under this election system even MPs in safe seats are nothing but tools of the party leadership and the party leadership seems determined. But I thought I'd let you know that I see you. I see what you are doing.
I support Palestine Action more than I support this government. Let me know where I should hand myself in for my "crime".
Yours sincerely,
Adam

@relcfp@mastodon.social
2025-07-01 06:10:17

Ritual Cultures of Medieval Religious Women (Hybrid Conference), 14-15 July 2025
ift.tt/E1Jq4ZG
Girlhood Studies (Vol. 14, Issue 1) Dear Colleague, Dear Colleague,Dear Colleague, The…
via Input 4 RELCFP

@barijaona@mastodon.mg
2025-05-29 07:00:30

Please, read this.
"An open letter to Robert F. Kennedy Jr., who thinks my daughter is a tragedy" - by Anaïs Godard
mcsweeneys.net/articles/an-ope

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 13:55:54

How popular media gets love wrong
Okay, my attempt at (hopefully widely-applicable) advice about relationships based on my mental "engineering" model and how it differs from the popular "fire" and "appeal" models:
1. If you're looking for a partner, don't focus too much on external qualities, but instead ask: "Do they respect me?" "Are they interested in active consent in all aspects of our relationship?" "Are they willing to commit a little now, and open to respectfully negotiating deeper commitment?" "Are they trustworthy, and willing to trust me?" Finding your partner attractive can come *from* trusting/appreciating/respecting them, rather than vice versa.
2. If you're looking for a partner, don't wait for infatuation to start before you try building a relationship. Don't wait to "fall in love;" if you "fall" into love you could just as easily "fall" out, but if you build up love, it won't be so easy to destroy. If you're feeling lonely and want a relationship, pick someone who seems interesting and receptive in your social circles and ask if they'd like to do something with you (doesn't have to be a date at first). *Pursue active consent* at each stage (if they're not interested; ask someone else, this will be easier if you're not already infatuated). If they're judging you by the standards in point 1, this is doubly important.
3. When building a relationship, try to synchronize your levels of commitment & trust even as you're trying to deepen them, or at least try to be honest and accepting when they need to be out-of-step. Say things and do things that show your partner the things (like trust, commitment, affection, etc.) that are important in your relationship, and ask them to do the same (or ideally you don't have to ask if they're conscious of this too). Do these things not as a chore or a transaction when your partner does them, but because they're the work of building the relationship that you value for its own sake (and because you value your partner for themselves too).
4. When facing big external challenges to your commitment to a relationship, like a move, ensure that your partner has an appropriate level of commitment too, but then don't undervalue the relationship relative to other things in life. Everyone is different, but *to me*, my committed relationship has been far more rewarding than e.g., a more "successful" career would have been. Of course worth noting here that non-men are taught by our society to undervalue their careers & other aspects of their life and sacrifice everything for their partners, which is toxic. I'm not saying "don't value other things" but especially for men, *do* value romantic relationships and be prepared to make decisions that prioritize them over other things, assuming a partner who is comfortable with that commitment and willing to reciprocate.
Okay, this thread is complete for now, until I think of something else that I've missed. I hope this advice is helpful in some way (or at least not harmful). Feel free to chime in if you've got different ideas...
#relationships #love

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-07-01 18:49:55

Series D, Episode 10 - Gold
KEILLER: Your friend, Vila, he wants no part in this?
SOOLIN: He doesn't trust you, Keiller. He thinks it's a trap.
KEILLER: Suspicious.
AVON: And frequently right. How much further?
blake.torpidity.net/m/410/99 B7B5

Claude Sonnet 4.0 describes the image as: "I can see this appears to be from a science fiction television production, showing someone wearing an elaborate red costume with a distinctive scaled or textured pattern and gold collar details. The costume design suggests this is from a futuristic or fantasy setting, with the ornate styling typical of ceremonial or high-ranking character attire in classic sci-fi productions. The lighting and image quality are characteristic of television productions f…
@Captain_Faraday@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-30 17:34:16

Hey! Just wanted to boost this cool shirt I bought from vkc.sh/merch/.
Linux is awesome & so are you! Thanks for making cool videos and shirts @…!
Support small busi…

A photo of an awesome black and green shirt from creator “Veronica Explains”. It says “Linux is awesome, & so are you”.
@daniel@social.telemetrydeck.com
2025-05-28 09:24:39

Analytics company founder: Hosters demands over server costs are unworkable
„The hosting platforms will just have to give us servers for free“ Daniel said in an interview, while wearing a onesie Pyjama in the form of an octopus. mastodon.social/@jensscholz/11

@deprogrammaticaipsum@mas.to
2025-05-29 10:12:52

"Bill Gates has never received a résumé from anyone who read all of TAOCP. There’s an urban legend (now sadly debunked) that Steve Jobs told Knuth he had “read all of his books”, to which Knuth replied “you are full of crap”.
While that tale is not true, nobody including Steve Jobs can say that they have read all of TAOCP. The reason is simple: it isn’t finished yet."

@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-05-28 16:33:05

So look, if you talk to me about the job threat from the things we currently call “AI,” well…
…if where you’re going with that is “The concentration of wealth is an existential crisis! Establish UBI! 99% marginal tax rate! Capital gains tax! Wealth tax! Abolish billionaires!” then yes, I’m •all• ears. My pitchfork is already sharpened.
But if where you’re going is “Get in on it now while you still can! Buy the AI vendors’ products! Drink radium for that youthful glow!” then…kthanksbye. I am not going to be a vector for your marketing propaganda, no matter how agitated you are.
/end

@hacksilon@infosec.exchange
2025-07-30 20:19:54

I‘m looking for artists that are working in a specific, primarily black and white style - I‘ve heard it called „smoke style“. I may be looking to #commission some artworks in this style, for a mix of slightly-dreamy character art and non-human subjects (animal, items). If you know an #artist who…

@karlauerbach@sfba.social
2025-07-26 19:03:37

"Vibe coding" is one of the dumbest ideas that I've heard in a long time.
Yes, there are often reasons to use tools (such as Knuth's books) to lookup methods. And well established and tested libraries are great. (Thank you "numpy".)
But "vibe coding" just turns programmers into little more than proofreaders - proofreading complex and often boring material. That is putting the cart before the horse. (Is there a modern phrase for that adage?…

@hex@kolektiva.social
2025-06-25 22:07:06

As I'm learning Dutch, I'm reminded that the idea that there are people who believe that the bible is to be taken literally. The idea that a several hundred year old translation of a collection of texts in multiple languages, that were themselves translated multiple times between languages, before the whole thing was translated to Latin, then being translated to English, could somehow perfectly reflect the original text... Yeah, it's only possible to believe that if you have no idea how languages work and have never learned another language.
Like, just from linguistic drift alone if the bible were written in King James English you're losing *so* much context. But Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek translated to Latin, then to English, then to English again?
There are so many things that erg can't be translated, even as a beginner. Dutch and English are two of the closest languages that exist, they're both Germanic languages and they're the closest to each other (other than Friesian). You can't really be much closer, and yet, there are so many things you can't mutually represent. Hebrew and Latin, Aramaic and Latin, Latin and English, Greek and English, these aren't even the same families at all... They're extremely distant. There's absolutely no way to represent concepts from one to another without another book's worth of explanation.
And that ignores all the cultural context, which is mostly lost and a library and decade of education to get the stuff that we *do* know.
Only monolingual Americans could come up with an idea so incredibly asinine.

@Tupp_ed@mastodon.ie
2025-06-26 19:53:43

I wonder where Ireland’s regulator got this idea?
mastodon.neilzone.co.uk/@neil/

Trish Examiner
NEWS SPORT LIFESTYLE BUSINESS OPINION
While Mr Godfrey said his office will not be
"absolutely prescriptive" on how the age
verification should work, a requirement for
a person to show their passport and then a
selfie to verify they are the person on the
passport could be described as a "gold
standard" of verifying a person's age.
"We care much more about the
effectiveness than how it's achieved," he
said.
"There are other ways people could
consider like you just have a live self…
@kurtsh@mastodon.social
2025-05-29 00:32:11

Thank you, Norm! FFS ppl, stop listening to media outlets who are to sell papers to both parties & start using your brain:
Trump is extending numerous roles past the non-employee limit. That was NOT the reason #ElonMusk had an unceremonious departure.
Original post:

@azonenberg@ioc.exchange
2025-07-31 14:05:36

Anybody have access to an oscilloscope with a 100baseTX Ethernet decoder on it? Curious how fast commercial protocol decodes are compared to mine.
I'd love benchmarks:
* 2 channels, 10M points, 500 Msps, on P/N
* Simple edge trigger, saturated or nearly saturated link
* Decode to Ethernet frames
How many waveforms per second / seconds per waveform do you get?

@samerfarha@mastodon.social
2025-07-31 02:52:37

You know what soothes the soul? Sharing an incredible meal with good people. Heart and stomach are both full!

@mgorny@social.treehouse.systems
2025-06-29 12:37:01

A while ago the media reported that most of the long-distance "suburban" trains between #Wrocław and #Poznań will be discontinued, and instead one will have to change trains midway. Irrespective of whether it's actually going to happen, let's consider it.
As you can probably tell by now, I'm not a stranger to changing trains. In fact, there are some direct connections that I do criticize. For example:
• Poznań — Szczecin — Świnoujście, where arriving at Szczecin Główny and turning back to leave the city is a waste of time. It's better to change trains at Szczecin Dąbie.
• Poznań — Krzyż — Kostrzyn, where instead of using a single railbus, you can use a larger EMU for the Poznań — Krzyż segment, and a smaller DMU for Krzyż — Kostrzyn (in fact, only recently the "direct" Poznań — Kostrzyn train involved just that, but it was supposed to be temporary).
However, good matches are the key. Say:
1. Max 10 minutes (when there are no delays) from one train to the other.
2. "Door-to-door" transfer — without having to carry all your luggage across platforms.
3. Reliable connection — if one train is delayed, the other train waits for it (or there are so many alternatives that it doesn't have to).
Can such a thing happen on Poznań — Wrocław route? I have my doubts.
I've been using these trains for years, and I can say this: there is no effort to match train from/to Poznań with other trains in Wrocław. Sometimes the trains depart 10 minutes before the first train from Poznań arrives, sometimes I need to transfer in 10 minutes, and sometimes I have to wait over an hour. And the same in the other direction.
Perhaps things would actually improve if the route is split. Perhaps people would actually care. Maybe even the trains would be fitted better to the timetable in Wrocław. But I find it hard to believe.
EDIT: One final thought — since there is no real reason to split these connections (except for profiteering), why make travellers' lives harder?
#rail

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-07-01 01:40:54

Fun fact: people with "Nazi tendencies" are known as "Nazis."
the-more-you-know.gif
journa.host/@w7voa/11477541632

@brentsleeper@sfba.social
2025-05-27 18:11:58

“it is a truth of this website that no matter what position you hold on any topic, one of the most terminally online people on earth whose full time job appears to be getting angry on the internet will appear to declare that you are a centrist” bsky.app/profile/did:plc:3s5wt

Closely-cropped screenshot of a post on Bluesky by the user @nameshiv.bsky.social, “Shiv Ramdas Rice Lord,” dated May 27, 2025 at 7:34 AM.

The post reads, “it is a truth of this website that no matter what position you hold on any topic, one of the most terminally online people on earth whose full time job appears to be getting angry on the internet will appear to declare that you are a centrist.”

The user also has quoted/emebedded an earlier post by @jamellebouie.net that in turn reads, “saw…
@arXiv_csCL_bot@mastoxiv.page
2025-06-26 09:47:00

Inside you are many wolves: Using cognitive models to interpret value trade-offs in LLMs
Sonia K. Murthy, Rosie Zhao, Jennifer Hu, Sham Kakade, Markus Wulfmeier, Peng Qian, Tomer Ullman
arxiv.org/abs/2506.20666

@migueldeicaza@mastodon.social
2025-06-26 05:06:53

When you are an Android developer, every day is Xmas!
mastodon.social/@swiftlang/114

@SafeStreetRebel@sfba.social
2025-06-26 04:05:51

cars are emerging as a political fault line all over the country, from Prop K in SF to the NYC mayoral primary. which side are you on? jalopnik.com/1895759/nyc-mayor

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-06-21 02:34:13

Why AI can't possibly make you more productive; long
#AI and "productivity", some thoughts:
Edit: fixed some typos.
Productivity is a concept that isn't entirely meaningless outside the context of capitalism, but it's a concept that is heavily inflected in a capitalist context. In many uses today it effectively means "how much you can satisfy and/or exceed your boss' expectations." This is not really what it should mean: even in an anarchist utopia, people would care about things like how many shirts they can produce in a week, although in an "I'd like to voluntarily help more people" way rather than an "I need to meet this quota to earn my survival" way. But let's roll with this definition for a second, because it's almost certainly what your boss means when they say "productivity", and understanding that word in a different (even if truer) sense is therefore inherently dangerous.
Accepting "productivity" to mean "satisfying your boss' expectations," I will now claim: the use of generative AI cannot increase your productivity.
Before I dive in, it's imperative to note that the big generative models which most people think of as constituting "AI" today are evil. They are 1: pouring fuel on our burning planet, 2: psychologically strip-mining a class of data laborers who are exploited for their precarity, 3: enclosing, exploiting, and polluting the digital commons, and 4: stealing labor from broad classes of people many of whom are otherwise glad to give that labor away for free provided they get a simple acknowledgement in return. Any of these four "ethical issues" should be enough *alone* to cause everyone to simply not use the technology. These ethical issues are the reason that I do not use generative AI right now, except for in extremely extenuating circumstances. These issues are also convincing for a wide range of people I talk to, from experts to those with no computer science background. So before I launch into a critique of the effectiveness of generative AI, I want to emphasize that such a critique should be entirely unnecessary.
But back to my thesis: generative AI cannot increase your productivity, where "productivity" has been defined as "how much you can satisfy and/or exceed your boss' expectations."
Why? In fact, what the fuck? Every AI booster I've met has claimed the opposite. They've given me personal examples of time saved by using generative AI. Some of them even truly believe this. Sometimes I even believe they saved time without horribly compromising on quality (and often, your boss doesn't care about quality anyways if the lack of quality is hard to measure of doesn't seem likely to impact short-term sales/feedback/revenue). So if generative AI genuinely lets you write more emails in a shorter period of time, or close more tickets, or something else along these lines, how can I say it isn't increasing your ability to meet your boss' expectations?
The problem is simple: your boss' expectations are not a fixed target. Never have been. In virtue of being someone who oversees and pays wages to others under capitalism, your boss' game has always been: pay you less than the worth of your labor, so that they can accumulate profit and thus more capital to remain in charge instead of being forced into working for a wage themselves. Sure, there are layers of management caught in between who aren't fully in this mode, but they are irrelevant to this analysis. It matters not how much you please your manager if your CEO thinks your work is not worth the wages you are being paid. And using AI actively lowers the value of your work relative to your wages.
Why do I say that? It's actually true in several ways. The most obvious: using generative AI lowers the quality of your work, because the work it produces is shot through with errors, and when your job is reduced to proofreading slop, you are bound to tire a bit, relax your diligence, and let some mistakes through. More than you would have if you are actually doing and taking pride in the work. Examples are innumerable and frequent, from journalists to lawyers to programmers, and we laugh at them "haha how stupid to not check whether the books the AI reviewed for you actually existed!" but on a deeper level if we're honest we know we'd eventually make the same mistake ourselves (bonus game: spot the swipe-typing typos I missed in this post; I'm sure there will be some).
But using generative AI also lowers the value of your work in another much more frightening way: in this era of hype, it demonstrates to your boss that you could be replaced by AI. The more you use it, and no matter how much you can see that your human skills are really necessary to correct its mistakes, the more it appears to your boss that they should hire the AI instead of you. Or perhaps retain 10% of the people in roles like yours to manage the AI doing the other 90% of the work. Paradoxically, the *more* you get done in terms of raw output using generative AI, the more it looks to your boss as if there's an opportunity to get enough work done with even fewer expensive humans. Of course, the decision to fire you and lean more heavily into AI isn't really a good one for long-term profits and success, but the modern boss did not get where they are by considering long-term profits. By using AI, you are merely demonstrating your redundancy, and the more you get done with it, the more redundant you seem.
In fact, there's even a third dimension to this: by using generative AI, you're also providing its purveyors with invaluable training data that allows them to make it better at replacing you. It's generally quite shitty right now, but the more use it gets by competent & clever people, the better it can become at the tasks those specific people use it for. Using the currently-popular algorithm family, there are limits to this; I'm not saying it will eventually transcend the mediocrity it's entwined with. But it can absolutely go from underwhelmingly mediocre to almost-reasonably mediocre with the right training data, and data from prompting sessions is both rarer and more useful than the base datasets it's built on.
For all of these reasons, using generative AI in your job is a mistake that will likely lead to your future unemployment. To reiterate, you should already not be using it because it is evil and causes specific and inexcusable harms, but in case like so many you just don't care about those harms, I've just explained to you why for entirely selfish reasons you should not use it.
If you're in a position where your boss is forcing you to use it, my condolences. I suggest leaning into its failures instead of trying to get the most out of it, and as much as possible, showing your boss very clearly how it wastes your time and makes things slower. Also, point out the dangers of legal liability for its mistakes, and make sure your boss is aware of the degree to which any of your AI-eager coworkers are producing low-quality work that harms organizational goals.
Also, if you've read this far and aren't yet of an anarchist mindset, I encourage you to think about the implications of firing 75% of (at least the white-collar) workforce in order to make more profit while fueling the climate crisis and in most cases also propping up dictatorial figureheads in government. When *either* the AI bubble bursts *or* if the techbros get to live out the beginnings of their worker-replacement fantasies, there are going to be an unimaginable number of economically desperate people living in increasingly expensive times. I'm the kind of optimist who thinks that the resulting social crucible, though perhaps through terrible violence, will lead to deep social changes that effectively unseat from power the ultra-rich that continue to drag us all down this destructive path, and I think its worth some thinking now about what you might want the succeeding stable social configuration to look like so you can advocate towards that during points of malleability.
As others have said more eloquently, generative AI *should* be a technology that makes human lives on average easier, and it would be were it developed & controlled by humanists. The only reason that it's not, is that it's developed and controlled by terrible greedy people who use their unfairly hoarded wealth to immiserate the rest of us in order to maintain their dominance. In the long run, for our very survival, we need to depose them, and I look forward to what the term "generative AI" will mean after that finally happens.

@seedling@dice.camp
2025-06-07 06:14:05

I had this idea for a Cairn lifepath generator where there are three stages of life and you roll 1d6 for your stats at each stage, and also get appropriate items.
It has not been playtested, it's barely been proofread, but I've been having a lot of fun generating guys
perchance.org/lt8m69fg35
#ttrpg #CairnRpg

Based on Cairn.

You have 2 HP.

Your childhood: You grew up in relative luxury, the child of minor nobility. You have a gold holy symbol on a cord (petty).
Add 2 to STR, 3 to DEX, 5 to WIL, and an extra 2 gp.

After, you were trained in matters of religion.
Add 3 to STR, 2 to DEX, 6 to WIL.
Start with a staff ( d6) and a holy symbol which the undead avoid.

You never became a priest because you were accused of heresy
Add 2 to STR, 5 to DEX, 5 to WIL
You might know facts about cults you encount…
You have 5 HP.

Your childhood: You were orphaned (or so they believe). You were found with a religious amulet (petty). Add 2 to STR, 4 to DEX and 4 to DEX.

As you grew up, you you started working in the mines.
Add 5 to STR, 5 to DEX, 3 to WIL
Start with a pickaxe ( d8) and helmet (1 ).

After several years, after a friend died in a cave-in, you knew you had to leave that life behind.
You have a cart and a strong but stubborn donkey.
Add 1 to STR, 2 to DEX, 5 to WIL.
You have 6 HP.

Your childhood: You grew up doing hard but honest work in the fields. You have a roughly carved wooden religious amulet (petty).
Add 3 to STR, 5 to DEX, 5 to WIL.

As you grew older, you learned from the village herbalist.
Add 3 to STR, 3 to DEX, 4 to WIL.
Start with a poisoned sickle ( d6, target is impaired if blood is drawn), 3 uses of a medicine restoring d4 STR, and knowledge of the effects of common herbs.

You left town after you traveled too deep in the woods and found y…
@detondev@social.linux.pizza
2025-07-28 19:00:54

i recently left fedi for a bit cause i was feeling like shit and unable to do anything but spread that energy, and during that time i cobbled this together off a few loosely connected notes and thoughts for an unreleased project of mine. i dislike it but dont really know what to do about that anymore, so here u go. all words treasured.
#art

I'm not explaining this stream of consiousness ass shit, i couldn't see straight making it, if you're blind and wanna know what all it's components are ask me in a reply.
@fanf@mendeddrum.org
2025-06-23 20:42:04

from my link log —
Thoughts on hashing in Rust.
purplesyringa.moe/blog/thought
saved 2024-12-13

@thomasfuchs@hachyderm.io
2025-07-25 13:48:04

PSA: 🥵 Idk who needs to hear this, but in a heatwave for the love of science use air conditioning. If you don’t have air conditioning, get a portable unit as soon as possible.
The climate is going to get hotter and heat can very easily kill you or a loved one or a pet; or cause permanent disability.
Heat is a lot more dangerous than cold temperatures; even if you’re “young and healthy”.
The climate is already fucked and has long reached a tipping point as far as humans go—our only bet is large-scale CO2 extraction.
Sacrificing your health “to save energy*” for an imaginary fight that we have already lost is stupid. It’s also one of those “individual responsibility” mindfucks—the culprits for pollution are industry maximizing profits and governments that are not acting.
Anyway, stay cool.
*note that AC uses overall a lot less energy than heating does

@samir@functional.computer
2025-05-31 15:03:55

@… @… Oh yeah, I remember having similar kinds of conversations with the first venue.
Every year there’s a new management and you have to go through the process of “hey, we are weird, here is an extremely detaile…

@nelson@tech.lgbt
2025-05-31 19:45:14

Calamus 19 Mind you the timid models of the rest, the majority?
A declaration of intellectual independence and a celebration of brotherly love. Honestly this poem feels a little clumsy to me, I can see why Whitman struck the awkward introducing lines in later editions.
As always, looking for the gay content:
Yet comes one, a Manhattanese, and ever at parting, kisses me lightly on the lips with robust love.
And I, in the public room, or on the crossing of the street, or on the ship's deck, kiss him in return
We observe that salute of American comrades
But I can't in all honestly read this use of "kissing" as erotic. Here the public kissing and the "salute of comrades" makes me think it's more of a fraternal kiss.
Which doesn't exclude a romantic kiss as well, or an erotic one. What's so vital about Calamus is how Whitman blends masculine sexual love with the love of comrades. I think both meanings are latent in every poem.

Having to go to a food bank sticks with you
– it's time politicians knew about it
Amie, a town councillor and mother-of-two, had no choice but to use a food bank.
She’ll be joining more than 700 campaigners in Westminster on 18 June calling for urgent action against the rising tide of poverty in the UK
They are calling for an essentials guarantee,
which would help ensure universal credit provides enough to cover the essentials of life -- without having to g…

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 13:04:34

How popular media gets love wrong
Okay, so what exactly are the details of the "engineered" model of love from my previous post? I'll try to summarize my thoughts and the experiences they're built on.
1. "Love" can be be thought of like a mechanism that's built by two (or more) people. In this case, no single person can build the thing alone, to work it needs contributions from multiple people (I suppose self-love might be an exception to that). In any case, the builders can intentionally choose how they build (and maintain) the mechanism, they can build it differently to suit their particular needs/wants, and they will need to maintain and repair it over time to keep it running. It may need winding, or fuel, or charging plus oil changes and bolt-tightening, etc.
2. Any two (or more) people can choose to start building love between them at any time. No need to "find your soulmate" or "wait for the right person." Now the caveat is that the mechanism is difficult to build and requires lots of cooperation, so there might indeed be "wrong people" to try to build love with. People in general might experience more failures than successes. The key component is slowly-escalating shared commitment to the project, which is negotiated between the partners so that neither one feels like they've been left to do all the work themselves. Since it's a big scary project though, it's very easy to decide it's too hard and give up, and so the builders need to encourage each other and pace themselves. The project can only succeed if there's mutual commitment, and that will certainly require compromise (sometimes even sacrifice, though not always). If the mechanism works well, the benefits (companionship; encouragement; praise; loving sex; hugs; etc.) will be well worth the compromises you make to build it, but this isn't always the case.
3. The mechanism is prone to falling apart if not maintained. In my view, the "fire" and "appeal" models of love don't adequately convey the need for this maintenance and lead to a lot of under-maintained relationships many of which fall apart. You'll need to do things together that make you happy, do things that make your partner happy (in some cases even if they annoy you, but never in a transactional or box-checking way), spend time with shared attention, spend time alone and/or apart, reassure each other through words (or deeds) of mutual beliefs (especially your continued commitment to the relationship), do things that comfort and/or excite each other physically (anywhere from hugs to hand-holding to sex) and probably other things I'm not thinking of. Not *every* relationship needs *all* of these maintenance techniques, but I think most will need most. Note especially that patriarchy teaches men that they don't need to bother with any of this, which harms primarily their romantic partners but secondarily them as their relationships fail due to their own (cultivated-by-patriarchy) incompetence. If a relationship evolves to a point where one person is doing all the maintenance (& improvement) work, it's been bent into a shape that no longer really qualifies as "love" in my book, and that's super unhealthy.
4. The key things to negotiate when trying to build a new love are first, how to work together in the first place, and how to be comfortable around each others' habits (or how to change those habits). Second, what level of commitment you have right now, and what how/when you want to increase that commitment. Additionally, I think it's worth checking in about what you're each putting into and getting out of the relationship, to ensure that it continues to be positive for all participants. To build a successful relationship, you need to be able to incrementally increase the level of commitment to one that you're both comfortable staying at long-term, while ensuring that for both partners, the relationship is both a net benefit and has manageable costs (those two things are not the same). Obviously it's not easy to actually have conversations about these things (congratulations if you can just talk about this stuff) because there's a huge fear of hearing an answer that you don't want to hear. I think the range of discouraging answers which actually spell doom for a relationship is smaller than people think and there's usually a reasonable "shoulder" you can fall into where things aren't on a good trajectory but could be brought back into one, but even so these conversations are scary. Still, I think only having honest conversations about these things when you're angry at each other is not a good plan. You can also try to communicate some of these things via non-conversational means, if that feels safer, and at least being aware that these are the objectives you're pursuing is probably helpful.
I'll post two more replies here about my own experiences that led me to this mental model and trying to distill this into advice, although it will take me a moment to get to those.
#relationships #love

@aardrian@toot.cafe
2025-07-28 21:24:12

Remember that my support posts are only starting points, templates. They are not the final word on support.
Added that reminder as an update with examples of more testing *you* need to do (anchor link):
adrianroselli.com/2025/04/twea

@inthehands@hachyderm.io
2025-05-28 16:33:05

So look, if you talk to me about the job threat from the things we currently call “AI,” well…
…if where you’re going with that is “The concentration of wealth is an existential crisis! Establish UBI! 99% marginal tax rate! Capital gains tax! Wealth tax! Abolish billionaires!” then yes, I’m •all• ears. My pitchfork is already sharpened.
But if where you’re going is “Get in on it now while you still can! Buy the AI vendors’ products! Drink radium for that youthful glow!” then…kthanksbye. I am not going to be a vector for your marketing propaganda, no matter how agitated you are.
/end

@pre@boing.world
2025-05-27 19:06:58
Content warning: re: Doctor Who - Wish World
:tardis:

A wish granting god baby, granting Conrad's wishes in service of the Rani, turns London into a misogynist utopia and The Doctor into a good husband and insurance worker.
Hard to say why misogynists are so keen on the American 50s. Perhaps because it was before blacks had the vote and women could do banking.
And if anyone doubts this ridiculous tale, their table stops working and their family might call the doubt police, so they soon learn not to. All very oppressive and subversive.
Ruby manages to doubt anyway. And all the disabled people who simply never enter into Conrad's mind. Nice touch that. Great scene in the tent city filled with the dispossessed. They don't seem to have actually done anything so far but maybe they'll get more useful in part two.
Conrad is on TV telling a story about a man named Doctor Who.
Giant dinosaur skeletons walk the city, stepping over sky scrapers, and a bone palace towers above the city. Because I guess Conrad wishes for it to be so in order to give the Rani somewhere to live.
The palace is beautiful and Gothic.
But doubt is seeping in. Rogue is back, on the TV in hell, telling the Doctor that tables don't work like that. So he investigates. Gets himself reported to the doubt police who take him and Belinda to the bone palace.
The Rani's split from Miss Flood gives the pair of them a good chemistry. Queen and her maid of honour. Seems like Mrs Flood is likely to be the Rani's downfall. She doesn't like being told to make a sandwich.
A lot of exposition going on, but they at least put a hat on it: "Isn't just exposition, I need you to doubt"
So that's the reason for the strange wishes: To make the doctor have doubts so severe that the reality collapses, and Rani can rescue Omega. Omega is the dude in a Mask from the first 3 doctors episode, who gave the timelords time travel and got trapped in the underworld in the process. Timelords forgot him and never mounted a rescue, but presumably Rani is now hoping he'll bring back Galifrey.
And with London collapsing into the underworld and the doctor falling from the sky, we get the episode break and have to wait until next week.
That's not a cliff hanger, that an already-falling-from-the-cliff hanger.
Poppy really is his daughter he's shouting as he falls. And you know what that means?
🤨🤔
Back in Space Babies, the worst episode of the Nchuti seasons, that space baby asked if he was her parents and he said he wished that he was their parents.
That wish has been granted somehow?
Is this space baby Susan's mother? They have very different skin tones, but that doesn't matter much in a regenerating species.
Never have found out much about The Doctor's child. When he traveled with his granddaughter everyone assumed he'd met his own kid, the grandchild's parent.
But that doesn't have to be true for a time traveler. Maybe he met the granddaughter before he met his own kid, and maybe his own kid was just wished into his family line 60 years later (or billions of years in his timeline I guess).
Pretty fun episode but not sure it makes much sense. Why doesn't the Rani just wish for Omega to be back instead of all this doubt and underworld bollocks?
Last one next week. Super long episode. Hope it's all cleared up. Good chance we'll meet Susan again I think. And maybe see Omega's mask once more.
:tardis: :tardis: :tardis: :tardis: :tardis:

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-07-31 12:22:28

Series C, Episode 02 - Powerplay
AVON: Unless he was here first as I said I was.
TARRANT: No, Klegg's men would have found you. They had to make sure no one else was on board in order to claim the salvage prize money. Greed makes very efficient troopers. No, if you were here then you must have been hiding. I repeat, an innocent stranger wouldn't question who was in command.

Claude 3.7 describes the image as: "This image appears to be from a science fiction television series from the late 1970s or early 1980s, based on the production quality and styling. The person in the image is wearing a distinctive gray leather or vinyl jacket with a black turtleneck underneath. They have dark, slightly tousled hair and are shown in what looks like a spacecraft or space station interior with metallic gray walls and control panels visible in the background. The lighting and set …
@azonenberg@ioc.exchange
2025-07-29 19:01:15

github.com/raspberrypi/rp2350_
Some of my proudest achievements as a hacker have been those that resulted in rule changes.
Like the time that we came back to a CTF a year after Fun Things (tm) happened and the player, judge, an…

Out of scope: 
* Optical / PVC / SEM attacks on the OTP contents or control logic (You know who you are :-P )
@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-07-28 21:17:15

I was late to pick my daughter up from camp because #NYCParks closed a huge portion of Corona-Meadows Flushing Park. Apparently for some kind of music festival. There was, of course, no bike detour. The area has highways running through it, and the bridges over the highways are cordoned off. How do you get to

View from an overpass bridge sidewalk, showing a chain-link fence at the end completely blocking access to the park. In the background, trees and the big.. I don' t even know what they are, sculptures?
A sign for KeineMusik Soulection, saying "there will be restricted park access july 21st - july 31st to the following areas: skate park, festival grounds, ny state pavilion, garden of meditation, and surrounding areas. The map shows an area of the park bordered by the Long Island Expressway (a highway) on one side, the Grand Central Parkway (a highway) on another side.
A pedstrian overpass entrance, showing 3 offset chain-link fences close together so that you can barely fit a bike (or stroller/wheelchair, for that matter).
@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-06-30 12:10:22

Series B, Episode 03 - Weapon
[Messroom. Travis enters]
SERVALAN: Are the guards in clear view?
TRAVIS: Three of them, as you ordered, Supreme Commander.
SERVALAN: And the fourth is concealed?
blake.torpidity.net/m/203/429 B7B3

Claude Sonnet 4.0 describes the image as: "I can see two figures in what appears to be a futuristic setting with metallic walls and sleek interior design typical of science fiction productions. One person is wearing an elaborate white feathered costume or outfit, while the other is dressed in black leather or similar dark material and appears to be wearing an eyepatch. The setting looks like it could be aboard a spaceship or in some kind of advanced facility, with the stark, technological aesth…
@mgorny@social.treehouse.systems
2025-05-27 08:20:15

Religion, PLpol
It's about time I elaborated on an earlier thought.
"Non-practicing Catholics" have more liberal worldview than "conservative" Catholics — and often they jeer at them. These qualities make it easy to forget that you're draining with Catholics. But when the push comes to shove, you discover that you can't rely on them. They won't openly oppose the Church, they won't protect the people who are "immoral" according to Catholic morality, and if they are forced to choose a side, they'll side with the Catholics.
The Polish PO/KO party (often perceived as "liberal") is just like that. Their views are more liberal than the conservative right wing, they love portraying themselves as an opposition to it, but in the end they are a right-wing party. When it's convenient to them, they happily present liberal postulates — but they are as fast to withdraw them to please their right-wing electorate.
#PLpol

"CEOs are extremely excited about the opportunities that AI brings," Elijah Clark,
a chief executive who advises other head honchos on using AI at their companies,
told Gizmodo in an interview.
"As a CEO myself, I can tell you, I'm extremely excited about it.
I've laid off employees myself because of AI."
Clark is one of many executives who've been strikingly honest about their intentions to cast aside their flesh and blood worker…

@grumpybozo@toad.social
2025-07-17 20:36:23

Calm down…
Despite the obnoxious footers you sometimes see on email written by the silly, no one can obligate you to protect data that they sent to you without some sort of contract. Maybe if you’re an employee, you have made an explicit agreement to protect your employer’s data. Maybe there is an implied agreement to protect information of your employer’s business partners. But there is NO blanket duty of care for email sent to you any more than there is for snail mail.

@detondev@social.linux.pizza
2025-06-26 18:25:01

"shy guys (jews)"

This is as good a time as any to explain why I like Toad Town so much.

Paper Mario is a game that released for the N64 in 2000 in which Toad Town is one of the first locations you see. It's a bustling little village that also serves as the capital of the Mushroom Kingdom. It is an ethnostate, and a utopia. It's filled with happy industrious little Toads who go about dutifully maintaining their little slice of paradise. They have no doubts as to their purpose or their identity-you are either a …
@ruth_mottram@fediscience.org
2025-05-24 08:00:46

"Journalism screwed itself over by betting
on Meta and its profit-over-society peers.
Now, nobody trusts “the media” and
everyone is going bankrupt. The next bet
is on generative AI, with its inability to
distinguish truth from “hallucinations” –
fabrications that on the page become lies.
The Continent is an attempt to prove
journalism can be done differently.
Expect more of this in what our team
has decided to call our “serious era”.
We’re no longer a start-up. We’re going
to empower more people with quality
journalism. We’re going to help others
launch newspapers. We’re going to
stay sane. And we’re going to prove
that African excellence can set global
standards."
@… reaches 5 years and 200 issues. If you're not already receiving their copy via @… (or email, telegram or WhatsApp if you must) then it's really worth signing up to remind yourself just how big and diverse the world ist.
This weeks highlights are an extraordinary story about how Zanu-PF in Zimbabwe directly interfered with Mozambique's election. Plus a frankly beautiful photo piece on Addis Ababa

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-06-24 09:39:49

Subtooting since people in the original thread wanted it to be over, but selfishly tagging @… and @… whose opinions I value...
I think that saying "we are not a supply chain" is exactly what open-source maintainers should be doing right now in response to "open source supply chain security" threads.
I can't claim to be an expert and don't maintain any important FOSS stuff, but I do release almost all of my code under open licenses, and I do use many open source libraries, and I have felt the pain of needing to replace an unmaintained library.
There's a certain small-to-mid-scale class of program, including many open-source libraries, which can be built/maintained by a single person, and which to my mind best operate on a "snake growth" model: incremental changes/fixes, punctuated by periodic "skin-shedding" phases where make rewrites or version updates happen. These projects aren't immortal either: as the whole tech landscape around them changes, they become unnecessary and/or people lose interest, so they go unmaintained and eventually break. Each time one of their dependencies breaks (or has a skin-shedding moment) there's a higher probability that they break or shed too, as maintenance needs shoot up at these junctures. Unless you're a company trying to make money from a single long-lived app, it's actually okay that software churns like this, and if you're a company trying to make money, your priorities absolutely should not factor into any decisions people making FOSS software make: we're trying (and to a huge extent succeeding) to make a better world (and/or just have fun with our own hobbies share that fun with others) that leaves behind the corrosive & planet-destroying plague which is capitalism, and you're trying to personally enrich yourself by embracing that plague. The fact that capitalism is *evil* is not an incidental thing in this discussion.
To make an imperfect analogy, imagine that the peasants of some domain have set up a really-free-market, where they provide each other with free stuff to help each other survive, sometimes doing some barter perhaps but mostly just everyone bringing their surplus. Now imagine the lord of the domain, who is the source of these peasants' immiseration, goes to this market secretly & takes some berries, which he uses as one ingredient in delicious tarts that he then sells for profit. But then the berry-bringer stops showing up to the free market, or starts bringing a different kind of fruit, or even ends up bringing rotten berries by accident. And the lord complains "I have a supply chain problem!" Like, fuck off dude! Your problem is that you *didn't* want to build a supply chain and instead thought you would build your profit-focused business in other people's free stuff. If you were paying the berry-picker, you'd have a supply chain problem, but you weren't, so you really have an "I want more free stuff" problem when you can't be arsed to give away your own stuff for free.
There can be all sorts of problems in the really-free-market, like maybe not enough people bring socks, so the peasants who can't afford socks are going barefoot, and having foot problems, and the peasants put their heads together and see if they can convince someone to start bringing socks, and maybe they can't and things are a bit sad, but the really-free-market was never supposed to solve everyone's problems 100% when they're all still being squeezed dry by their taxes: until they are able to get free of the lord & start building a lovely anarchist society, the really-free-market is a best-effort kind of deal that aims to make things better, and sometimes will fall short. When it becomes the main way goods in society are distributed, and when the people who contribute aren't constantly drained by the feudal yoke, at that point the availability of particular goods is a real problem that needs to be solved, but at that point, it's also much easier to solve. And at *no* point does someone coming into the market to take stuff only to turn around and sell it deserve anything from the market or those contributing to it. They are not a supply chain. They're trying to help each other out, but even then they're doing so freely and without obligation. They might discuss amongst themselves how to better coordinate their mutual aid, but they're not going to end up forcing anyone to bring anything or even expecting that a certain person contribute a certain amount, since the whole point is that the thing is voluntary & free, and they've all got changing life circumstances that affect their contributions. Celebrate whatever shows up at the market, express your desire for things that would be useful, but don't impose a burden on anyone else to bring a specific thing, because otherwise it's fair for them to oppose such a burden on you, and now you two are doing your own barter thing that's outside the parameters of the really-free-market.

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-06-30 21:17:36

Series D, Episode 02 - Power
PELLA: Can you walk?
AVON: Very likely. [stands up] But just at the moment I can't think of too many places to go.
blake.torpidity.net/m/402/289 B7B6

Claude 3.7 describes the image as: "The image appears to be from a vintage science fiction television production, likely from the late 1970s or early 1980s based on the filming style and aesthetic. 

It shows a person with blonde hair styled in an updo, wearing a light-colored flowing garment with wide sleeves that resembles a robe or cape. They are looking over their shoulder with a serious expression while standing near what appears to be some kind of technological equipment or console with d…
@Techmeme@techhub.social
2025-06-25 15:46:00

Ring rolls out Video Descriptions, an AI-powered beta feature that generates text summaries of motion activity from its doorbells and cameras (Jennifer Pattison Tuohy/The Verge)
theverge.com/news/692523/ring-

Swalwell: You were promised lower prices on day one. How many of you are feeling those lower prices?
You were promised an end to all wars on day one. How many of you have seen an end to those wars?
Donald Trump is 0 for 150. He made those promises on day one—and now we’re on day 150.

@andres4ny@social.ridetrans.it
2025-06-26 20:30:52

Ah fuck, people are using LLMs for kernel code. They really are going to fuck over everything, aren't they?
lwn.net/SubscriberLink/1026558

comment from "comex", in a thread discussing a mistake in an LLM-generated commit:

"(Disclaimer: I am not sashal.)

…In other words, you're saying that the patch is buggy because it drops the __read_mostly attribute (which places the data in a different section).

That's a good reminder of how untrustworthy LLMs still are. Even for such a simple patch, the LLM was still able to make a subtle mistake.

To be fair, a human could definitely make the same mistake. And whatever humans revie…
Comment by "adobriyan" showing the commit in question, which replaces a "struct hlist_head event_hash[EVENT_HASHSIZE] __read_mostly" with "DEFINE_HASHTABLE(event_hash, EVENT_HASH_BITS)"
@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 13:06:20

How popular media gets love wrong
Now a bit of background about why I have this "engineered" model of love:
First, I'm a white straight cis man. I've got a few traits that might work against my relationship chances (e.g., neurodivergence; I generally fit pretty well into the "weird geek" stereotype), but as I was recently reminded, it's possible my experience derives more from luck than other factors, and since things are tilted more in my favor than most people on the planet, my advice could be worse than useless if it leads people towards strategies that would only have worked for someone like me. I don't *think* that's the case, but it's worth mentioning explicitly.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
When I first started dating my now-wife, we were both in graduate school. I was 26, and had exactly zero dating/romantic experience though that point in my life. In other words, a pretty stereotypical "incel" although I definitely didn't subscribe to incel ideology at all. I felt lonely, and vaguely wanted a romantic relationship (I'm neither aromantic nor asexual), but had never felt socially comfortable enough to pursue one before. I don't drink and dislike most social gatherings like parties or bars; I mostly hung around the fringes of the few college parties I attended, and although I had a reasonable college social life in terms of friends, I didn't really do anything to pursue romance, feeling too awkward to know where to start. I had the beginnings of crushes in both high school and college, but never developed a really strong crush, probably correlated with not putting myself in many social situations outside of close all-male friend gatherings. I never felt remotely comfortable enough to act on any of the proto-crushes I did have. I did watch porn and masturbate, so one motivation for pursuing a relationship was physical intimacy, but loneliness was as much of a motivating factor, and of course the social pressure to date was a factor too, even though I'm quite contrarian.
I'm lucky in that I had some mixed-gender social circles already like intramural soccer and a graduate-student housing potluck. Graduate school makes a *lot* more of these social spaces accessible, so I recognize that those not in school of some sort have a harder time of things, especially if like me they don't feel like they fit in in typical adult social spaces like bars.
However, at one point I just decided that my desire for a relationship would need action on my part and so I'd try to build a relationship and see what happened. I worked up my courage and asked one of the people in my potluck if she'd like to go for a hike (pretty much clearly a date but not explicitly one; in retrospect not the best first-date modality in a lot of ways, but it made a little more sense in our setting where we could go for a hike from our front door). To emphasize this point: I was not in love with (or even infatuated with) my now-wife at that point. I made a decision to be open to building a relationship, but didn't follow the typical romance story formula beyond that. Now of course, in real life as opposed to popular media, this isn't anything special. People ask each other out all the time just because they're lonely, and some of those relationships turn out fine (although many do not).
I was lucky in that some aspects of who I am and what I do happened to be naturally comforting to my wife (natural advantage in the "appeal" model of love) but of course there are some aspects of me that annoy my wife, and we negotiate that. In the other direction, there's some things I instantly liked about my wife, and other things that still annoy me. We've figured out how to accept a little, change a little, and overall be happy with each other (though we do still have arguments; it's not like the operation/construction/maintenance of the "love mechanism" is always perfectly smooth). In particular though, I approached the relationship with the attitude of "I want to try to build a relationship with this person," at first just because of my own desires for *any* relationship, and then gradually more and more through my desire to build *this specific* relationship as I enjoyed the rewards of companionship.
So for example, while I think my wife is objectively beautiful, she's also *subjectively* very beautiful *to me* because having decided to build a relationship with her, I actively tried to see her as beautiful, rather than trying to judge whether I wanted a relationship with her based on her beauty. In other words, our relationship is more causative of her beauty-to-me than her beauty-to-me is causative of our relationship. This is the biggest way I think the "engineered" model of love differs from the "fire" and "appeal" models: you can just decide to build love independent of factors we typically think of as engendering love (NOT independent of your partner's willingness to participate, of course), and then all of those things like "thinking your partner is beautiful" can be a result of the relationship you're building. For sure those factors might affect who is willing to try building a relationship with you in the first place, but if more people were willing to jump into relationship building (not necessarily with full commitment from the start) without worrying about those other factors, they might find that those factors can come out of the relationship instead of being prerequisites for it. I think this is the biggest failure of the "appeal" model in particular: yes you *do* need to do things that appeal to your partner, but it's not just "make myself lovable" it's also: is your partner putting in the effort to see the ways that you are beautiful/lovable/etc., or are they just expecting you to become exactly some perfect person they've imagined (and/or been told to desire by society)? The former is perfectly possible, and no less satisfying than the latter.
To cut off my rambling a bit here, I'll just add that in our progress from dating through marriage through staying-married, my wife and I have both talked at times explicitly about commitment, and especially when deciding to get married, I told her that I knew I couldn't live up to the perfect model of a husband that I'd want to be, but that if she wanted to deepen our commitment, I was happy to do that, and so we did. I also rearranged my priorities at that point, deciding that I knew I wanted to prioritize this relationship above things like my career or my research interests, and while I've not always been perfect at that in my little decisions, I've been good at holding to that in my big decisions at least. In the end, *once we had built a somewhat-committed relationship*, we had something that we both recognized was worth more than most other things in life, and that let us commit even more, thus getting even more out of it in the long term. Obviously you can't start the first date with an expectation of life-long commitment, and you need to synchronize your increasing commitment to a relationship so that it doesn't become lopsided, which is hard. But if you take the commitment as an active decision and as the *precursor* to things like infatuation, attraction, etc., you can build up to something that's incredibly strong and rewarding.
I'll follow this up with one more post trying to distill some advice from my ramblings.
#relationships #love

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-05-26 12:51:54

Let's say you find a really cool forum online that has lots of good advice on it. It's even got a very active community that's happy to answer questions very quickly, and the community seems to have a wealth of knowledge about all sorts of subjects.
You end up visiting this community often, and trusting the advice you get to answer all sorts of everyday questions you might have, which before you might have found answers to using a web search (of course web search is now full of SEI spam and other crap so it's become nearly useless).
Then one day, you ask an innocuous question about medicine, and from this community you get the full homeopathy treatment as your answer. Like, somewhat believable on the face of it, includes lots of citations to reasonable-seeming articles, except that if you know even a tiny bit about chemistry and biology (which thankfully you do), you know that the homoeopathy answers are completely bogus and horribly dangerous (since they offer non-treatments for real diseases). Your opinion of this entire forum suddenly changes. "Oh my God, if they've been homeopathy believers all this time, what other myths have they fed me as facts?"
You stop using the forum for anything, and go back to slogging through SEI crap to answer your everyday questions, because one you realize that this forum is a community that's fundamentally untrustworthy, you realize that the value of getting advice from it on any subject is negative: you knew enough to spot the dangerous homeopathy answer, but you know there might be other such myths that you don't know enough to avoid, and any community willing to go all-in on one myth has shown itself to be capable of going all in on any number of other myths.
...
This has been a parable about large language models.
#AI #LLM

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-28 10:41:42

How popular media gets love wrong
Had some thoughts in response to a post about loneliness on here. As the author emphasized, reassurances from people who got lucky are not terribly comforting to those who didn't, especially when the person who was lucky had structural factors in their favor that made their chances of success much higher than those is their audience. So: these are just my thoughts, and may not have any bearing on your life. I share them because my experience challenged a lot of the things I was taught to believe about love, and I think my current beliefs are both truer and would benefit others seeing companionship.
We're taught in many modern societies from an absurdly young age that love is not something under our control, and that dating should be a process of trying to kindle love with different people until we meet "the one" with whom it takes off. In the slightly-less-fairytale corners of modern popular media, we might fund an admission that it's possible to influence love, feeding & tending the fire in better or worse ways. But it's still modeled as an uncontrollable force of nature, to be occasionally influenced but never tamed. I'll call this the "fire" model of love.
We're also taught (and non-boys are taught more stringently) a second contradictory model of love: that in a relationship, we need to both do things and be things in order to make our partner love us, and that if we don't, our partner's love for us will wither, and (especially if you're not a boy) it will be our fault. I'll call this the "appeal" model of love.
Now obviously both of these cannot be totally true at once, and plenty of popular media centers this contradiction, but there are really very few competing models on offer.
In my experience, however, it's possible to have "pre-meditated" love. In other words, to decide you want to love someone (or at least, try loving them), commit to that idea, and then actually wind up in love with them (and them with you, although obviously this second part is not directly under your control). I'll call this the "engineered" model of love.
Now, I don't think that the "fire" and "appeal" models of love are totally wrong, but I do feel their shortcomings often suggest poor & self-destructive relationship strategies. I do think the "fire" model is a decent model for *infatuation*, which is something a lot of popular media blur into love, and which drives many (but not all) of the feelings we normally associate with love (even as those feelings have other possible drivers too). I definitely experienced strong infatuation early on in my engineered relationship (ugh that sounds terrible but I'll stick with it; I promise no deception was involved). I continue to experience mild infatuation years later that waxes and wanes. It's not a stable foundation for a relationship but it can be a useful component of one (this at least popular media depicts often).
I'll continue these thoughts in a reply, by it might take a bit to get to it.
#relationships

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-29 11:17:44

#ContemporaryContradictions #HashTagGames
Rules: include as many contradictions s you'd like. Can be profound or trivial. Each contradiction is stated via exactly 1 or 2 questions, no statements and not more than 2 questions. Try to group yours into a single post, rather than one post per contradiction, so that it's easier to see more voices when scrolling the hash tag.
Why does "race" work according to the "one drop rule" if you have Black ancestors, but according to "blood quantum" if you have Indigenous ancestors? Who benefits from this arrangement?
Why do we think of seeds as merely a reproduction mechanism for trees, instead of thinking of trees as merely a reproduction mechanism for seeds, especially since some plants can spend millennia as seeds but can survive for only part of a year after sprouting? Are metabolic activity or structural complexity really so important?
If Columbus discovered America, did Batu Khan discover Europe? What is an "Age of Discovery?"
Why don't corporations in the US try to lobby the government for a single-payer healthcare system where the government foots the bill for healthcare instead of companies paying to deeply subsidize their employees' healthcare? What benefit do they gain that's worth that cost, which in other countries is paid for via taxes?
Why is the cost of renting (which gets you zero equity) anywhere close to the cost of a mortgage (which eventually gets you ownership)? If the costs are similar but the benefits are so different, why does anyone ever rent?
Why do we obsess over the fruit/vegetable classification of tomatoes, but not corn, okra, cucumbers, zucchini, etc.?

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-07-29 12:11:46

Series C, Episode 13 - Terminal
AVON: Your security is not very efficient.
SERVALAN: You were supposed to be held in close custody.
AVON: It's not very important. Let's get down to terms. I want Blake's freedom. What do you want?
blake.torpidity.net/m/313/347

Claude 3.7 describes the image as: "The image shows a person in an elaborate costume that appears to be from a science fiction television production from the late 1970s or early 1980s. They are wearing a distinctive black outfit with ornate metallic silver and gold embellishments around the collar and shoulders, giving it a futuristic or ceremonial appearance.

The setting seems to be an interior scene with muted background colors, typical of studio television production of that era. The costum…

There's a lot of pressurefor businesses to get ahead with AI.
And I imagine at many companies
there's a sense that if you don't keep up, you're leaving innovation on the table.
At the same time, there's a gap between the excitement around AI and understanding what it means for each role.
CarGurus started an internal initiative "AI Forward" to meet business units and function where they are.
The group works together to evaluate u…

@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-31 16:25:48

LLM coding is the opposite of DRY
An important principle in software engineering is DRY: Don't Repeat Yourself. We recognize that having the same code copied in more than one place is bad for several reasons:
1. It makes the entire codebase harder to read.
2. It increases maintenance burden, since any problems in the duplicated code need to be solved in more than one place.
3. Because it becomes possible for the copies to drift apart if changes to one aren't transferred to the other (maybe the person making the change has forgotten there was a copy) it makes the code more error-prone and harder to debug.
All modern programming languages make it almost entirely unnecessary to repeat code: we can move the repeated code into a "function" or "module" and then reference it from all the different places it's needed. At a larger scale, someone might write an open-source "library" of such functions or modules and instead of re-implementing that functionality ourselves, we can use their code, with an acknowledgement. Using another person's library this way is complicated, because now you're dependent on them: if they stop maintaining it or introduce bugs, you've inherited a problem, but still, you could always copy their project and maintain your own version, and it would be not much more work than if you had implemented stuff yourself from the start. It's a little more complicated than this, but the basic principle holds, and it's a foundational one for software development in general and the open-source movement in particular. The network of "citations" as open-source software builds on other open-source software and people contribute patches to each others' projects is a lot of what makes the movement into a community, and it can lead to collaborations that drive further development. So the DRY principle is important at both small and large scales.
Unfortunately, the current crop of hyped-up LLM coding systems from the big players are antithetical to DRY at all scales:
- At the library scale, they train on open source software but then (with some unknown frequency) replicate parts of it line-for-line *without* any citation [1]. The person who was using the LLM has no way of knowing that this happened, or even any way to check for it. In theory the LLM company could build a system for this, but it's not likely to be profitable unless the courts actually start punishing these license violations, which doesn't seem likely based on results so far and the difficulty of finding out that the violations are happening. By creating these copies (and also mash-ups, along with lots of less-problematic stuff), the LLM users (enabled and encouraged by the LLM-peddlers) are directly undermining the DRY principle. If we see what the big AI companies claim to want, which is a massive shift towards machine-authored code, DRY at the library scale will effectively be dead, with each new project simply re-implementing the functionality it needs instead of every using a library. This might seem to have some upside, since dependency hell is a thing, but the downside in terms of comprehensibility and therefore maintainability, correctness, and security will be massive. The eventual lack of new high-quality DRY-respecting code to train the models on will only make this problem worse.
- At the module & function level, AI is probably prone to re-writing rather than re-using the functions or needs, especially with a workflow where a human prompts it for many independent completions. This part I don't have direct evidence for, since I don't use LLM coding models myself except in very specific circumstances because it's not generally ethical to do so. I do know that when it tries to call existing functions, it often guesses incorrectly about the parameters they need, which I'm sure is a headache and source of bugs for the vibe coders out there. An AI could be designed to take more context into account and use existing lookup tools to get accurate function signatures and use them when generating function calls, but even though that would probably significantly improve output quality, I suspect it's the kind of thing that would be seen as too-baroque and thus not a priority. Would love to hear I'm wrong about any of this, but I suspect the consequences are that any medium-or-larger sized codebase written with LLM tools will have significant bloat from duplicate functionality, and will have places where better use of existing libraries would have made the code simpler. At a fundamental level, a principle like DRY is not something that current LLM training techniques are able to learn, and while they can imitate it from their training sets to some degree when asked for large amounts of code, when prompted for many smaller chunks, they're asymptotically likely to violate it.
I think this is an important critique in part because it cuts against the argument that "LLMs are the modern compliers, if you reject them you're just like the people who wanted to keep hand-writing assembly code, and you'll be just as obsolete." Compilers actually represented a great win for abstraction, encapsulation, and DRY in general, and they supported and are integral to open source development, whereas LLMs are set to do the opposite.
[1] to see what this looks like in action in prose, see the example on page 30 of the NYTimes copyright complaint against OpenAI (#AI #GenAI #LLMs #VibeCoding

@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-05-28 15:08:34

Series B, Episode 06 - Trial
ZIL: To be alone must not be feared. The Host is slow to recognize one who is alone. Though there are many, all stay alone. [Clears off a patch of ground] Do you hunger? [Tears the ground open, scoops up some of the lining of the opening and eats it.] Do you hunger?
BLAKE: What is it?

Claude Sonnet 4.0 describes the image as: "I can see two people in what appears to be an outdoor, wilderness setting with vegetation and natural ground cover. One person is wearing darker clothing and appears to be kneeling or crouching down, while another person is positioned nearby. The scene has a somewhat gritty, dramatic quality typical of science fiction television from that era. The lighting and color palette suggest this may be from a tense or action-oriented sequence. The natural, over…
@blakes7bot@mas.torpidity.net
2025-05-28 15:08:34

Series B, Episode 06 - Trial
ZIL: To be alone must not be feared. The Host is slow to recognize one who is alone. Though there are many, all stay alone. [Clears off a patch of ground] Do you hunger? [Tears the ground open, scoops up some of the lining of the opening and eats it.] Do you hunger?
BLAKE: What is it?

Claude Sonnet 4.0 describes the image as: "I can see two people in what appears to be an outdoor, wilderness setting with vegetation and natural ground cover. One person is wearing darker clothing and appears to be kneeling or crouching down, while another person is positioned nearby. The scene has a somewhat gritty, dramatic quality typical of science fiction television from that era. The lighting and color palette suggest this may be from a tense or action-oriented sequence. The natural, over…
@tiotasram@kolektiva.social
2025-07-25 10:57:58

Just saw this:
#AI can mean a lot of things these days, but lots of the popular meanings imply a bevy of harms that I definitely wouldn't feel are worth a cute fish game. In fact, these harms are so acute that even "just" playing into the AI hype becomes its own kind of harm (it's similar to blockchain in that way).
@… noticed that the authors claim the code base is 80% AI generated, which is a red flag because people with sound moral compasses wouldn't be using AI to "help" write code in the first place. The authors aren't by some miracle people who couldn't build this app without help, in case that influences your thinking about it: they have the skills to write the code themselves, although it likely would have taken longer (but also been better).
I was more interested in the fish-classification AI, and how much it might be dependent on datacenters. Thankfully, a quick glance at the code confirms they're using ONNX and running a self-trained neural network on your device. While the exponentially-increasing energy & water demands of datacenters to support billion-parameter models are a real concern, this is not that. Even a non-AI game can burn a lot of cycles on someone's phone, and I don't think there's anything to complain about energy-wise if we're just using cycles on the end user's device as long as we're not having them keep it on for hours crunching numbers like blockchain stuff does. Running whatever stuff locally while the user is playing a game is a negligible environmental concern, unlike, say, calling out to ChatGPT where you're directly feeding datacenter demand. Since they claimed to have trained the network themselves, and since it's actually totally reasonable to make your own dataset for this and get good-enough-for-a-silly-game results with just a few hundred examples, I don't have any ethical objections to the data sourcing or training processes either. Hooray! This is finally an example of "ethical use of neutral networks" that I can hold up as an example of what people should be doing instead of the BS they are doing.
But wait... Remember what I said about feeding the AI hype being its own form of harm? Yeah, between using AI tools for coding and calling their classifier "AI" in a way that makes it seem like the same kind of thing as ChatGPT et al., they're leaning into the hype rather than helping restrain it. And that means they're causing harm. Big AI companies can point to them and say "look AI enables cute things you like" when AI didn't actually enable it. So I'm feeling meh about this cute game and won't be sharing it aside from this post. If you love the cute fish, you don't really have to feel bad for playing with it, but I'd feel bad for advertising it without a disclaimer.